The Relationship Triangle

I’ve been speaking about relational network strategies for years, but the one thing that I talk about in counseling sessions, work-life balance facilitations, keynotes, and workshops is about the need for a triad of relationships for a strong and sustainable future. These three points of contact create a navigational workforce full of emotional support, expertise, and wisdom every leader needs in order to be successful in three areas of your life.

PERSONAL

This person is a friend in the truest form of the word. He or she has your back during difficult circumstances, has had history with you during your victories and your defeats. This person knows your intentions before you state them. Your personal friend is who you call when something exciting is happening.

(Note: I strongly suggest that this person NOT be your spouse. Too much business information can interfere with intimate relationships. The person you choose should be a life long friend type rather than a romantic type.)

PEER - ORIENTED

This person is someone who works with you in your career/industry and knows the ins and outs of the business that you are in. He or she is a proven leader in what you do. They can offer tips, tricks, and techniques. They have insight about the demographics and dynamics of your field and can point you in the right direction if you are off-center. 

PROFESSIONAL

This person is a counselor, pastor, chaplain, or life coach. He or she has been trained in listening, asking questions, and providing feedback and guidance when appropriate. This person has your permission to give you push-back, offer parameters for emotional health, and offer care during painful seasons. This person could be someone within your faith group, or just someone you find encouragement from. Most importantly, this person needs to be able to speak truth, love, and support. He or she is not just going to say YES all the time. 

This looks like a triangle because your life needs all three to be a top performer in your industry. Its three points are also important for sustainability in personal relationships. These 3 touch points also add value to our peer groups. If taken seriously, the growth you will experience will lead you into a level you might not have ever imagined. I sometimes call this triangle a Mentor Council. The added bonus of this team is you can use this for everything you do. Whether it is learning to surf, working with volunteers, leading a project at work, or in your most important relationships - this triad works. I’ve been using it for years. In fact, if don’t utilize my mentor council, I tend to second guess myself, overthink the process, and focus on the wrong targets.

This triad makes me a better person. Who is in your triad? 

Gratefully,

Steve

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