Love needs only those expressions of emotions

Love is an expression of physical and emotional human needs. It's that “just” word I have a problem with. We are human. We live in skin. We have needs that are important. Those needs must be recognized and satisfied. Those needs must be recognized and will be satisfied, ideally in an appropriate way. I believe the more you choose to deny your needs by calling them “just” anything, the less likely you will be too satisfy them appropriately. 

I'm by no means a philosopher but I'll do as best I can, having experienced what I thought and felt was love at the time I could say it's just a want and need drawn from insecurities but as I'm thinking about it now the want and need was for that one person I was in said relationship with yes she was beautiful but probably I would be saying that because I loved her I've had other women that others would probably consider more beautiful but I never loved them, I've had women since the end of said relationship but I still find myself comparing them to that woman and even being with someone else I find myself still wanting her, not sure why it's just the feeling I had whilst I was with her.

I'm with a woman now that says she loves me and I'm grateful for that but grateful really?? I should want to be happy with that and want to reciprocate those feelings, even though I know I'll never get back with the woman I love I find it hard to be in love with someone else I respect and care for her but that's it. So what I'm trying to say in answer to this waffle is that love is a true feeling one of giving and once you find that true love it's hard to stop loving them not through insecurity need or want but through happiness love and euphoria the feelings you have with a person you love are very difficult to replicate with another person just through the need of being loved and wanting to be loved.

I may at some point be happy with the woman I'm with now, but I know I will never love her as I did my ex that's not being negative it's just how it is I don't pretend anything different with my woman now but I don't try to rekindle what me and my ex had either it probably was my true love or whatever but it's gone now. So to me because of how I feel about my ex I think love is real. Hope this was understandable to all. Actually it is one of the chemicals like testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, adrenaline, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin. ever heard of the “honeymoon phase”. that is when a lot of them chemicals and neurotransmitters are in full gear - and then they go away as the relationship goes on. be friends with your partner, people!

psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone. research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather 55% is through body language, 38% is the tone and speed of your voice and only 7% is the way you say it. There are supposedly three stages of love. stage 1: lust. this is the first stage of love and the stage that is driven by those sex hormones mentioned above - in both men and women. stage 2: attraction. this is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage, and here is what they do. adrenaline: the initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. this has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.

Dopamine: this chemical stimulates the “desire and reward” by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine! lovers will have increased energy, less need for sleep or food and be very focused on attention and exquisite delight in the smallest details of the new relationship. Serotonin: one of love’s most important chemicals, and explains why when you are falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts. Stage 3: attachment. this is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. the two major hormones involved in this stage are oxytocin and vasopressin.

Oxytocin is the “cuddle hormone”. it is the hormone released by both sexes during orgasm. the theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes. this is also the hormone that seems to help cement the strong bond between a mom and her baby and is released during childbirth. it is responsible for a mom’s breast automatically releasing milk at the mere sight or sound of her baby. Vasopressin: this hormone is released after sex, known as the anti-diuretic hormone. studies have shown that when this hormone is suppressed, partners lost their devotion to one another. in other words, it deepens the bond between partners. So how do you fall in love? find a complete stranger. reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour. then, stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for four minutes…Cheers!