The Right Doors Won’t Open Until You Are Ready to Walk Through Them

We have all been there. Standing in front of the metaphorical door, pounding on it with increasing desperation, wondering why it refuses to budge. You’ve got your life plan in hand, your polished shoes on, and you’re practically screaming, “Let me in!” But that door? Stubborn as ever.

Here’s the thing: the right doors won’t open for you until you are the version of yourself that is supposed to walk through them.

Now, before you roll your eyes and mutter, "That’s a bit philosophical for a Monday morning," hear me out. It’s not that the universe is conspiring against you (or that the door has a particularly vicious personality). It’s simply that sometimes, we need to grow into the person who is ready for the opportunities waiting on the other side.

Timing Is Everything (Even If You’re Terrible at Patience)

There is an old saying: “Good things come to those who wait.” It’s a delightful little phrase that’s usually met with groans, but it is true. Timing is everything, and if you try to force things too soon, it often ends in disaster. Think of it like baking. You can’t pull a cake out of the oven halfway through and expect it to be edible. (Well, you can, but it’ll probably be a gooey mess that even a dollop of custard can’t save.)

Similarly, in life, if you try to rush through doors before, you are ready, you are going to end up in situations where you are unprepared. Maybe it is that dream job you have always wanted, but once you land it, you realise you’re drowning in responsibilities you don’t yet have the skills to handle. Or perhaps it is that relationship you have been longing for, only to find out that the timing wasn’t quite right, and now you’re bickering over who left the socks on the floor.

Instead of kicking the door down, trust that the doors will open when you are ready and you’ve done the work and prepared to handle what’s there.

Growth Hurts, but It's Worth It (Like a Bad Haircut That Eventually Grows Out)

Growth isn’t glamorous. It is messy, uncomfortable, and often feels like you are stumbling around in the dark. It’s like when you get a bad haircut, and you spend weeks hiding under hats, cursing your reflection in every passing window. But eventually, it grows out, and suddenly you look fabulous again.

The same goes for personal growth. The journey involves mistakes, self-reflection, and a whole lot of “what on Earth am I doing?” moments. But it is all part of the process.

If you are in a phase where it feels like nothing is going your way, don’t panic. You are just in that awkward, in-between stage where things are growing out, and soon enough, you will be ready for the next step.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (Especially Jay from Accounts)

We live in a world where it’s far too easy to compare ourselves to everyone else. You see people on Instagram seemingly walking through door after door, from promotions to exotic holidays to engagements, all with perfectly filtered smiles. Or worse, Jay from Accounts – who has been promoted twice and gets to leave early on Fridays - makes you wonder, “What’s wrong with me?”

Well, Jay isn’t your competition, and neither are the Instagram influencers. Your path is your own, and the doors that are meant for you aren’t going to swing open just because Jay seems to have life all figured out.

Stop peeking through the keyholes of other people’s doors and focus on your own journey. The comparison game is like running a race where everyone’s on a different track, with different finish lines.

Embrace the Waiting Room (There’s Free Wi-Fi)

This time is valuable. Think of it like being in an airport lounge. You are waiting for your flight, but while you are there, you might as well enjoy the free Wi-Fi, grab a snack, and read a good book.

Use this waiting period to work on yourself. Take up that course you have been putting off, focus on your health, or just spend some time figuring out what you really want from life. That way, when the door opens, you are not just rushing through unprepared - you’re stepping in with purpose and confidence.

The Doors Will Open - When You Are Ready

Ultimately, It’s not about forcing things to happen or wishing you were on someone else’s path. It’s about growing into the person who’s meant to take on the opportunities waiting for you.

Take a deep breath. Trust the process. And maybe, while you are waiting, put on the kettle and enjoy a nice cup of tea. Because when that door finally opens, you will want to be ready to walk through with a smile - and maybe a biscuit in hand for good measure.