Nuts and Bolts Career Q&A: How can I conquer Imposter Syndrome?

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The first time I got put in charge of a large project, I was excited. I had finally broken through and earned a leadership position. The next day, I was off with the partner in charge to the construction kickoff meeting. On the train, the partner and I spoke about what I should expect from the meeting. We reviewed the major players, the plan, some challenges I could expect, and then some opportunities to shine. Coming from them, it all sounded rosy. Once we were in the room, things changed quickly. The owner barked orders to the design team. The contractor highlighted several places where work needed to be done for them to start. The utility company demanded that we change aspects of our plans. One hour in, I already felt like I was in too deep.

Does this story sound like something you have experienced before? At that time, I had never heard the expression imposter syndrome before. Turns out, many engineers have experienced this before. Verywellmind.com defines imposter syndrome as “Imposter syndrome is the psychological experience of feeling like a fake or a phony despite any genuine success that you have achieved.” Some estimates say that 70% of people experience imposter syndrome at some point of their life (Gravois, 2007). A teamblind.com survey in 2018 revealed that 58% of tech workers experienced imposter feelings at the time of the survey.

So what is going on here? The people who feel imposter syndrome have done the work. They’ve been validated by others (ie their managers) who entrusted them with their positions. Yet, they still feel uncomfortable. According to PsychologyToday.com, personality traits drive imposter syndrome. Specifically, people who struggle with self-efficacy, neuroticism, and perfectionism are predisposed to feeling like an imposter. Competitive environments also will trigger feeling like an imposter.

Those who do struggle with it face a variety of different symptoms. According to the Cleveland Clinic, they might attribute their success to luck rather than their skills or fear of being seen as a failure. They also might feel that overworking is the only way to meet expectations or that they are unworthy of any attention or affection they do receive. The Cleveland Clinic also refers to other studies that show that imposter syndrome may lead to a drop in job performance and job satisfaction and may increase burnout.

So what can you do if you are feeling imposter syndrome? What has worked for me in the past is to zoom out from your current situation and look at your career experiences. You did not get into your position by fooling anyone or just getting lucky. Think about your past successes and how you were able to achieve them. Following these steps has always helped me to get things into perspective.

There are lots of other great bits of advice out there too! Here are five more tips for getting out of the doldrums of imposter syndrome:

1. Separate Facts from Feelings (Cleveland Clinic) - Remember that imposter syndrome manifests itself in the form of feelings. Think of other times you have overcome challenges. Recognize that in those situations, you needed to learn something new and that you rose to the challenge of doing so.
2. Focus on others (verywellmind.com) - If you come across someone else who also feels imposter syndrome, try to help them. Bring others into the conversation and make them feel welcome. Help them to recognize their strengths and you may find yours as well.
3. Seek out a mentor (Psychologytoday.com) - Find a mentor whom you can ask about times they have struggled in their career. Your mentor could tell you stories of the challenges they faced and how they overcame them. These stories may help you to recognize that learning can make all the difference.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others (careerkarma.com) - When you compare yourself to others, you won’t ever measure up. Measure your achievements not against others, but against where you were before. In doing so, you will be able to see your progress. Focus not on the things you haven’t done, but on those that you have.
5. Limit social media use (verywellmind.com) - Social media can supercharge imposter syndrome in two ways. You will instantly see other people’s achievements, which you might compare yourself to (see #4). Second, if you are portraying yourself as something you are not, that may intensify your feelings of being an imposter.

Back to my story of being a first-time project manager. I felt like I was in too deep and that I wouldn’t be capable of delivering. But, while we were at the kickoff meeting, I took lots of notes on the feedback I was receiving from the other stakeholders. I took that feedback and translated it into a long to-do list. Little by little, the team and I knocked items off that list. As I saw it grow shorter, I started to regain my confidence that I could be successful. Dwelling on the imposter feeling did not help me move forward. But focusing on small steps moved the project forward and got me out of the imposter rut.

I hope these tips have been helpful to you!

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