Stop Comparing Yourself to Others!

Teddy Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” 

It’s incredible how many people compare themselves to others. No wonder we have a society that’s so depressed. 

Comparing yourself to others is a great way to reduce your confidence and self-esteem significantly. If you want to become the best possible you; avoid comparing yourself to others!

The Problem

There are significant problems that can occur when you compare yourself to everyone else:

1. We compare our “behind-the-scenes” with everyone else’s highlight reel. You might compare your social media following with Gary Vaynerchuk’s, but he’s been playing the social media game for over a decade when you might have just started. It’s unfair to compare any results unless the starting points are the same, and they never will be. 
2. Different people have different resources. It doesn’t impress me if your Dad paid for you to go to Harvard, but it does impress me if you’re a single mother of three children who graduated from a local community college while working full-time. Everyone has different levels of resources, and it’s much more impressive to win in life by utilizing a lower hand. It’s easy to win with a Royal Flush in poker, but it’s a lot more challenging to win with Pocket 2’s.  
3. Different levels of intelligence. Some people process things differently than others. Some people understand music and math better than others. If you’re a singer and you’re comparing yourself to another singer that might have been born with a better voice, that is not a fair comparison.

It’s easy to see why making comparisons can be dangerous. There’s little to gain and too much to risk. Comparing yourself to others isn't useful in any way, shape, or form. You’re only going to get more and more frustrated with yourself and potentially sabotage your future success. 

The Solution

Here’s what you can do instead:

1. Compare you to you. A better option is to compare yourself to yourself. Pay close attention to your progress over time. We often forget how far we’ve come. Notice your improvement.
2. Limit social media B.S. Ideally, social media should help us connect to people, but it’s used for bragging too often. Everyone puts their best foot forward. We rarely get the whole story. Often people’s lives are portrayed in a very positive light when, in reality, they are facing challenges just like the rest of us. 
3. Use peers’ success as inspiration. The success of others can be compelling. Try to utilize struggle/victory stories to empower you, not to bring you down. However, when you do this, avoid comparing your situation to others. 

Do the best with where you are. Have you grown more as a person so far this month? What small successes have you achieved in the last couple of weeks? What tiny differences can you make today that will radically change your life over the next decade? Compare your past self with your present self; don’t compare yourself to the rest of the world!

*Matt Zaun is an award-winning speaker and storyteller who empowers organizations to attract more clients through the art of strategic storytelling. Matt’s past engagements have catalyzed radical sales increases for over 200 organizations that range from financial institutions to the health and wellness industry. 

Matt shares his expertise in persuasion with executives, sales professionals, and entrepreneurs, who he coaches on the art of influence and how to leverage this for profits and impact. 

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