What’s in Your Cup?
Renier Jooste
Showing leaders how to unlock happiness, wellbeing and excellence through acceptance | NLP Master Practitioner | Author | Speaker | Coach | Book me for real transformation.
Why Intention Changes Everything
Discover how consistently cultivating kindness, care, and compassion toward yourself transforms what you give, receive, and create — one small, intentional step at a time.
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Why'd The Coffee Spill?
If someone bumps your arm while you’re holding a cup of coffee, why did the coffee spill?
Because they bumped you?
No.
Because you had coffee in your cup.
The same is true with love — or fear.
When Life Gets Hard — Are You Loving?
It’s obvious in the physical world: if someone asks you for $100 and you don’t have it, you can’t give it to them.
But what about love? Care? Kindness? Connection?
How often do you expect these things from others without first checking if you’ve given them to yourself?
We live in a world where so many people are searching for love (unconsciously) outside themselves. Yet the love we long for cannot be found until we’ve cultivated it within.
Without self-love, we end up trapped in a cycle of taking — seeking to get what we need from others rather than creating it for ourselves.
But here’s the truth: You can’t give what you don’t have.
Without kindness, care, and connection for yourself, you may find yourself giving from fear. Think about fear like an upside-down cup — nothing but empty.
And you cannot give what isn’t truly there.
Fear tries to protect you by thinking you need to control — avoiding, or seeking approval.
But instead of creating peace, it creates exhaustion, chaos, and a deep sense of lack.
The truth is — this is the pattern of ‘not enough’ is found within each of us.
To transform it is a responsibility — to accept. And show up for.
To do this takes clear intention, to generate the energy to —
How you show up with kindness and care for yourself first — especially when life doesn’t go your way — is the difference between love and fear.
You take responsibility for your cup — first.
The Two Worlds We Live In
Think of life like a game with two opposing realities:
These worlds cannot coexist because they operate by completely different rules or Universal Laws:
In the World of Fear:
Fear offers a distorted, upside-down kind of love. A perspective of life that seeks safety through control, avoidance, or withdrawal. Instead of creating security, it creates destruction.
Like an entitled child having a temper tantrum — this is the mindset that life is happening to you.
In the World of Love:
Love is abundant.
It gives freely, with care and genuine concern; connection — not out of obligation, or guilt but from the overflow of your full cup.
You are enough.
And life happens for you — this is creator mentality.
Remember: Unconditional Love is always enough and so it always gives. It never takes.
The ability to practice your choice between these two worlds begins with awareness. And then a choice, to let go and trust — one micro-shift, at a time.
How to Fill Your Cup
This is my number one practice for building a consistently full cup.
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When life throws you something you don’t like — a difficult situation, a harsh word, or an unmet expectation —
How do you respond?
It’s easy to react with fear, frustration, or judgement — but be cautious: these are the thumbprints of the ego.
Simple tricks in place (by default), that distract your attention from what’s within you.
What if you could choose another way?
Microdosing Life is about intentionally cultivating a space of kindness, care, and compassion within yourself, because when your cup is already full, it’s a lot easier to show up lovingly when life doesn’t go your way.
When you begin to show up for the consistent practice of loving and accepting yourself, as you are — you begin your journey to outsmart your ego, by:
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The Practice of Intention
The practice of changing your intention from fear to love starts with a point of decision. When it’s made, it carries with it a responsibility to change everything from the inside out.
It All Starts With A Decision
When you reach that point of enough —
Enough is enough, is enough.
Now your real self-love journey begins.
Here’s How to Play Another Game:
1. Stop and Acknowledge the Fear
Fear isn’t your enemy — it’s an unconscious agreement ready to be transformed every moment it shows up.
When fear arises, take a moment to notice it.
Acknowledge it with kindness .
2. Set A Loving Intention
For yourself — choose to respond to yourself with love, for example:
3. Breathe into the Discomfort.
Make space for it.
With every exhale, release the need to fix or control. With every inhale, invite love and compassion into your heart.
4. Trust the Process
Filling your cup isn’t about perfection. It’s about consistently showing up for yourself with love and care, no matter what life throws your way.
A vibration of acceptance — loving acceptance — of life.
5. Be Consistent
This self-love thing is not a one-time decision. It’s a practice.
A decision you consistently make by choosing to accept responsibility to check-in and listen — to your Self.
This is how you build a consistently full cup, and lead with an open heart.
The Power of Giving From the Overflow
When you fill your cup first, you naturally give more freely to others — without taking or controlling to meet your needs.
This is the essence of living in the World of Love.
It’s not about being free of fear — it’s about making small, intentional choices that align with love, over and over and over again.
It’s a practice.
This is why we micro-dose awareness:
In your consistent return to your inner intention, massive transformation unfolds.
Join Us Intentionally Microdosing Life
If this resonates with you, please join me for my next 30 Days Intentionally Microdosing Life short series.
Over 30 days, you’ll learn how to apply NLP and the OAM Method to:
Remember: Nothing in the World of Fear Will EVER Be Enough.
Are you ready to make a different choice?
Discover tools to feel more present, connected, and aligned — because when your cup is full, everything flows.
This is not about perfection. it’s about showing up for yourself first, with love and acceptance — despite what’s apparently happening “to you”.
To outsmart your ego one micro-decision at a time.
Here’s what others have said about the practice ✨
“I’ve tried so many things, but this course helped me come back to myself in ways I never expected.” — Sarah
Ready to shift?
Next workshop begins soon. More info here.
DM me or Kathryn Woolf or email anotherway@oammethod.com for the deets.
Much love,
Renier Jooste
Open Acceptance Method (OAM) Founder, Certified Master NLP & Hypnotherapy Practitioner, Firewalking & Breathwork Instructor, Strategic Intervention Specialist, Body Language & Micro-Expression Expert, Human Behaviour Specialist, Core Human Needs Therapy Practitioner and Reiki Level 2 Practitioner
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