Storytelling and self-esteem

𝐃𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐚 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐚 𝐥𝐨𝐭 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐞𝐦?

In my career as a coach I have encountered numerous clients that seemed confident at first. But that was just a mask they put on for everybody else to see.

Do you know how I figured that out?

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐲 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐥𝐲. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡.

You may say that my role as a coach is to listen. And your role as the person getting coached is to tell me about everything that is happening in your life. This is only part true.

These clients I am telling you about were not only telling me about their lives. They were telling me about other people’s lives. About their life in the past. So, naturally, I stopped them. My role is to guide you towards the future, not to find out everything about your past.

When this happens, it means that the person standing before me is hiding from the truth, avoiding the answer and themselves.

𝑮𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂 𝒉𝒖𝒈𝒆 𝒂𝒎𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒅𝒆𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒍𝒔 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒔𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒆, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒄𝒐𝒂𝒄𝒉, 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇.

Many of my clients appear very confident on the outside. But when they feel comfortable enough to open up in our coaching sessions, they let me discover that they actually lack self-esteem. They believe they are not worthy of their lives, that they do not deserve the good things that are happening. They believe they are just playing a role and that, in fact, they are not as good as people think. So they decide to avoid facing themselves. Maybe out of fear, maybe because they are not ready.

You deserve to be free of this burden. You can enjoy life and you can improve your self-esteem. How? Through coaching!

𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮!