How to Trust Yourself and Take on the World.

We have read several times that the biggest enemy you have is, actually, yourself. But what if you the conquered that enemy - yourself - what would stand in your way to achieving anything you want in life? I don't claim to be an expert in matters life, career, etc etc... but hey! You will want to read these.

Honour your word. When you follow through with what you said you would, you earn your own trust. When you know that you can follow through, that you can get things done, and you can rely on yourself, then you know you’ve got all it takes, because ALL IT TAKES IS YOU! If you want to start your MBA in September, make sure you start it.

Defy your comfort zone. You have no idea how resilient you are until you make it a point to know. You have no idea how quickly or how well you can respond to things you never thought you’d be able to. You can't know if you stay in your comfort zone. I was talking to a guy who got fired some months ago, now he has started a business he had sat on for years with an office in Nairobi. He told me "when you leave the comfort zone, and there are no options left, you sit and work."

Put yourself to Pressure. Humans want to be safe, certain and secure. But being able to perform under pressure is one of the most effective ways to trust yourself. Expose yourself to pressure. For example, accept responsibilities that are above you at work, and you will grow faster.

Don't Fear Rejection. Growing up, us boys would watch on in glee as the rest of the guys enjoyed times of their lives with girls when we went for events. Why? Because we feared the rejection of elusive girls. But what did that get us instead? Boring funkies. What if instead of avoiding rejection, we developed a “bring it on” attitude? That would essentially eliminate the fear of being rejected.The real truth is that rejection cannot hurt you unless we want it to. Do not reject yourself in order to avoid being rejected by others.

Be curious. Do you know your limits? What if you manned up and applied for the CEO position or started that business... would you hack it? Don't hesitate to find out. Stop thinking, “I’m not sure if I can do that,” or “I’ve never done that before, so…” Instead, approach your situations with the genuine curiosity of "Just how good can I be? Let me find out."

Be like a child. The belief that we need experience in order to be self-confident did not exist within us as children. Everything was new to us and we weren’t scared to try the things we were interested in. Remember how you learned how to walk. You didn't brainstorm over whether you could or not; you would walk, fall, get up again and repeat this cycle time and time again until you could walk. We did not approach anything with hesitation or self-doubt. Release the fear that you have been taught and reclaim this lost mindset.

Don't avoid any emotion. Research has it that we avoid situations to avoid the feelings if things go wrong. We refuse to invest because we fear how we will feel if we lose the money. When you trust in yourself that you are able to bounce back from sadness, disappointment, frustration, depression and any other difficult emotions, then you can enter any situation with confidence... and redirect your energy better.

Be a better you.

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