Shining the Light on What You Can't See - How Coaching Makes the Difference

Shining the Light on What You Can't See - How Coaching Makes the Difference

We can’t change what we can’t see.

When people ask me about coaching and the difference coaching makes, the first thing I say is that it helps them see what they can’t see so they can make the change they haven’t been able to.

The majority of people I work with want to make a change but they haven't figured out how to make the change. And that piece, figuring out how to make the change, is all about helping people see what they can't see and learn what they don't know so they can do what they haven't done before.


We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. ~ Albert Einstein


And the first step of this process is having the courage to change our perspective.

We all have our own perspective and it's subjective based on our beliefs, values and experience in life. But what often becomes a 'light shining moment' is when people discover the role their beliefs are playing in their change. They discover that their beliefs, the ones that once kept them safe and brought them comfort, are actually now getting in the way of the change they're trying to make.

This lack of knowing what's going on internally combined with a wanting for things to be different is what creates tension and conflict within ourselves. The best way forward is to use this tension and explore this inner conflict so that a new path can be created. And it's this new path that leads to change.


In change, there's a conflict and tension that exists in all of us around wanting something different but not having it yet. And this conflict and tension will remain until we uncover what we can't see.


How Coaching Makes the Difference

The power of coaching and what it provides is a supportive and empowering process to lean into that tension and inner conflict and use it to discover what the blocks are. These blocks usually show up as:

  • Fears - what fears are holding me back?
  • Beliefs - what beliefs do I have that may be limiting me?
  • Assumptions - what am I assuming that may not be true?

When you shine the light on what you couldn’t see before, you can face your challenges with clarity, confidence and most of all, courage. And from there, it’s all about creating a plan and taking action to execute on that plan.

And this is how change is possible.

Change is possible by having the courage to shine the light on what you can’t see.


Dagmar Meachem | Business & Leadership Coach

Dagmar Meachem specializes in working with leaders, business owners and teams coming alongside them through their change, growth and transformation as they take the next step in reaching their full potential. She will not only encourage and empower you through your change, but also fiercely challenge you on what's getting in the way and what needs to be done.

Once you've moved through the coaching process, you will not only get the change you seek but you will be equipped for a life of change. You will learn to use the tension in your life, in yourself and in your team to learn and grow and set you on an inspiring future path.

Learn more at couragespace.com

William Tadeu

I help coaches, consultants, mentors, and small business owners. Together, we create intelligent sales systems. Daily, we generate highly qualified potential clients. All this with less effort and more predictability.

2y

Great, Dagmar :)

Deearn Moore

Personal Coach To Women Balancing Business, Careers & A Busy Lifestyle

3y

Thank you so much Dagmar, you have explained this so clearly and specifically in a way that anyone outside of the coaching circle can get a better understanding and grasp of what coaching is to be used for and how it is used to assist them in getting precisely what it is they actually want with their lives - the veil has been lifted!!!

Michael A. Dunner.

Helping Network Marketers ATTRACT More Leads and Sales Using "The 6 Steps Method" A Powerful New Process To ATTRACT Your Perfect Prospect.

3y

Love this

Matthew Gould

📞 (604) 328 8500 Helping teams improve key metrics by developing leaders into partners 🎯 People + Processes = Performance 📈 Leadership Coach | Negotiator & Mediator | Team Facilitation| moreco.ca on Instagram

3y

Boom. “what often becomes a 'light shining moment' is when people discover the role their beliefs are playing in their change. They discover that their beliefs, the ones that once kept them safe and brought them comfort, are actually now getting in the way of the change they're trying to make” ~ Dagmar Yes. Yes. Yes. We are often in our own way and we don’t often see that. Exceptional coaches like you have the courage to shine the light and explore with the client. Right on Dagmar. I love this articulation of your craft.

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