How I Became a Marriage Repair Expert

How did I become a marriage repair expert?

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly how to reclaim the love, passion, and connection in your marriage - even if you think it's over. That defining moment in my life happened in 2009.

I'd been counseling couples and families for nearly 14 years when I started to notice a disturbing trend. The statistics for happily married couples weren't budging. Divorce rates were still skyrocketing and now, in the wake of the worst financial collapse in history, people were staying together because it was too expensive to get divorced or because it wasn’t compatible with their faith beliefs.

I got into this field because I was a child of divorce. Not just one - but between my mother and father – several!

I had made up my mind early in my life that I didn't want other children to be in broken homes if it could be helped. I was so passionate about it that I studied it in school, got licensed, and now had a budding marriage and therapy practice.

I loved the opportunity of helping couples experience as much joy, connection, and happiness as the day they said "I do" especially when two people show up to fight for their marriage.

But truthfully, there had been moments when I, too, had to fight for my marriage. There were moments when my life mirrored what my clients were going through - too many busy days, not enough connection, not having two people fighting for it while navigating my own faith practices and roles in the confusion.

And now, too many couples were coming to my practice where the therapy wasn't working. I was so devastated that I thought I might stop working with married couples altogether.

All I kept saying to myself was: “Do couples just fall out of love? Is it true that marriages CAN last a lifetime? Do people just naturally grow apart? How is it possible, after years of marriage, to find romance again with the same partner? Are there times marriages can’t or shouldn’t be restored?"

I made a decision right then and there that I was going to figure out this whole “marriage recovery thing,” this process that would allow married couples to be as in love as the day they said "I Do" - even if it killed me!

At that very moment, I made a commitment to immerse myself in absolutely everything that had to do with success: I researched the marriage repair interventions and found the one working! I went to the cutting-edge location and was trained - over 100 hours. I entered into my Ph.D. program, incorporated the spiritual component of this intervention, and even conducted the research to test this model scientifically for my dissertation! Talk about a turnaround! I made my intention to become the best marriage expert in the country, especially for Christian couples.

I presented my research results around the country at conferences and training. I began seeing more and more couples, even providing an intensive format so couples from all over the country could get relief and major results of what was once a four to six-month process in weekly/biweekly traditional outpatient therapy - now in just two days. Couples were coming in hopeless and leaving happy and in love again. I had gone from feeling helpless to seeing incredible results! I felt I was fulfilling my purpose! My practice was thriving with word-of-mouth referrals.

I watched their relationships come back to life, their sense of connection deepens, and their confidence with each other and their future SOAR too! I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other married couples rediscover that the love of their life is very possibly the person they said yes to once upon a time. I teach them to break through their inner blocks, heal wounds of the recent or long-ago past to have the Christian-based marriage of unending love, commitment, fun, and passion they always wanted and have dreamed of since their wedding day and as God designed.

Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients and spoken in front of countless groups. I have created The Marriage Momentum Program highlighting the Marriage Made Whole Intensive™ system, a series of 10 important inner and outer steps every married couple needs to apply to get out of their own way and live their own version of happily ever after in record time. If this sounds like something you would be interested in, I would love to get on a call with you! You can book a free consultation call here. If you’re unsure, come join me for my free marriage webinar beginning May 9! This will be a great chance for you to get to know more about what I did, gain some tools to go deeper in your relationship and hear from couples who have been through my program. You can learn more here. I look forward to getting to know you!