WHO ARE YOU? 🤔
In 2013, during a speaking trip to South Africa, I presented at schools with various economic and social backgrounds.
These school visits confirmed one of my ‘Markisms’…a principle that I’ve been teaching for years…“your audience wants to hear you, but they really want to know you.”
Ivory Park Secondary School in Gauteng is a large government high school with students as old as 22. There I faced a large group of older, more ‘challenging’ students, who had been hand-picked by the principal for this special assembly.
After a 30-minute presentation, I offered to answer all their questions…NO HOLDS BARRED! I had to be authentic, vulnerable and fully present, bringing my entire being to the moment.
“Are you married?”
“Happily married for more than 30 years.”
“30 years? Don’t you have a girlfriend on the side?”
He was dead serious. For many of them, the sight of marital infidelity is as natural as breathing. After I replied, “No”, the questions kept coming:
“Did you cut your dreadlocks?”
“Do you smoke marijuana?” (ganja to Jamaicans. Such was their perception of Jamaicans.)
They questioned my studded earring and asked deeply personal questions about me and my American life.
They were genuinely curious and had heard me, but they really wanted to KNOW me.
They were asking, “WHO ARE YOU?”
And they were not alone.
Bekker High School is an exclusive boarding school in MAGALIESBURG where the principal stood out in his lilac-coloured shirt/tie/vest combination.
My scheduled message to grades 7-9 was so well received that the principal asked me to repeat it for grades 11-12.
Several students wanted to become friends on Facebook, adding my e-mail address to their mobile phone address books.
Once again, my audience was asking, “WHO ARE YOU?”
Next was Olievenhoutbosch Christian School, which was at the other end of the social spectrum; no mobile phones here!
My host, Silma, and I rumbled down dirt roads to wend our way to this little school in the middle of Olievenhoutbosch township. Olievenhoutbosch is a township, strategically placed south of Tshwane (Pretoria) as a development area.
Established in 1998 as a squatter’s camp with make-shift shacks, the area now had neighborhoods with very small houses funded and built by the government.
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As we drove into the fenced schoolyard, Silma gave a tin of 4 peppermints to the little boy who opened the gate for us. As he gleefully walked away Silma said, “He’s going to bite each mint in half, and share them with 7 of his friends.”
As Program Director Themba Maluleke showed us around, I saw how impoverished they were.
They played with an old, semi-deflated soccer ball and took turns riding a bicycle with deflated tires.
They didn’t have, they didn’t KNOW that they didn’t have, and they didn’t CARE.
These wide-eyed children were eager to hear from a man who had come all the way from America. They wanted to hear me, dance with me, touch me, and I was moved.
When I posed for photos with some of the children, they were thrilled.
They too had been asking, “WHO ARE YOU?”
At times I reflect on my experience at those three very different educational institutions; a large government high school, an exclusive boarding school, and an impoverished Christian school in a township.
At all three locations, the students had been asking me indirectly, “WHO ARE YOU?” and it reinforced a powerful truth.
Regardless of circumstance, economic situation, location, education, or anything else, our audiences not only want to hear us, they really want to know us.
Here’s my ask.
When you deliver a presentation, be fully present, authentic and vulnerable.
Bring your entire being, your personality and the sum total of your experiences, negative and positive.
Our audiences want to establish relationships with us, to share an experience with us, and to know us.
Every time we take the platform…physical or virtual…our audience needs the answer to one question:
“WHO ARE YOU?”
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1yThank you, thank you, Mark, so beautiful and heart-melting. ❤️ 💖 ❤️
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1yA thoughtful reminder. Trust is at the heart of any pitch, presentation or speech. And, as you say, with new audiences, it is nigh on impossible to build that trust unless we go some way to answering the question of "Who I am" and "Why me". Thanks for sharing Mark.
Thank you Mark Brown, CSP for your valuable insight, as usual! Being authentic and telling personal stories can definitely help connect with our audience. For outstanding speakers like you, this goes without saying, but for the rest of us, I'd like to remind that : 👉 when we tell something about ourselves, we should think about what it brings to the audience. In other words: 👉 the audience only wants to get to know you if it brings value to them (inspiration, knowledge, distraction, hope, the satisfaction of knowing a bit more about your idol or whatever) IMHO Have a great day
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1yThanks for sharing insights about who you are during your time in South Africa.