“Three warning signs you are not valuing yourself 100%”

Let’s begin by clarifying the difference between superficial confidence and core confidence. 

When we have a superficial confidence, we attach our confidence levels to everything that we have in our life: our job, the size of our house, our car, our relationship status, or general status of power, even our appearance. When we have true core confidence, even if everything is taken away from us, we still know that we are going to be okay.

1.YOU DO NOT PUT YOURSELF FIRST QUILT-FREE

First warning sign that you haven't tapped into your core confidence just yet, is that you do not put yourself first. Good hearted people will often say “yes” whenever other people need their help. Good hearted people say “Yes” easily when it comes to serving others. 

If you are a motivated person, it would be so easy for you to prioritise your goals and your career milestones. Generally speaking you stay on track to achieving outcomes. You eliminate distractions easily but also sometimes you forget to check in with yourself and you don’t always pay attention to how you are feeling. 

Motivation and focus created your successes in the past, correct?

Whatever you tend to resort to as default behaviour you must also learn how to put yourself FIRST GUILT-FREE. Keep reading to find out WHY this is important.

Check in with yourself! You are a human being. You are sensitive and you have your own needs to fulfil. 

SOLUTION?

When you want to spend time with yourself, when you want to invest in yourself, when you need to put yourself first, when you need to speak up for yourself, ask yourself this question:

“Is this going to increase my inner satisfaction or is this going to truly decrease my inner satisfaction?”

The answer to this question will indicate what YOU TRULY WANT and eliminate making a decision in misalignment with your values or integrity.

2. YOU GIVE IN TO CHALLENGES 

The second warning sign that you haven't tapped into your core confidence just yet, is that you actually give in to challenges that arise on your way to you achieving your goals. 

Whenever we set a goal for ourselves, we need to be ready knowing that uncertainty will come and with that, new challenges will present themselves.

It is important to remember that you are just too good to quit and your goals are always possible to achieve. You might need to change direction, re-maneuver and divert from the original plan, but you always stay on path to your success. Keep your eyes on a prize baby!

A journey to achieving our goals involves growth! Growth changes our current identity and sometimes, we need to create a completely new identity in order to accomplish what we set out mind to.

SOLUTION?

 In times of uncertainty ask yourself this question:

“What would the person I am becoming do right now? 

Operate from that level of psychology and emotion. Step into the shoes of the person who you are becoming.

3. YOU MEASURE YOUR VALUE BY WHAT YOU HAVE 

Third warning sign that you haven't just yet tapped into your core confidence is that you feel like your emotional state, your general satisfaction in life and fulfillment are actually affected by certain things, belongings, people in your life. 

What this means is that how you feel about yourself, and more importantly, how much you value yourself is actually determined by external factors around you. That is never a good sign. 

If you notice that you are having a bad day because you put on a little bit of weight or because you didn't achieve your milestone at work or because someone close to you said something that seemed like a criticism to you then you are affected by your environment.

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SOLUTION?

Remind yourself about YOUR amazing, unique qualities that you love about yourself every single day. 

Give yourself a pat on the shoulder for all the achievements, small or BIG, every single day so you continue falling in love with the person who you are.

Self-COMPASSION is the highest form of Self-RESPECT!

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