What Will I Gain If I Stop This?

The Freedom in Letting Go

Have you ever caught yourself holding on too tightly? Maybe it’s wanting every lesson to go perfectly, stressing over flawless classroom boards, or feeling like you must tackle every challenge on your own. This week, try asking yourself: What could I gain by letting go?

The Day I Let Go:

For years, I believed every lesson plan had to be perfect. I would spend hours obsessing over every detail, determined to create the perfect experience for my students. Then one day, in the middle of what I thought was my most polished lesson so far, a student raised their hand and asked:

"Why do we even have to learn this?"

It stopped me in my tracks. That question wasn’t part of the plan. I felt a wave of panic rise, this wasn’t supposed to happen! I fumbled for an answer at first but then did something I rarely allowed myself to do in the classroom: I paused, let go of my perfectionism, and invited the class to explore the question together.

What followed was one of the most meaningful conversations I’ve ever had with my students. We talked about curiosity, learning, and how knowledge shapes our lives. Their insights surprised me, and I realized the best part of the lesson wasn’t in my carefully made plan, it was in the space I created when I let go.

That moment changed how I approached teaching. It showed me that my perfectionism was often more of a barrier than help. By easing up on myself, I found room for deeper connection, authentic learning, and a calmer, more present version of myself.

Empowering Others & Self-Compassion

Letting go isn’t about giving up; it’s about making room. When we release the pressure of perfection, we empower our students to take ownership of their learning and show them that mistakes are part of the process. And just as importantly, we extend compassion to ourselves, recognizing that we don’t have to be flawless to be effective and inspiring educators.

Reflection Exercise: Letting Go of Perfection

Think of one area where perfectionism shows up in your teaching. Maybe it is in lesson planning, grading, or classroom management. Reflect on what might change if you eased up in that area. How could it benefit your students, and your well-being?

When I asked Patrik, a teacher at an upper secondary school this question, he said:

For me, perfectionism shows up when grading. I spend too much time over-analyzing feedback, trying to make every comment perfect.

If I eased up, I’d gain more time for planning engaging lessons and connecting with students. They don’t need perfection, just clear, helpful guidance. Letting go would probably reduce my stress.

My invitation for you:

What’s one thing you are ready to let go of? Reply and share, I would love to hear what you are gaining by making space for growth and connection.

Kindly 

Kicki

The beauty of letting go is that it doesn’t make us weaker; it makes us freer. Here’s to stepping into a new season with lightness, self-compassion, and room to grow. Thank you for sharing this journey with me!