How to Handle Nerves When Speaking In Public

Do you feel a flutter of nerves before stepping onto the stage or speaking in front of a crowd? What, you are human?? Even the most seasoned speakers experience pre-speech jitters. While we may think that those butterflies are a bad thing, they may, in fact, just be reminding us how excited we are to share our message. The trick is getting those butterflies in formation, to work for us rather than against us.

Here are some effective strategies to help you overcome nervousness and speak with confidence:

1. Preparation is Key

The more prepared you are the less room there is for anxiety. Start by thoroughly researching your topic and organizing your material in a logical flow. Practice your speech multiple times, both alone and in front of a small, supportive audience. Familiarity with your content will boost your confidence. But don't over-rehearse or you may sound too slick and inauthentic. You are not a politician - you don't need a stump speech.

2. Visualization Techniques

Visualization is a powerful tool used by many successful speakers. Close your eyes and imagine yourself delivering a flawless speech. Remember the audience wants you to succeed! Picture the audience reacting positively, applauding, and engaging with your message. This mental rehearsal can help set a positive tone for your actual performance.

3. Breathing Exercises

Nervousness often leads to shallow breathing, which can make you feel even more anxious. Practice deep breathing exercises to calm your nerves. Take a slow, deep breath in through your nose, hold it for a few seconds, and then exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat this several times to help relax your body and mind.

4. Positive Self-Talk

Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Instead of thinking, "I'm going to mess up," remind yourself, "I am well-prepared and capable." Focus on how you are adding value to the audience. Focus on connection! Positive self-talk can significantly reduce anxiety and boost your confidence.

5. Engage with Your Audience

Engaging with your audience can help alleviate nervousness. Start with a smile and make eye contact. Ask questions or encourage participation to create a more interactive and relaxed atmosphere. When you feel a connection with your audience, your anxiety will diminish. I always try to meet attendees before I speak to start relationship building even before I get on the stage. I often will weave those pre-show conversations into my speech.

6. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation and grounding exercises, can help you stay present and focused. Spend a few minutes before your speech to center yourself. Pay attention to your surroundings, your breathing, and the present moment. This can help reduce anxiety and improve your overall performance. Take a moment to savour this wonderful moment

7. Learn from Each Experience

Every speaking opportunity is a chance to learn and grow. The speech is never done. After your speech, take some time to reflect on what went well and what could be improved. Constructive feedback and self-reflection will help you become a more confident and effective speaker over time.

Bottom line though - have fun with it all! If you are having fun, your audience will probably enjoy it that much more.

What are some of the ways you calm your nerves before you speak?