How to Go from Invisible to Credible at Work: Invest in Yourself & Stop Using Diminishing Language

Do you find yourself getting passed over for a promotion time and time again even though you have all the technical skills needed and you’re reaching all your targets?

Maybe you’ve even heard this feedback before:

 “You have all the technical expertise we need, you just don’t have that leadership presence we’re looking for.”

This can be so FRUSTRATING!

But, it doesn’t have to be this way…

You can go from INVISIBLE to CREDIBLE at work.

While there are systemic issues that prevent women from getting ahead in the workplace, we need to do everything we can to show up in our power and get recognized for our talents at work. 

Kisha Wynter, our guest on episode 80 of the podcast, is a leadership consultant, executive coach, and trailblazer in women's leadership strategy. As the visionary founder and CEO of Wynter Rich Enterprises, she has a rich track record of developing and training leaders in over 50 countries. Kisha is the author of Your Power Unleashed, based on her company's proprietary framework, The Diva Method.

So, in this newsletter, we’re sharing two essential steps you need to take to go from invisible to credible at work:

1. Don’t Wait for an Organization to Invest in You, Invest in Yourself
2. Stop Using Diminishing Language

Listen to the episode or scroll down to read one of the highlights of our conversation ↓

1) Don’t Wait for an Organization to Invest in You, Invest in Yourself

At one point in her corporate career when she was struggling, Kisha realized that she did not personally have the tools to deal with everything she was experiencing.

Through a personal development workshop, she learned about coaching.

“After going through coaching myself for a year, I realized the transformational power of being coached and the strategies that can help you, which is different from therapy.” - Kisha Wynter

She emphasizes that you can't wait for the organization to invest in you. You’ve got to figure out how to invest in yourself.

People will spend thousands of dollars on an expensive handbag but won’t pay $500 for coaching for their career where they are spending the majority of their work hours.

How does that bag help you achieve your goals?

There are a lot of women who listen to the podcast who have achieved a lot of amazing things but are probably feeling unfulfilled in some way or navigating a transition.

“Because of their time, 15 years, 10 years, seven years in corporate, they assume that they know themselves. We only know the version of ourselves that was accepted in that space. [...] You don't truly know yourself until you reflect parts of yourself to someone else and they give you feedback.” - Archita Fritz

As a result of coaching, not only did Kisha build confidence which allowed her to build her business, but it also helped her to build her brand.

“I started to do things like speakers training. I joined an organization that helped me to develop my speaking skills.” - Kisha Wynter

This allowed her to present confidently at work events where executives were also presenting. She presented so well that people asked her how she did it.

“It wasn’t an accident. I invested in myself because I wasn't chosen to be invested in by you. But guess what? I get to pick me. You don't have to pick me, but I pick myself.” - Kisha Wynter

Kisha emphasizes that if you are not getting what you need from your organization, you need to access these resources on your own.

Kisha is talking about personal accountability and while you can address systemic issues, you also need to figure out what you are going to do for yourself.

“Decide that you are your best investment and invest in yourself and go advocate for yourself.” - Kisha Wynter

If your company has a program specifically to develop high-potential leaders, tell them you want to take part in it.

“If your company doesn't have something, go find one and ask them to invest. And even if they don't, you do it yourself, figure it out.” - Kisha Wynter 

2) Stop Using Diminishing Language

Kisha explains that women are scared of being viewed as aggressive when they use powerful language. Whereas men are viewed as leaders when they use this same language.

“We diminish our own selves. We diminish our language.” - Kisha Wynter

This causes women to not come across as people in authority or true experts. She emphasizes that we need to take diminishing language out of our vocabulary.

Kisha shares some examples of diminishing language:

• “Maybe”
• “If”
• “Please”
• “Sorry”
• “I think”
• “I believe”
• “I don't want to bother you, but”
• “If it's not too much to ask”

You can find this Diminishing Language Cheat Sheet on Kisha’s website.

Kisha shared one of her favorite expressions from Lisa Nichols:

“I like me and I choose me. So if you like me, that is icing on the cake.” -  Lisa Nichols

Olivia questions why we are afraid of being labeled as aggressive.

“There's different kinds of leadership, certainly. But depending on your own style, just because somebody calls you aggressive does not mean you should shrink from that. Straighten your aggressive crown and keep on strutting girl.” - Olivia Cream

There is so much fear around the word aggressive especially as black women.

“The reality is that there are a lot of people out there, a lot of men that are out there owning their voice and being assertive and it's very respected.” - Kisha Wynter

Kisha explains that people shy away from being assertive because of the implications of it and the potential backlash they may receive but she emphasizes that we have to push back against that system.

“I would argue the backlash is going to come whether you like it or not, so pick your backlash.” - Olivia Cream

To hear the full conversation with Kisha Wynter on the Embracing “Only” Podcast, scroll up and hit play – or click here and tune into episode 80.

Ready to make a change?

We’re passionate about bringing extraordinary guests to Embracing “Only” so listeners can see what’s possible, feel inspired and empowered, and most of all, feel motivated to take action and make moves that will get them closer to their goals.

If you’re still listening, you’re probably an “only” in your workplace or field of work. And you have two paths ahead of you:

1. You work in the corporate workspace, you want to continue your journey, but learn how to thrive and grow in that environment as an “only;”
2. You have made the decision to leave the corporate workplace, but you don’t know how to make the transition or what that next step is.

If you’re #1, Olivia Grant-Cream can equip you with the tools and strategies to thrive. Connect with Olivia on LinkedIn to learn how you can excel in your current role and make your mark. More info at oliviacream.com. 

Set your sights on a place higher than your eyes can see. 

If you’re #2, Archita Sivakumar Fritz can guide you through a successful transition. Reach out to Archita on LinkedIn for support in launching your entrepreneurial journey and embracing new challenges. More info at readysetbold.com. 

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DM Olivia or Archita today and take the next step in your career!

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