Navigate Your Emotions

Do you try to leave your emotions at the door or manage them like you've been taught to do?

I'm sure if you do that, just like me and everybody else, it creates some problems for you.

Well, stick with me because this week I want to dispel some myths and help you do things better.

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, VUCA Leadership and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today I want to continue our conversation around our personal leadership by helping you navigate your emotions.

Like you, I have had these things said to me:

“Stop being emotional."

"Leave your emotions at the door."

"Manage your emotions.”

Unfortunately, these things are not what you want to do at all. You're a human being, and human beings are ‘emotional’ beings. It is what sets us apart from artificial intelligence.

Emotions are designed to give us clues and cues for things happening and around us in our world. Therefore, we are not able to separate from them or leave them outside the door.

As an emotional being, you need to harness and leverage the power of your emotions.

For many years, I too said “Manage your emotions” and this is something that you do not want to do.

When you ‘manage’ your emotions, you suppress, ignore, and try to take control of them. However, since emotions are a natural function of your body, that's definitely not something that you want to do.

What I want to do today is open a conversation around your emotions and help you navigate them in a healthy way. Over the next few weeks, we will look at various elements of your emotional intelligence, which are totally different from your cognitive intelligence and help you take in, retain, and use information. It helps you with the technical skills within your role.

However, because you are an emotional being, working with other emotional beings, you need to develop these emotional and social intelligence skills to have the relationships you need to get the results of working together in harmony and collaboration rather than all this conflict.

So, to start the conversation, I want to dispel some of these myths and help you understand what emotions are and how you navigate them in a healthy way.

Emotions are a physiological cue, a sensation in your body that tells you that something is going on in your world right now.

It's not what happens; it's what you make it mean. If you make that sensation mean something based on your previous experience or what you're thinking about in that moment, then you change your internal dialogue. The thoughts and what you make them mean are psychological. So, that initial sensation that you've now added a narrative around will help you reach a feeling.

A feeling comes out of that psychological interpretation of that initial sensation (emotion).

So, point number one is when you try to ignore your emotions, they're still going to run their course anyway. The second thing is managing the emotion. Most of us are told to manage our emotions. Unfortunately, that does not work.

However, what you do need to manage is that gap — that process — between the emotion and the feeling. It's the psychological, the thought patterns and the internal dialogue are the things that you need to manage.

And that is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

Emotional Intelligence is the ability to be aware of the emotion you're experiencing in the moment and then use that information to manage your behaviour.

It's the management of the response, or in most cases the reaction, to that initial emotion that we want to work on. That's what emotional intelligence is.

Social Intelligence goes beyond yourself to other people. It’s about being aware of what emotions other people could be experiencing in the moment, and using that information to have a healthy dialogue, have empathy and work with other people and understand them so that you can then have a healthy relationship.

So, Emotional Intelligence is extremely important...

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Grant Herbert (aka The People Builder) describes himself as an ordinary guy, with an outstanding wife and 5 amazing kids, who has a passion to help people escape the performance trap and regain their authenticity in every area of life. He is a VUCA Leadership Mentor, Sustainable Performance Coach, Master Coach Trainer in Social and Emotional Intelligence, and the founder of People Builders.

Visit www.grantherbert.com to find out how you can connect.