The Trap Of Being "Realistic"

We learn to be realistic

We learn to be thoughtful

We learn to play it safe

We learn to stay comfortable

We learn not to ask for much

We learn to conform

We learn how to behave

We are conditioned at an early age

By our loving and well-meaning parents

By culture, society, school and religion

To adhere to certain belief systems

And we receive punishment or rewards based on how well we follow this conditioning

We learn what to believe and what not to believe

We learn what is acceptable and what is not acceptable

We learn how to live and what to dream

As children we didn’t choose these things, we grew into them

When children these became our unquestionable truths

The journey I have been on is ultimately a journey of unlearning

Unlearning all the belief systems that keep me from remembering my truth

There have been MANY layers to this journey as you can imagine

Today I am going to focus on talking about unlearning to be “realistic”

And why that has been critical

Because here is the truth…

Being “realistic” keeps us stuck in previous realities that reflected the old limited belief systems, conditioning and programming

And here is the thing about deeply ingrained belief systems… sometimes they hold us back and we are not even aware

Growing up my dad taught me to always have a realistic budget and plan – which was incredibly helpful and practical

So, when I took the big leap to leave corporate and follow my calling to build my mission driven coaching business, I found myself developing a very thoughtful and realistic financial plan

I recognize that creating a thoughtful and realistic plan, which included a “plan B”, was “a smart thing to do” and also helped me to “manage” the inner critic voices in my head

However, a few months into my life as a full-time entrepreneur and coach I also quickly realized that while my thoughtful and realistic plan was protecting my heart from being hurt or disappointed, it was also keeping me playing small and staying safe  

Then this thought hit me like a thunderbolt:

I don’t really want a “realistic” life!

I don’t know about you, but I am done being realistic!  

I want a big, bold, fun, joyful, colorful, abundant and delicious life as I follow my truest and biggest dreams

I want a life full of unrealistic magic and miracles  

I want a life that breaks and defies all the “realistic molds and conditioning” I learned

I don’t want to be realistic anymore!

F*ck being realistic!

And here is the thing... as soon as I let go of being realistic, things in my coaching business really took off!

I am daring to be boldly and courageously unrealistic!

So unrealistic that some people may think I am crazy lol – who cares?!

I will be over here living my unrealistic life FULLY!

Living a life full of the biggest and most unrealistic dreams I allow myself to dream!

Living a life with more freedom, meaning, fulfillment and abundance than I had ever imagined possible

So my question to you…

Are you also done living a “realistic” life?

Are you ready to allow yourself to dream the most unrealistic dreams possible?

Please share with me! I would love to hold space and celebrate us dreaming unrealistically big!