One-Pager: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome - a self-coaching approach.

The Inner Voice of Doubt: Jamie’s Journey

Jamie sat at their desk, staring at the email on the screen. “Congratulations on being chosen to lead the project!” it read. But instead of celebrating, Jamie felt a tightening in their chest. Do they know what they’re doing? What if I mess this up? Jamie's thoughts spiralled as their confidence ebbed away, despite years of hard work and dedication. This wasn’t the first time they'd felt this way. Every new challenge brought the same overwhelming fear that they were out of their depth—that soon enough, someone would discover they weren’t as competent as they seemed.

Over the next few days, Jamie's productivity dropped. They spent hours second-guessing their decisions and imagining worst-case scenarios. Physically, their shoulders tensed, sleep eluded them, and their mind raced with thoughts of failure. Emotionally, they felt disconnected, anxious, and incapable, even as colleagues congratulated them on the new opportunity.

One afternoon, Jamie confided in a friend, who immediately identified the problem: “Jamie, that’s #impostersyndrome .” Together, they talked about the way these fears, while real, didn’t match Jamie’s actual abilities. Her friend challenged Jamie to look at the evidence. "What about all the successful projects you've completed? What about the clients who love your work?"

Jamie took a step back and looked through past achievements—those same results that had earned Jamie this role in the first place. As Jamie began listing them, the gap between Jamie's fears and reality started to become clearer. Jamie realised that while they felt unworthy, their results told a different story.

But it wasn’t enough just to recognise the pattern. Jamie had to take action. Over the next few weeks, Jamie adopted a new approach:

1. Writing down accomplishments—big and small—to ground yourself in the facts whenever the doubt returned.
2. Analysing the gaps in knowledge without self-criticism—Jamie allowed themself to be a learner, not an imposter.
3. Focusing on their mission—instead of worrying about being perfect, Jamie reminded themself of why they started their career in the first place: to help others with their skills.

Jamie’s journey wasn’t instant, but with each step, they noticed their fears shrinking. Jamie reframed their thoughts, reminding themself that new challenges are meant to stretch us, not prove our inadequacy. And when imposter syndrome crept back, Jamie had the tools to confront it head-on.

The Breakdown: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

Why is overcoming imposter syndrome important to self-coach? Imposter syndrome can rob you of #selfconfidence and limit your potential. By continuously doubting your abilities, you may hold back from opportunities, undercharge for your services, or take on work that doesn’t align with your true strengths. Learning to self-coach through imposter syndrome helps you align your mindset with reality, allowing you to act from a place of self-assurance and purpose.

The implications of self-coaching through imposter syndrome: When you successfully self-coach, you stop letting doubt dictate your actions. This leads to:

• Better decision-making based on facts rather than fear.
• Stronger resilience in challenging situations.
• Increased self-worth and confidence.
• Greater alignment with your purpose and mission.

How the BE Elements affect imposter syndrome:

• Safety: Imposter syndrome often arises when we don’t feel secure. Fear of being exposed can trigger anxiety, leading to defensive or avoidant behaviour.
• Gain and Loss: Perceived gains (like recognition or promotion) can feel undeserved, while the fear of loss (failure or judgment) intensifies self-doubt.
• Clarity and Confusion: Confusion about one's abilities fuels imposter syndrome. A lack of clarity in recognising achievements amplifies self-doubt.
• Self and Ego: Imposter syndrome ties directly to our self-image. The ego clings to perfectionism or unrealistic standards, making failure feel personal.

Self-Coaching Questions

Being Purposeful

1. What is my role in this situation, and why was I chosen for it?
2. How does this new challenge align with my long-term goals and purpose?
3. What is the greater mission I’m contributing to by stepping up in this role?

Being Mind/Body Aware

1. What physical reactions (e.g., tension, fatigue) am I experiencing, and how might they be tied to imposter syndrome?
2. How does my environment (workspace, relationships) support or challenge my confidence?
3. How can I cultivate calmness and presence through breath or mindfulness exercises?

Being Accountable

1. What specific doubts am I holding on to, and are they based on fact or fear?
2. How can I own both my strengths and my areas for growth without judgment?
3. In what ways can I take responsibility for managing these feelings of inadequacy?

Being Resourceful

1. What resources (feedback, evidence, support) can I use to counter these doubts?
2. Who in my network can help provide perspective or guidance when I feel overwhelmed?
3. What tools, such as journaling or reflective exercises, can I use to remind myself of my achievements?

Summary of First Steps

To feel safer, begin by grounding yourself in the evidence of your capabilities—this builds internal security and counters anxiety. To feel more connected, reflect on your purpose and the reason you began your current journey. To gain clarity, recognise the gap between your thoughts and reality, and align your actions with your mission, not your fears. Finally, to feel more in tune with yourself, practice mindfulness, take regular pauses to reflect, and remind yourself that learning and growth are a part of every challenge.

By doing this, you’ll confront imposter syndrome not as a barrier, but as a stepping stone to a more confident, aligned version of yourself.

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NOTE: This article was created using my book "BE" as a foundation. AI was asked to use the frameworks (BE Elements and RAMPIT Framework) to discuss Imposter Syndrome with a problem/solution approach.

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