The Myth of Obstacles

Everybody is afraid.

We are afraid of uncertainty. We are afraid of obstacles and potential failures.

But what would happen, if we knew that obstacles don’t exist and that our greatest potential waits for us right next to that belief?

I'm Catherine B. Roy, a Business and Personal Growth Coach with a client base in 30 countries. I'm the founder of LHM International, bestselling author, and multi-awarded Thought Leader. My work is published in media outlets all around the world and I’ve been featured at countless events.

But, what I love the most is the fact that I do what I love. I am the creator of my own life.

That’s how my life is today. And it may seem easy for me to say or sum it up, now. But let me tell you the truth: It wasn’t always easy. There was a time in my life when I felt completely lost, insecure and afraid.

There was a time in my life when I saw more darkness than light.

I remember that day, back in 1999. I was rushing to school very happy and energized because my first scientific work was just published! I was only 17 years old, a talented kid who was selected to go to the science center and work on science projects with college professors. It was the experience of a lifetime for me and I wanted to share that with my friends!

I walked into our classroom and I saw our teacher and my friends standing in absolute silence. They looked like they were frozen. Their faces had no other expressions than shock mixed with fear.

Our teacher told us that we need to go to our homes because the bombing of our country, is going to start that evening.

My heart started to beat very fast.

I felt deep fear.

I remember walking home, not seeing anything or anyone but feeling completely lost.

I walked into my living room and I saw my family.

My mom was crying.

My granny was crying.

My brother was crying.

My father and grandfather had serious expressions on their faces while smoking cigarettes in silence.

They were watching the news on TV and what our teacher told us was the TRUTH.

But, I couldn’t believe it.

Why would anyone do something like that?

I was born in former Yugoslavia, a beautiful country that does not exist anymore.

The civil war was on the field for almost a decade in other regions of the country. We experienced poverty because of the economic sanctions, uncertainty, fear…

But, somehow I was hoping the bombing will not happen. I was just 17 years old. I just started my life. I didn’t know exactly what was happening in Yugoslavia.

I am lovely and kind by nature and for sure I didn’t harm anyone, why would anyone harm me?

Why would anyone put a human being in a hopeless position like that!?

I was hoping the bombing will not happen.

But it did happen.

I remember that same evening, my mom and my granny were taking blankets, just water, and bread, and running with my brother and me to an underground shelter which was in the basement of the nearby hotel.

I was standing there with so many other known and unknown people who were so afraid. Some were holding their children trying to comfort them and waiting for what was going to happen, next.

Those who were more brave were stepping out from the basement looking at the sky and trying to figure out if it is a star or a plane that is going to throw bombs and finish our lives.

The basement was cold, dark, and dirty. We had only basic food and water. We were hardly sleeping. Doing our best to keep our minds busy somehow and not lose our mental health.

I remember two different horn sounds. One was announcing danger is over and we can go out. Every time I saw sunlight I was grateful and just hoped my home is still there.

Another sound was warning us that danger is coming and all we could see is people running back to shelter.

This agony lasted for 78 days.  

Those were the moments when I realized that someone can take control of my life. 

Someone can decide in my name without asking me anything or letting me know the reason why.

Someone can put me in front of the huge life-threatening obstacle of not knowing if I’m going to live the next day.

So, I promised myself, that if I survive I will do my best to create my life and help people create theirs! I will do my best to make this world a much better place, a place surrounded by kindness and love, compassion and empathy, freedom and beauty.

AND MY EXPERIENCE BECAME MY WHY!

I promised myself that I will create a legacy. And my legacy will be every person I help and the heart I touch.

And that I will never go back, not even in my thoughts trying to understand why anyone would do something like that because people can only love us to the capacity they can love themselves.

I said to myself: “Maybe my life is finite but my legacy will be infinite.”

And I did survive.

I wrote my second scientific work under candlelight. I’ve published it, got a national scholarship, finished college, and started working in an international company.

But again, life didn’t cuddle me but sent me many more obstacles:

I had Coxsackie virus back in 2008 and doctors predicted I might live just a year and a half.

I was diagnosed with infertility and had two unsuccessful in vitro fertilisations but I became a mom naturally and promised myself:

"My son will NEVER have to live what I was forced to. I will do whatever it takes to secure safe and free life for him."

I will never accept any obstacle as something I can’t overcome!

I had Covid in November 2020 and again in 2022 and here I am again!

All these obstacles didn’t stop me but made me stronger and I’ve learned how to take my life into my own hands.

So, I've built my own business and I am now featured in so many worldwide media outlets, on so many stages, conferences, summits, and books. I’ve stopped being a follower and became the creator of my own life and I am helping people to do the same by building their own businesses and creating their own lives.

I’ve never felt more joy and happiness in my entire life.

Obstacles don’t exist. Obstacles are a myth. The myth our mind is telling us because its job is to keep us safe. It’s stopping us from growth because growth leads to new, unknown, uncertainty, and back to fear. But the real fear is what I felt in that underground shelter! It’s not like someone will throw a bomb on me on a stage when I am doing my speech.

Obstacles don’t exist. Lessons do.

And we need to learn and grow by embracing our fears and having a firm belief that we can overcome whatever comes our way.

Everybody is afraid. And that’s perfectly fine.

The only thing which is important is your will to transform that fear into creative energy and find new ways to overcome what we call “obstacles”.

Are you willing to question everything you know!? Are you willing to reinvent yourself!? Are you willing to become a creator!? Are you willing to fall and get up over and over again!? Are you willing to experience life not just to survive?

I didn’t come here to give you the answers. I came here to awaken your soul with a lot of right questions.

And I will tell you one thing which is an absolute truth: Obstacles are the myth. You are enough. You can do whatever you set your mind to. And I am living proof of that.

It’s time to stand up, wake up, show up and speak up!

The entire Universe is in our hearts! To expand the Universe, we need just to expand our hearts!  

If my life story touched your heart, inspired, gave you hope, or woke up any good feelings, please share it with anyone who needs to hear it, watch my TEDX talk on this topic on TED.COM or TEDx YouTube, and join me LIVE on all my social media, every Wednesday 1PM EST, 7PM CEST where I will answer your questions to help you grow your business online, do what you love and live SAFE AND FREE.

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Love and Light,

Catherine