Meditation of the Day - Interpersonal Tensions.

21rst century professionnal lives bring interpersonal tensions on a daily basis: Bossy bosses, difficult relationships with colleagues, demanding customers, etc...

Meditation brings us the opportunituy to "write a new emotional line code" as I recently mentioned to a colleague I had a tension with. What does that mean? For me at least, It means the following: Before I started meditation 10 years ago, ifacing a tension where I could feel injustice and disrespect against me, I would have done the following.

First, I would have tried to gather some evidence to prove bullying against me from that person. As a lawyer, I know the power of evidence and have no problem to go to court.

Second, I would have tried to gather colleagues against him/her, demonstrating how awful this person has been to me.

Third, I would have kept anger hidden inside of me for as long as necessary to grab the fist opportunity to made this person redundant.

Optionally, I could decide not to work anymore and create buzz until my problem was addressed and this person punished in a way or another

Since I am meditating the following may (or not...)occur int he same sitaution:

I keep emotion for myself for a short time needed to process the emotions. A Non violent communication mediation process has proven to be very efficient if the other person has also lasting negative feeling against me.

Writing the new emotional line code includes observing myself being emotional and still feeling that another part of myself is calm and happy anyway.

Then listen to the emotional part, listen to my sadness and my fears for a short silent meditaiton time.

And then observe my whole being aknwoledging that a part of my is still slightly unhappy with the situation but the rest is fine.

Moreover, I realized that what made me unhappy in the other person behaviour has two strong meanings for me.

The first is that I am allergic to the value this behaviour reveals in this person, unveiling at the same time a strong core value in myself. If I react to injustice so strong, my desire of justice must be strong.

The second is that what I am allergice to reveal something in me that I do not want to see. If I cannot stand bossy people, it is also perhaps I can be very bossy & dominating myself, and take the commitment to pay attention to that part of myself.

All this comes automatically, you just have to meditate fo a shosrt 15-20' period of time , twice a day preferably. And then celebrate the consciousness step with friends and your former "enemy" also, that one who taugh you so much that you can be very grateful to him/her.

Have a peaceful day.

FRED