May I interrupt?

Thank you!

Professional coaches know that listening skills and silences usefully create open spaces for clients and partners to explore, expand, create and become. Listening and silences are often good indicators of a productive dialogue.

Interrupting skills, however, are also of the utmost importance. Interruption is needed when facing obsessionally unproductive behaviors, analytical discussions and other similar postponing strategies. Interruption in coaching aims to stop reiterated routines enacted by stuck individuals, repetitious patterns unknowingly deployed by groups and leaders.

Consider indeed that useless circular behaviors, limiting frames of reference, totally predictable thoughts and actions that relentlessly lead towards the same unsuccessful results desperately need to be interrupted.

• When interruptions ultimately allow for change, they are said to take courage. When they don't rapidly achieve such liberating outcomes, they often provoke impatience based on fear of the future, and are considered to be too disruptive.

So knowing how to really interrupt can be salutary. Real interruptions first provide new spaces and silence. Interruptions offer us the option to stop just filling our lives with the same old thinking and behaving patterns. They suggest we take the time to delve deeper in order to make room for real innovation to gradually emerge.

Obviously in relationships, interruptions should not be immediately followed by quick solutions, contrary options, counter arguments, rebuttals or escalation into other predictable loops that feed ongoing discussions. Interruptions are to be followed by silence and empty spaces. All partners need to stop and take the time to innovate together.

• The etymology of the word interrupt means to break in the middle. Interruptions are therefore stand-alone proposals, opportunities for disruption in the middle of a discussion, of a relationship, of a project.

To offer a simple and practical example, the need for this article has been present to me for at least twenty-four hours. But I have had many other occupations or preoccupations. As a matter of fact, I am typically a totally preoccupied person. Even doing nothing is a form of occupation I enjoy. Consequently, to find the time to write an article, I first have to interrupt all my other activities.

_ »May I interrupt? »

I first have to stop everything in order to make new space, then sit down and write. This creates an uncomfortable void: a blank page, an unclear direction, a mental chaos. In this void lurks my shadows, my doubts, my questioning. Interruptions disrupt. Then, slowly, painstakingly, I start writing a few words. They become a phrase. Another phase follows. Gradually, I find momentum. An optional direction emerges. A paragraph follows another, and a new text or maybe an innovative article can slowly surface. This creative process very gradually fills the empty space initially created by my interruption. And my readiness to face uncertainty.

• If we don’t first interrupt our routines, innovation is impossible.

A political perspective:

On the international scene, the profound nature of the recent Brexit vote and US elections could be perceived as major interruptions. They obviously cause space for disruption. This is not a first occurrence. Prior smaller-scale attemps at interruptions were called the Arab Spring, Occupy Wall-Street, the Indignados on Piazza del Sol, the Icelandic bailout refusals, etc. For years now and world wide, endless calls for necessary interruptions have been voiced by grassroots movements. The most destructively disruptive interruption in the Middle East is probably the ISIS uprizing.

All over the world, mainstream party politicians, the establishment, the elites, have just not been heeding a swelling phenomenon. In the past ten years, beyond Labour and Tory, Republicans and Democrats, military and religion, all forms of exit votes and actions have repeatedly aimed to interrupt established politics, controlling centralized administrations, brainwashing media, top-down militarism, colonialist exploitation of the masses.

• More than for change within the same logic, apparently unpredictable and uncontrollable grass-root uprisings and votes have relentlessly called for game-changing interruptions that may allow for new emerging options and solutions.

Today, a majority of western electors just want to put a stop to promises they have heard before. They are tired of seeing and hearing the same copy-paste ruling dynasties, media, political parties, financial interests, etc. all reiterate a similar frame of reference while pretending to aim for innovative results. 

Loud and clear, voters are saying: _ « May I interrupt?... Stop talking down, stop taking up all the space and start listening! You need to reconsider. Start listening to us and to our real needs in this fast-changing world. »

Ironically, both the Boris Brexit and Trump votes have taken the right-wing winners by surprise. And the French Macron election has disrupted both the Right and Left. The Tories, the Republicans and the traditional parties in France were very far from expecting such an interrupting outcome. Now that it is here, the old guard really doesn't know what to do with it. If it could only go back to how it was before! In fact Western conservative parties are just as interrupted as their Labour, Democrat and Socialist bedfellows. Who really knows how to deal with a Brexit, a wild Trump or non aligned Macron card? In all these cases, the political game is in a void, poised for unexpected emerging change. Everyone has to hustle to create a new game, for indeed, the old one has been interrupted.

Note in passing that the US Democrats have missed their opportunity for disruption. They refused to allow space for their own trump card represented by Bernie. Bernie also, wasn’t strong enough to disrupt the Democrat machine. The way Donald maneuvered to undermine the Republican establishment.

• Consequently today, Trump and Bernie could be rather obvious game-changing allies!

So an ewuivalent to the preceeding Arab Spring has finally hit the Western World in a big way. One country at a time, notice the domino effect. Gradually, predictably, we are all standing interrupted. 

NOW WHAT?

Voids are there to be filled. At first, there are no pre-planned innovative solutions. Real interruptions are not immediately filled with a clear set of coherent, reassuring solutions. The Icelandic experience illustrates possible courageous game-changing emerging processes that can only be possible after a real interruption:

• A brutal shutdown from the international scene.
• That shutdown made space for an internal crackdown on all corrupt political and financial profiteers.
• This cleanup was followed by several years of painful economic downsizing, in order to gradually develop new sustainable economic foundations.
• This now allows for an ongoing search for innovative options in order to define a new social contract, a new political system really run by the people. Almost a new constitution!

Very often, following an interruption, chaos comes first. To really interrupt, one must be poised to accept the uncertainty that must follow!

Previous Arab Spring movements illustrate more difficult outcomes. These are caused by our fear of real interruptions. In the Middle East, voids were too rapidly filled by extremist whiplashes and various forms of violence. Military crackdown and/or religious fanaticism are two ways to reinstate historical feudal power and quell emerging aspirations. Clearly reactionary, this is not an interruption. It is just more of the same thing, an extreme form of escalation within the same right-left, self-destructive polarity. Not a game changing option. Just temporizing and often rather bloody.

In politically polarized western systems such as Greece, maybe Spain, street riots, labor unions revolts and grass-root upheavals regularly flare in the face of the same-old proposed government solutions. Even when the latter could be planting seeds for innovative futures. 

• Not enough dialogue within a consistently top-down approach pushed by old-school politicians and technocrats may be a way to avoid a real interruptions. No matter the solution, innovating futures need to be built with dialogue.

In other centralized Western ex-colonialist countries, witness England, France, the US, and their rampant racial intolerance and xenophobia directed against handy scapegoats. Violence can surface with a vengeance. Should this take place in gun-toting populations such as in the US, we can expect quite a heavy death count.

Social and political interruptions are also felt as personal and internal.  Individuals feel anger and confusion, sadness, regrets, fear, sometimes panic. These are all predictable, maybe necessary emotions when real interruptions provoke disruption. This is how we handle separation and mourning processes in our lives. Consequently, these emotional reactions are clear indications that we could all be moving towards radical shifts in perspectives, world-views, or frames of references. 

Social and economic chaos creates both uncertainty and opportunity.

We need to find the courage to move forward, of course. For indeed, out of chaos can arise new life, unforeseeable opportunities, real innovation. Consider several useful strategies to be deployed when interruptions provoke predictable mourning processes:

• One needs to be extremely attentive to details in order to separate real information from noise, to foster positive future-oriented solutions, to avoid giving in to anger or the « darker side of the Force ».  
• Anger is extremely powerful energy that can be quickly wasted when directed against an opponent. This just serves to fortify the opponent! All personal and collective energy needs to be clearly, firmly, relentlessly directed towards the elaboration and achievement of win-win-win, sustainable solutions.
• As one moves on, our fears indicate the need to proceed slowly, cautiously, one small step at a time, never loosing sight of the inner direction, of the longer-term horizon. 
• Sadness indicates our need to take excellent care of ourselves and of each other, while proceeding forward. This needs to be done collectively, humanly, tenderly, respectfully.
• Learning to accept complexity is the foundation of inclusive dialogue. We need to avoid simplistic solutions pushed by strong, convinced, inspirational or messianic leaders. Those are egos of the past. They are not game-changing
• Obviously, proceeding with joy is an excellent indicator that we are on the right path.

It seems the coaching profession has been and will be accompanying people, teams and organizations in this worldwide and long-term, societal transformation process. That is our purpose.

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