Where does your sense of self worth come from ? I #carolinecares

Theres this story of how a young woman visited her granmas to spend time over lunch and as she offered to help with the chicken her rganma was making she asked her why she used a small cutting board to cut

Her reply was, that’s how we have always been doing things

If not us, then who. If not now then when, the famous late John Lewis of engendering freedom from what I like to call a RAISED AWARENESS that you can be and do it a different way and its OK !

I thought about what would happen by me sharing this message- the shock, the spark of hands-off I would receive

Then I thought about what would happen if I dismissed this message. So here I am

Sometimes delivering a message means going against the unquestioned flow

And like the late John Lewis put it about …- we can be ‘good and necessary trouble

Good because my positive intentions are to trip you into a pause and think more about it

Necessary because of the effects it is causing as a result of looking closer at many of our individual and collective unquestioned behaviors

Many of us have built entire lives on the lowest common denominator

Celebrities, social media influencers, politicians and what we have believed to be their whole lifetsyles

- Or what they project on screen.

- We are living fractured often segmented lives and chasing people whose beliefs only touch the surface of life

- Fancy cars, big following, expensive clothes and make up

Now while all of this is not wrong in itself and to celebrate – you may have worked hard to create a comfortable lifestyle.

Because the optics? They will never really fill that void. Its an inside job.

If you are defining who you are - from this ego based space - it will never be enough.

You will always feel a lack and always feel you need more

It also means you are operating from Lack and scarcity.

Look at kids. Ask a kid, does Santa exist, the kid will say yes. If you ask the kid again, does Santa exist, the kid might say no

AND be PERFECTLY alright with both responses

Paradox offers us scope to recognize how woo seemingly OPPOSING perspectives to something can co-exist in harmony.

Manytimes we believe that our sense of self worth comes from the way people see us, the likes, the many followers

You may have 5 million followers, you may have 4 k followers, you may even have zero followers

So what ?

What is that translating into for YOU ?

I have clients who have all of this and who are miserable.

Some clients come to me and share how each day they'll end up in their rooms alone at night crying themselves to sleep

I say all of that to say this- material things are not bad

Owning and celebrating it is not bad

BUT

• The need to be a part of a daily struggle to show it off to others

• To put on a show, to chase this type of growth that says👇

• The behaviors that say - Look at me, look at my toys, look at how big my following is👇

Also says – who am I with it AND

Who am I without it

I personally had to be sincere about my own following - is this about them or about me ?

Am I able to truly provide value that enables you to level up or is it just about me ?

Imagine if all of these things were taken away from you where would you be

WHO would you be ?

Is your sense of self worth attached to these things ?

Give yourself time to really UNDERSTAND who you are, and what YOU want

Not what the world demands of you. Spend time honestly looking at yourself

Now the second audience I am addressing is viewers:

We have entrepreneurs, job seekers, leaders who view all of this and have a tendency to feel low, feel weak , feel like nothing BECAUSE they see all of this and go – but I want to feel like that, and I want to do that

Many out of jobs, many whose businesses are burning down and yet you don't realize that THAT is just what is on social media and might not be life in its entirety 💡

You may be here – feeling depressed, and unappreciated and lacking self worth and you have believe that self worth = the SHOW

is Your self worth dependent on likes and followers ?

Your self worth must come from a deeper sense that can be developed from the inside.

Your value, your levels of excellence.

Do that. Work on that

I would encourage you to re-evaluate your priorities.

And your motives behind these needs and wants

Why am I choosing THIS job or this company or this role

What does this kind of business as an entrepreneur bring ME

PAUSE to recognize what is true and where happiness REALLY lies

Once we start to work on the work, the amount of this external that is not in line decreases

We magnetize things naturally because we are now RADIATING from a place of sincerity

With Love Only

Caroline Cares

#Leadership #Ownership #Selfworth #Selfawareness #Growth #Valuecreation