Listen, so that others love to speak to you

People like to be heard. Most of us have the habit of just hearing. There is a difference. When you listen to someone, give them your attention. There might be insecurities troubling them which they want to share with you or anything like that. A good listener is the one who listens, processes and understands.

I am also in process of improving this skill. Earlier i didn't care much about what other person has to say, I just waited for my turn to reply. I think I am improving now. I let them complete their part thereby controlling my urge to reply in between. This builds good relation and trust.

We all mostly agree, that we are living a fast, busy and a kind of crazy live. Isn't it? Therefore, if someone answer to the question with yes, deep in his great and good soul is lying, at least so!! Believe me! So this was just an educated suggestion. Now honestly for myself.

I listen extremely carefully, when the conversation is about my job, my money, my family and everything else connected to these. Even when we speak about uninteresting stuff for the moment, if I think it's going to be important in the future I am going to be a great listener. But if I decide it's not point of interest I just use to play and act interested, but actually I don't listen st all.

In a world as large and strange as this, it may feel as though thousands of other voices drown out your own. Many people walk around with many jumbled emotions and secrets twisted inside, and some may not feel certain about who to share it with. Regardless of a person’s reputation or appearance, I normally do my best to listen to them so that they feel appreciated and respected. I want people to realise that they can tell me anything, and I will do my best to offer them love and support.

I don’t want them to walk away, feeling as though their words were swept away into the air. I want them to know that their voices have settled into my heart. For some reason, many people easily trust me and confess secrets that they haven’t told others. They tell me that I feel safe, so I listen. I don’t want to tear down that feeling of safety. It wouldn’t be fair to them.

It can become easy to focus on yourself and forget about the voices around you that yearn to be heard. There are many selfish people who only want to listen to themselves, so I think it’s important to offer a listening ear whenever possible. When a person realises that you’re truly there to listen, it may lead to deeper conversations and a stronger connection

But I also believe that we should not judge the outcome that this person is going to say this only, before he says. Be unbiased and listen fully. Then respond responsibly. But in this process don't become so available that people dump their trash onto you. If you can help or advice do that. Empathy and sympathy are important. But that doesn't mean you make yourself completely negative or drain yourself. But there are some people who only speaks negative or gossips or complain. Don't involve yourself. Don't let people treat you as a dustbin.

And you too, don't keep on blabbering about your pain or your knowledge. No one is actually interested listening. I am an active listener, in fact if anything, a listener to a fault. What I mean is, I listen to everything, even when I shouldn’t be listening. I am constantly while listening trying to figure out what is underlying the feelings and motivations of the person speaking, as well as trying to determine if what they are saying is the truth or a lie.

My inbred listening habit has gotten to the point of annoyance, in fact and conversely, I am also just as capable of tuning someone out entirely. I have finally started to ask people to please say my name first if they are talking to me, otherwise I will assume they are not talking to me, and I will tune them out. This is my self-preservation mode really speaking.

When I am working or reading, whatever, I want to be able to tune everyone out so I can concentrate on what I’m doing. I think it’s really rude when someone starts talking to me but does not indicate clearly to me that they are talking to me. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre