RELATIONSHIP STRESS TEST

This stress test will give you a sense of the stress that your relationship produces in you. Stress is a proven danger to your health and happiness. And an unhealthy intimate relationship can be one of the sources of such stress. So check it out and see how you score. Be honest in your answers.

1. Do you or your partner hold a grudge after an argument?               YES  NO 
2. Do you or your partner frequently keep your feelings bottled up?        YES  NO
3. Do discussions often turn into heated arguments?                     YES  NO
4. In an argument, are there often personal attacks, such as name calling? YES  NO
5. Do you and your partner treat your relationship like a competition?     YES  NO
6. Have you stopped looking forward to spending time with your partner? YES  NO
7. Do you withhold affection from your partner?                         YES  NO
8. Do you or your partner avoid talking about serious issues?              YES  NO
9. Have you given up on trying to meet your relationship needs?           YES  NO
10. Are you filling the emotional void left by your relationship with other people and activities?                                                          YES  NO
11. Do your arguments end with one or both of you feeling worse?          YES  NO
12. Do you or your partner feel "on guard" when you're together?           YES  NO
13. Do you often feel trapped in your relationship?                        YES  NO
14. Do you feel your partner doesn't understand you?                      YES  NO
15. Do you often feel angry or frustrated with your partner?                YES  NO
16. Do you feel your partner does not appreciate you?                      YES  NO
17. Do you often feel lonely in your relationship?                          YES  NO
18. Do you feel powerless to change the relationship?                      YES  NO
19. Do you feel pessimistic or negative about your future?                  YES  NO
20. Do you feel like your best is never good enough for your partner?        YES  NO

Total Number of Questions Answered YES _______Scoring

0-4    Good relationship, rare stress

5-10   Relationship needs work, occasional exposure to stress

11-15  Seriously troubled, under frequent stress

16-20  Relationship is damaging, extremely stressful

This test does raise a number of typical stress-producing issues. If you scored over 10, you are in a stressful relationship that needs to change.

From The Relationship Rescue Workbook

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Relationship Therapy (Individual or Couple)

Relationship therapy can help people in tough situations to work through their problems, move beyond them, and be better partners overall. There are a number of therapists at the Center for Therapy & Counseling Services who offer relationship therapy. This is a great time to see if one of our therapists will suit your needs, style and budget. Therapist-client relationships can affect your life in many profound ways, and you should choose wisely. Even if you believe that your relationship can benefit from therapy, your partner might not be willing to participate. So what can you do in this situation? It is important to remember that you cannot force your partner into counseling. All you can ultimately do is see a therapist on your own and work on issues you are facing as an individual. 

The Center for Therapy & Counseling Services offers in-office or online video therapy to residents of New Jersey. Offices are located in East Brunswick and Edison, NJ. We are open 7 days a week and have daytime and evening availability. To schedule a session or for more information, please call (732) 254-0600 or send an email to info@centerfortherapy.net

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