When Blood is Thicker Than Water: Can Family Businesses Thrive?
By Asha Dullabh, Clinical Psychologist
Growing up in a household deeply entrenched in the family business environment, I experienced firsthand the intricate dynamics of “blood, water, and clots” within our family unit. The business was not just a source of income; it was woven into the fabric of our daily lives, making the lines between personal relationships and professional responsibilities often blur. The bonds and intention of loyalty that sustained our family were like the blood that flows through our veins, keeping the business alive. But, as with any system, clots inevitably formed. Family conflicts would sometimes block the healthy flow of communication and cooperation, much like how blood clots disrupt circulation in the body.
This experience is not unique. Over the years, in my practice as a therapist, I have worked with many individuals and families who bring their business struggles into therapy — along with all the clots that come with them. These blockages are sometimes so deeply embedded that they create painful rifts in the family, threatening not only the success of the business but also the harmony of relationships. The phrase "Blood is thicker than water" often takes centre stage in these situations, used to justify loyalty at all costs, but what if we challenge its meaning and explore how families can maintain both their bonds and their business success?
The Real Meaning Behind 'Blood is Thicker Than Water'
Most people interpret the phrase “Blood is thicker than water” to mean that familial bonds should always come before other relationships. However, the original phrase, "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb," suggests that relationships formed by choice, such as business partnerships, can be stronger than those of birth. This shift in meaning is significant for family businesses, where loyalty is often assumed to be automatic but can sometimes be more complex.
Take the story of Ford Motor Company, a classic example of a family business that has balanced loyalty with professionalism over the decades. Founded by Henry Ford in 1903, the company has been passed down through multiple generations of the Ford family. Each generation faced different challenges, from navigating economic downturns to managing the delicate balance between family loyalty and the need for professional leadership. The company's survival and success can be attributed to its ability to honour its family legacy while making tough decisions about leadership and succession.
The Lifeblood of Family Businesses
Family businesses are often built on strong values and traditions passed down through generations, much like the blood that sustains our bodies. These values are the lifeblood of the company, giving it direction and identity. However, just as blood clots can disrupt the flow of oxygen in the body, unresolved family conflicts can block the healthy functioning of the business.
Consider the Walton family, the heirs of Walmart. While the company has enjoyed incredible success, family tensions have at times threatened the harmony of the business. Disputes over control, leadership, and financial decisions led to rifts within the family, but they were able to resolve these “clots” through careful planning and legal agreements, ensuring that both the family and the business continued to thrive.
Family businesses like Ford and Walmart highlight the importance of not only preserving familial bonds but also understanding that business success often requires objectivity, clear communication, and strategic decision-making. Without this balance, even the strongest family ties can become a liability.
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Family Therapy as the Key to Business Longevity
While family ties are strong, they must be nurtured and managed with care, just like the blood that flows through our veins. Family therapy offers a way to dissolve the emotional clots that can disrupt both personal relationships and business success.
My personal journey within a family business and my professional experience as a therapist have given me a unique perspective on the importance of family therapy in these settings. Understanding the balance between personal bonds and professional clarity is critical to ensuring that both the family and the business can thrive without the weight of unresolved issues holding them back.
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3moGreat article. You provide valuable insight and solutions.
Working in Retail Management in diverse portfolios for the last twenty years , ability to work under pressure meet deadlines and possess organizational skills .
3moFamily business in South Africa is the lifeblood of our existence. Families like the Pick and Pay Ackermans and Jeevas who run Afrisave in Port Elizabeth created a business that thrives on familial bonds . They preserve their business for their descendants, they understand the value of hard work and loyalty and the close bonds that are necessary in business to make a successful empire without compromising business or family principles.
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4moNo family business in my genepool. The next generation almost always embarked on different endeavors. Great article though!
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4moGreat Article!