Stay Merry & Bright this Holiday Season – Tips to Reduce Stress

Here in the USA, the winter holiday season is underway. It’s a time of year in which you may be feeling increased levels of anxiety, burnout, fatigue, and stress. The holidays are often a mixed bag of contradictory emotions, such as excitement and dread. They often come with a weight of high expectations.

According to Sesame, in their annual pulse check on holiday stress in America, ‘Holiday 2023 Stress Outlook,’ “Two thirds (64%) of [North] Americans reported an increase in stress levels during the holiday season. Their main concerns? Inflation tops the list of biggest stressors for those surveyed, with 34% rating it their number one cause of stress. Financial stressors were followed by concerns about shopping for gifts (22%) and navigating difficult family dynamics (18%).” You can read all the statistics by clicking here.

It seems as though the culture in the USA has come to equate the holidays with busyness, chaos and stress. Whether you live and work here, or work with American colleagues, it’s important to recognize that the economic pressures related to the holiday season begin very early, as many retailers begin selling Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas merchandise in early September. Keep in mind, though, that it doesn’t have to be this way!

It is essential that you pause, and make a conscious decision to slow down, and get intentional about the meaning behind the holiday season. By being intentional and simplifying this season, you will experience more joy and less stress. Shift your focus by setting priorities and making deliberate choices to stay merry and bright. By doing so, you will create a more meaningful and memorable holiday.

Give yourself the gift of a less stressful holiday season by implementing the three essential steps highlighted in my December LinkedIn newsletter. I offer them to support you in staying grounded this holiday season, and to set you up to approach 2024 in a quieter, more mindful manner.

What are these three steps?

1. Set intentional holiday priorities
2. Maintain mindfulness & unplug during the holidays
3. Reflect and create intentions for 2024

Set Intentional Holiday Priorities

Shift your focus this holiday season to one of joy, meaning, peace, and simplicity. Fill up your own cup with self-care and embrace saying no. Prioritize your own peace. Give yourself permission to opt out. Pace yourself. Decide ahead of time how many holiday events you would like to attend rather than overfilling your calendar. Set clear boundaries. You do not have to say yes to everything.

In order to simplify your holiday, it’s essential that you think through your priorities. Create intentional priorities so that you can experience the true spirit of the holidays. Whether you reflect on these questions for yourself or keep them in mind for your colleagues and direct reports, I invite you to think about the following:

1. What matters to you the most this holiday season?
2. What are you prioritizing and what can you let go of?
3. What does an intentional, meaningful holiday season look like to you?
4. What lasting memories do you want to create?
5. How can you quiet your calendar?
6. What expectations can you let go of?

Allowing yourself space to reflect, rest, and create meaningful priorities will hopefully make the holidays feel more manageable. May you harness the spirit of the holidays and truly be present in the moment!

Maintain Mindfulness & Unplug During the Holidays

It’s crucial to cultivate mindfulness in order to truly embrace the spirit of the season. I know this is easier said than done when you are caught up in the chaos, demands, and expectations of the holidays. It will allow you to truly savory each moment while being fully present and hopefully instill a little peace inside of you as well. I stay off email as part of a digital detox on the weekdays between Christmas Eve and New Year’s Eve and it helps me tremendously to be present with family, friends, and myself.

Primary Health Network shares some excellent tips and practices in their article, ‘Embracing Mindfulness | Navigating the Holiday Season with Presence and Peace.’ According to the article, “As you navigate the holiday season, remember that mindfulness is a gift you give to yourself. By staying present and cultivating a mindful approach, you can create a more meaningful and joyful experience for yourself and those around you.”

As you navigate the holiday season try implementing some of these mindful practices to keep you grounded. In doing so, you will create a more meaningful and memorable holiday experience for you and the people you love. You can read the full article by clicking here.

Listed below are Primary Health Network’s mindful practices and tips:

• Set intentions: Start the season with a clear understanding of what matters most to you. Reflect on your values and set intentions for how you want to experience the holidays. This can guide your choices and actions, helping you stay focused on what truly brings you joy and fulfillment.

• Practice Gratitude: Amidst the hustle and bustle, take time each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for. Expressing gratitude has a powerful impact on your mindset, shifting your focus from what’s lacking to what you have. Consider keeping a gratitude journal to capture and revisit these moments of appreciation.
• Mindful Breathing: When stress begins to build, turn to your breath. Take a few moments to engage in mindful breathing exercises. Inhale deeply, hold, and exhale slowly. This simple practice can help calm your nervous system, reduce stress, and bring you back to the present moment.

• Savor the Senses: Engage your senses in the holiday experience. Whether it’s the aroma of freshly baked cookies, the warmth of a cup of cocoa, or the twinkling lights on the tree, savor each moment fully. By immersing yourself in the sensory experience, you anchor yourself in the present.

• Set Boundaries: The holidays often bring a flurry of social engagements and obligations. While it’s essential to connect with loved ones, it’s equally important to set boundaries. Learn to say no when needed and prioritize self-care. This ensures you have the energy and presence to enjoy the festivities.

• Digital Detox: Constant connectivity can contribute to feelings of overwhelm. Consider implementing a digital detox during specific times, such as family gatherings or quiet evenings. Disconnecting from screens allows you to connect more deeply with those around you and yourself.

• Mindful Eating: Indulging in holiday treats is part of the season, but practicing mindful eating can help you enjoy them without overindulging. Pay attention to the flavors, textures, and sensations of each bite. Eating slowly and savoring your food can enhance your overall enjoyment.

• Cultivate Compassion: The holiday season is a time of giving, and that includes giving kindness to yourself and others. Approach interactions with compassion and understanding. Embrace the imperfections and appreciate the uniqueness of each moment.

Reflect and Create Intentions for 2024

This holiday season is an opportune time to harness the power of pause! Create space and take a deliberate pause to intentionally reflect on 2023. Carve out an intentional window of time to reflect on what’s working and what’s not working. Think about what you want your guiding focus to be as we move into 2024. By taking a reflective step back now, you will go further in 2024.

Ask yourself the following:

1. What have I done well?
2. What milestones am I celebrating?
3. What lessons did I learn?
4. How have I grown?
5. What is no longer serving me?
6. What can I let go of?
7. What is one thing I will do differently in the new year?

All too often we feel the pressure and stress to make New Year’s resolutions in the month of December. Long ago I ditched resolutions as they are not constructed to create lasting change. A resolution sets you up to fail. According to Warren Hollerman, director of MD Anderson’s Faculty Health & Well-Being Program, "Most New Year's resolutions are doomed to failure because it takes a lot more than a resolution to change. It takes a self-understanding, skills, strategies, and support." You can read the full article by clicking here. 

As Brad Paisley aptly said, “Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one.” Why not choose one word, a phrase, or an intention to approach your blank page that is about to unfold? Think of it like the theme of your own movie, your daily mantra, or motto. The best part, you cannot break these unlike resolutions. It is a way to reflect your core values and manifest your intentions. It’s truly a game changer!

In the Washington Post’s article, ‘Pick a New Year’s Nudge Word Instead of a Resolution,’ they encourage readers to participate in the annual word of the year exercise to reflect on their values, intentions and hopes for the new year.

Here is a sampling of their words from last year:

Words of reflection: awareness, awe, breathe, pause, reset, gratitude, resilience, optimism, focus

Words of change: reset, renew, nourish, energize, growth, recharge, evolve, bloom, adventure, travel

Words of connection: relate, reconnect, experience, balance, engage, cherish, comfort, listen

Click here to read more and get started on choosing your WORD for 2024.

Why not slow down and allow yourself to embrace the holidays fully, enhance your well-being and create more meaningful moments? I hope you will make a conscious choice to create intentional priorities and carve out pockets of time for mindful practices.

Give yourself the gift of a less stressful holiday season. Take a deliberate pause to reflect on 2023, and what you want your guiding focus to be as we move in to 2024. Remember to breathe in the magic of the season, smile and savor each blessed moment. May you be merry and bright.

Erin Owen, MBA, MCC, JCDC/JCTC, CPQC (she/her/hers)

Executive and Leadership Coach

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