WHAT HAPPENED TO THE HUNGER?

Are you still hungry?  Got that fire in the belly?  Hunger is a burning desire to chase a goal.  It’s that crazy drive to get something done.  It’s motivation on steroids.  It’s a drug more useful than Adderall.  Sadly, it doesn’t last forever.  If you currently don’t feel hungry, take a moment and think back to a time that you did experience that feeling, then keep reading.

I know that for many of you, it’s a distant memory.  You’re living in survival mode.  You worked hard to get the degree, land the job, and to secure that coveted promotion – but along the way a lot of other things happened:  marriage, children, debt, and so on.  The weight of these obligations has become heavy.  Life once felt simple, but now seems complex.  The fire burned out.  It’s quite common.  I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot because I need to start rebuilding my own fire (see my last newsletter).

So where does it come from in the first place?  Hunger is typically the result of several things including socioeconomics, personal need for achievement, clarity of purpose, and a desire for status and power. 

Hunger only lasts for a limited time, months or possibly a few years, but it inevitably fades.  It happens in different ways, but three tend to be most common.  First, we lose the drive sometimes simply because life becomes busy and full.  The more crowded your life, the harder it is to feel a desire for maximizing your achievements.  Next is success.  After your first few strong successes, you get comfortable.  You simply don’t feel the need to prove yourself as much.  Finally, consider failure.  It can sting.  When people experience a big failure, they aren’t as eager to risk that feeling again. 

So, is it possible to rebuild lost hunger?  Yes!  It can be challenging, but the answer is yes.  Consider trying these tactics:

Rethink your goals.  Some goals need to be altered or updated.  Some need to be removed from the list.  Maybe a new audacious goal should be formalized.  Try to focus and prioritize.  Focus means 3-5 goals is way better than 10-15 goals.  While crafting your goals, remember, when in doubt make them more challenging.  An easy goal is just a task or group of tasks.  Goals should make you sweat a little!

Associate with hungry people.  Who you share time with matters.  People rub off on each other so make sure you find a real achiever, a learner, a striver – or two, or three!  It’s also true that you can’t give excess time to anyone who drains your positive energy.  Negative people must be managed and sometimes strategically avoided.  That fire in your gut is a special resource, so protect it.

Delayed gratification.  One way to remain focused and to support that feeling of hunger is to intentionally delay consumption of things you want or value.  That new car, the cool new restaurant you want to try, that trip you wish to take – tie their consumption to the completion of a meaningful milestone that puts you closer to achieving a big goal.  This makes consumption taste so much better!

Reduce distractions.  This one is so simple but so powerful.  It’s not just negative people who zap your energy and focus.  It’s all the movement and noise too!  The person at work who is always talking, the colleague who always plays their music loud enough for everyone to hear, overuse of social media, etc.  Three quick solutions… First, headphones.  Noise cancelation is a beautiful thing.  Second, work in a different space when you can:  an empty office, the boardroom no one uses, the coffee shop next door to the office, or even a pew in the back of a nearby church when there is no service.  Third, cut social media use in half

Of course, hunger is not a panacea.  To be successful, you also need willpower and the ability to persevere, a strong work ethic, and a willingness to make sacrifices.  But hunger is the ingredient that sparks the fire and helps you feel confident, willing to work extra hard, ready to make needed sacrifices.  Success ain’t easy, but being hungry makes it seem entirely possible.

WHAT’S UP WITH DR. D?

I delivered a fun virtual talk, a version of Show Your Ink, to the North Texas Small Business Development Center.  They are housed inside Dallas College, another client, which is how they found me.  Huge fun – the client was terribly kind.  An excerpt from the ‘thank you’ email they sent me: 

“You successfully achieved our goal of inspiring, enlightening, and motivating those present. We received excellent feedback regarding your engaging delivery, the strength of your message, and how it provided a new perspective.  Finding a presenter who can captivate an audience, maintain their engagement, and convey a heartfelt message is often a challenge. We are pleased to say that you excelled in all these areas.”

I can’t tell you how fulfilling it is to lift up a group and help them feel that more is possible…and I get paid to do it – are you kidding me?  Sometimes, however, I miss out on the opportunity.  Last week I was asked to deliver a speech in Toulouse, France for Airbus.  My fee is nice but not considered gargantuan, but it was too big for this event :(  Win some, lose some. 

Thanks for all the notes and well wishes following my last newsletter.  Trust me, I don’t take this group for granted.  As intended, I’m bouncing back.  It’s not hard when it’s holiday time and basketball season has begun.  We are having a blast watching Parker’s last season in high school.  To those of you in the US – gobble gobble!  Enjoy Thanksgiving.

Until next time – go learn something, maybe help someone, or at least do something interesting!

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