Are We Finally Seeing The Rise Of Introverted Leadership?

Long have introverts been held back from positions of leadership - having to overcome a strong cultural bias towards their more outgoing, extroverted peers.

Something I hear frequently among my introverted clients is that they get caught in the comparison trap, inevitably leading to an inferiority complex. And I can relate.

Because as introverts, where our preference is to sit quietly and listen, we’re told it’s better to speak up and stand out. Where our preference is to watch and observe, we’re told it’s better to roll up our sleeves and get-stuck-in. Where our preference is for slow, considered thought, we’re told it’s better to answer quickly and make decisions rapidly.

But being thrust into the spotlight often causes us to freeze. We experience feelings of inadequacy, uncertainty, overwhelm and self-doubt. We overthink, we ruminate. We question our worth. We struggle to find our place.

So much of the work I do with clients wanting to thrive as leaders is around how to establish their presence in an environment often working against their natural strengths.

Introverts are big thinkers, we easily empathise; we listen; we offer carefully thought-out ideas and insights; we are highly focused and purposeful; we are visionaries...

But with little desire to command the centre of attention, we often feel overlooked and under-appreciated.

Clients come to sessions saying they lack confidence; that they feel anxious and indecisive. And yet, when we unpack that, it’s really about permission to lean into their preferred ways of working.

Giving themselves permission to take their time in formulating their thoughts. Allowing themselves space to reflect. Considering the tone, pace and volume of their voice before speaking. Asking colleagues for what they want and need. Emotionally preparing themselves for presentations and meetings. Knowing how to efficiently channel and preserve their finite social energy.

Introverts make excellent leaders.

There is power in reservation and observation. There is value in quiet and meaningful contributions. There is a skill to making people feel acknowledged and heard. There are benefits to intrinsic motivation and diligence.

In fact, it is because of these assets that introverts often make better decision-makers, build more engaged teams, have more innovative ideas, take well-calibrated risks, and give others the platform to flourish.

So if you’re introverted and doubting yourself as a leader, coaching can be a great way to use your expertise in self-reflection and awareness to leverage your strengths, take ownership of your talents, and to cultivate your unique presence so that you rise in your role with confidence and ease.

If any of this resonates, please do get in touch either by messaging me here or by emailing me at katie_denyer@outlook.com. I’d love to chat.