Stop Losing and Start Winning: 6 Steps to Achieving Your New Year’s Resolutions

With 2023 coming to a close, there are only a few more days to think about your new year's resolutions. The time is now to self-reflect, decide what you want to accomplish, prepare and plan your strategy, and start the new year committed and excited about your resolutions. 

Although we all do not set resolutions, I would dare to say everyone thinks about what they would like to change about their current situations. There is something about the beginning of a new year that feels like a fresh start, a reason to start over, or to try harder. Unfortunately, most people that do set resolutions quickly lose focus and slip back into their old ways, abandoning their hopes, dreams, and goals. In fact, according to a Forbes Health study, 44% of people that set new year’s resolutions abandon them by March, and only 1% make through the year (Forbes, 2023). It is no secret that change is hard, but we all know it is worth it. 86% of people believe that their resolutions will have benefits far beyond the year in which they were set (Forbes, 2023). This makes a lot of sense, being that the top ten resolutions are all related to physical or mental health improvements, where the most popular new year’s resolution is to improve fitness. Of course improving your physical and mental health is important for your future, so why do we suck at it so bad? Why do we abandon what we know will improve our quality and length of our lives? 

Why I have sucked at keeping my resolutions in the past. 

While I am no expert at understanding human psychology as it relates to keeping our New Year’s resolutions, nor do I claim to have done adequate research on the matter, I do know what works for me. In the past, I have failed to reach my goals for three reasons. First, I have set arbitrary goals without the listing specifics I need to understand the steps. Second, I have set unrealistic goals, or have loaded myself up with too many goals, and third, I have not broken my goals up into realistic bites and tracked my progress. These three things have been addressed by thought leaders ad nauseam, so I will not get deep in the weeds here. However, I will touch on the S.M.A.R.T goal method, as I believe it is highly effective. S.M.A.R.T is a mnemonic acronym that stands for goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-related. As you may notice, the three biggest reasons I have failed in the past are directly related to the fact that I did not set SMART goals. 

I have wanted to speak Spanish for decades. I started several times, only to quit shortly after starting because it was hard, I was busy, or many other excuses I made to justify my failure. My weight has fluctuated like crazy because I set arbitrary goals like “lose weight,” which did nothing to help me create a change in my lifestyle. Regardless of the reasons, the fact is, I constantly fell into the popular 99% category of people that quit their resolutions before the end of the year. 

Why I no longer suck at keeping my resolutions. 

I have tried and failed so many times at reaching goals, and each time I fail I lose confidence in myself, and have feelings of depression as I slide back into status quo, wishing for a better version of me. Well, wishing is for losers and I am done wishing. Wishing does nothing, it looks to other influences to make things happen. You must be the change you wish to see, as it is only you that can make things happen for you. 

In 2023 I took a different approach to my resolutions, where I created S.M.A.R.T goals and tracked my progress using a mobile application called Strides. The results were amazing, as I met or exceeded every goal I set. I did this by setting SMART goals up in Strides, tracking progress daily, and celebrating daily progress. Going back to my goal of losing weight and keeping it off, I set a weekly goal in Strides to work out 5 days per week and tracked it daily. I also set a goal to be under 160 lbs by Friday of every week. This gave me some flexibility to enjoy myself a little, as long as I was under 160 lbs each Friday. The way Strides is set up it gives you little celebration screens each time you reach your goal, each time you have a perfect day, and lets you see your progress in stats. As I went through the year, I actually got addicted to the feeling of marking things off each day in the app, wanting to see the little “perfect day” confetti blow up on my screen. Each time I check something off in the app, I get a shot of endorphins that motivates me to keep going. Just like in business, the things that get tracked get the most attention. Tracking personal goals is the only way you will ever reach them. My goal to lose weight had a target of 160 lbs. Once I got there I maintained it by tracking my weight daily, and going to the gym 5 days per week. These are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and timely goals tracked daily, weekly, and yearly. The best side effect to this method is now it is a lifestyle that is manageable. I know exactly what to do to stay at my goal weight and it has lasting benefits that justify the hard work. 

I also had a goal to read more. After thinking about it for a while, I wanted to see if I could read 52 books in a year. In other words, a book a week. When I first thought about it, the idea was daunting. But I did a little research and found out how many pages the average novel, self help book, business book, biography, history book, and other genres had. I found a number that was fairly consistent between all genres, took that average and calculated how many pages I would need to read per day to reach 52 books per year. The number was 40 pages per day. Off I went, tracking my daily progress of reading 52 pages per day. When I traveled or had extra time I read more than that. I tracked my progress in the Strides app and started flying through books. The more I read, the faster I got and the less time commitment I needed. The faster I got the more I comprehended and enjoyed the content. I am now finishing my 55th book this year, beating my goal. This was another SMART goal that had huge benefits in the Relevant category of S.M.A.R.T., because I learned a lot about the areas of study relevant to my job, increasing my performance. 

6 Recommended steps for a successful 2024

I am excited about setting a new round of goals to reach this coming year. Many of the goals I have set and are tracking in Strides will roll over into the new year. However, I am going to add others to continue my improvement journey. The steps I am taking, and recommend you take as well, are:

1- Take some time to reflect on what goals are right for you. Just because you have “always wanted” to do something does not mean it is relevant for you. If your goals are not relevant, your priorities will naturally take precedence and make reaching your goals more difficult. Think about what you need in your life, what your long term goals are, what you need for your family, career, health, etc. and find the consistent theme that drives what goals you want to reach. For example, if your goal is to put in a swimming pool in your backyard and you need to save money, your other goals should not make it difficult to save money, or should make it easier to save money. Quitting smoking saves money, which has health benefits and also frees up more money to save. 

2- Reduce your goals into bite sized pieces that you can track daily, weekly, monthly and yearly. Make sure you take time to celebrate each task completed along the journey. Use those positive feelings to increase your resolve and momentum. If your goal is to put a pool in your backyard, think about all the steps that you need to make it happen and track towards those steps. For example, figure out how much money you will need to save weekly, understand the timing with construction, permits, etc. to see when you need to do each task like researching what pool you want, finding a contractor, getting the city permits, working with your HOA, among other tasks. Tracking the tasks in Strides or by other means will allow you to see where you are, celebrate your achievements along the way, and watch as your goal becomes more and more attainable. 

3- Download Strides. I am sure that there are other applications out there to help you track your goals, however, this is what I use and it works great for me. It allows you to see stats, track your daily tasks, and get a boost of motivation every time you check something off and see the app congratulate you. It is fun and addicting. 

4- Celebrate each achievement along the way. What is the point of working hard when you don’t allow yourself a pat on the back. Celebrate each accomplishment, no matter what size, with an appropriate sized celebration. Visualize the end goal with each celebration on the way and notice how much closer you are to reaching it. 

5- Make it a lifestyle.  Some goals, like putting in a swimming pool, are temporary goals. Once accomplished you do not need to maintain it. However, most goals require lifestyle changes for lasting success. Losing weight, exercising more, learning skills, and financial freedom are all examples of goals that require effort to not slide back into bad habits. When you reach the goal, rewrite the goal in a way that will help you maintain the goal and make it a lifestyle change. I am now at my goal weight, and to stay there I have a weekly maintenance goal to be under my goal weight by Friday of each week. If I am a couple pounds over mid week, I better eat healthier and forgo that extra donut for breakfast. It's easy and maintainable, but it must be tracked. 

6. Do not set too many goals to where you are overwhelmed. I have discussed a few of my goals that I accomplished with you this year, but in reality I set and tracked 12 goals, three of which were temporary and once completed there is nothing to maintain, but the other 9 have been reached for the year, but maintenance is important. So, 2024 may have a couple new goals added but I will try not to overwhelm myself because I have so many I want to roll over into the next year. It is important to be realistic with how many goals you should set, making sure the priorities in your life are in the right order. After this year, I am actually going to slightly adjust some of my goals like how much I read. Although it was fun to read 55 books this year, I need to reallocate some of that time to other priorities, so I will reduce my reading slightly this year. 

I hope this coming year brings you happiness, especially as you improve your life and accomplish the things you have been wanting to do forever. The time is now to stop wishing and start doing. We can achieve whatever we want if we follow the guidance above. 

Good luck, and Happy New Year!

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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7725288/

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