Talk Less & Speak More - Why & How

Listening is a trust-building exercise.

Simon Sinek spoke this line in one of his talks. Listen completely here.

He is Ted Speaker also.

Why do Ted talks have precise speaking times?

Why do successful people express their views with brevity and impact words?

Because they believe in 2 primary growth rules - Speak Less and Listen More.

Yes, this is an art. You must develop this art to see your name in the list of successful people and achieve growth.

How?

In this newsletter, I will share the best practices to develop this art.

Anyone can learn this art. Before knowing the exact practices, know the meaning of this art and what benefits you will get after developing this skill.

What it means, and how can it benefit you?

"Speak Less & Listen More" means "Balance between speaking and listening!" The skill helps you to know when you have to speak and when you have to listen.

Once you develop this skill; you get the following benefits

• Making someone heard is the best way to acquire the trust of anyone in your personal and professional life.
• Oversharing and over-talking are anxiety, depression, ignorance, insecurity, and pride symptoms. This skill will help you to overcome all these mental issues.
• Listening to others might help you learn something new that you don't know.
• By following this skill, whenever you do speak, you quickly grab the listener's attention.
• You can easily read the mindset of listeners profoundly and keep your opinions close to your heart.
• You get more time to think widely, develop ideas, find the right words, and craft sentences.
• You develop the potential to make your conversation deep and long by following thoughtful questions.

If you want to get these benefits; follow these 4 best practices:

(1) Know the reason; why do you want to speak.

A few weeks ago, I met a lady first time. We met, and she started talking and sharing about herself. I realized that she wanted to be heard, so I only paid attention to listening to her. She does not know why she wanted to speak; that's why she was only speaking. She might be facing some challenges. That's why she wanted someone to hear only.

Best practice: "knowing the why behind speaking can help you to develop this art."

(2) Know how to ask good and great questions

Questioning can make a conversation meaningful. Do you know great leaders always ask questions rather than putting their advice to the team?

Why? because they know their team and how they can help them. Leaders know the balance between asking and speaking.

Best practice: "Learn a questioning skill. Use this app, "Big Talk", to get good question lists in different aspects of life.

(3) Think before speak

You often hear this line. It is a fact that you can't take your words once you have spoken! And India, it is believed - Once a day, Saraswati Goddess makes your words true. So, take care while speaking.

Best practice: "Evaluate your thoughts, words, and reasons; Pause for a moment and speak."

(4) Leverage non-verbal communication

Your body language speaks more than what you want to say. That's why sometimes, we can get our message without speaking to listeners.

Best Practice: "Use Smile - a global connecting language; Make eye contact; Try Lean / Nod gestures."

Final Thoughts

Practice can only make you an expert in any skill.

It depends on you whether you want to develop it or not! Want to become part of successful people groups or not?

Get answers and follow these strategies to think wisely!

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Your Vibrant Friend

Vibha Soni 😊