Why should we stop worrying about what others will say, and start living for ourselves?

“Log Kya Kahenge (What will people say?) is a dangerous disease that has the majority of India’s population concerned and upset. They believe their reputation is at stake. And in our country, one’s reputation is always based on what others think and speak. It is typically not based on one’s ability.

I would advise you that it is difficult to keep people’s thoughts positive at all times, because our reputation is dependent on the compassionate vision of people who think small, talk nonsense, and do a lot of harm to others. These judgmental people who judge others have a large ego and do not believe in embracing new perspectives.

In contrast, in our own society, “how times are changing” is frequently discussed, and a sense of acceptance is growing. But this is not always the case. There are also many instances that cause me to question this.

Are times truly changing? If so, why can’t my best friend break free from the constraints of her sexuality? Why was my colleague forced into an arranged marriage against his will? What’s wrong with me being single at 30? And why can’t my widowed aunt remarry without offending anyone?

On such topics, it can be difficult to change society’s old patterns. However, if we all work together, it is not impossible. I believe the first step towards improving this is to focus on ourselves rather than what others think of us. We are currently more concerned with what others think of us than with ‘what we think about ourselves’, which is the worst thing.

Perhaps at some point you will agree with what I am saying. If you’re not sure how to handle such situations, or if you know someone who does, read on.

1. Understand that ‘what people think’ is beyond your control.

Whatever you do, understand that you have no control over the thoughts of others. If you believe you have the ability to influence how others perceive you, you are mistaken. What others truly think of you is beyond your control. And knowing what you do is not anyone else’s responsibility, nor should it be. So, understand and accept it.

2. Self-love: Develop the habit of loving yourself.

The more you love yourself and accept your own choices, the less you need others. The more you love and accept yourself, the more self-loving and self-sufficient you will become. It is critical to be kind and forgive yourself for your mistakes.

With this, I wish you a life of laughter, joy, freedom, self-esteem, and fearless love. We have only a limited amount of time on Earth. And that is why you should ensure that your life does not become a compromise. “Some people will say, It is the job of the people to say... Leave it, lest you get wasted in useless talk, brother!”

3. Please don’t question why you care about others.

It’s critical to understand why you’re so concerned about what others say or think about you. We’ve grown up in a society whose rules are set by our relatives. We are concerned that if our clothing and lifestyle do not conform to social “norms,” we will be disliked. It is simply a form of social adaptation that we must now overcome.

So, what’s my whole point?

It takes a big toll when you start expressing yourself in a community-oriented culture. At the same time, it will be a foolish way of living if we can't express our true selves in real life. This will add a lot of frustration in life and desperation is the end result.

In my opinion, an average person lives around 60 years. Some countries have a longer life span, I agree with that. Our best times are the youthful age, slowly moving up to the 40s. Once we cross 50s, we are bound to have a lot of diseases, health challenges, and of course lifestyle changes. All we have is some good years. Within a blink of an eye, we become old. I still can’t believe I entered into the 30s, and my college days are a memory. We are ageing so fast, my friends!

I must say, think about this. ‘Log Kya Kahenge’ is bad for your mental health. It's better to channel our individuality in a positive way to stand out and feel happy.

Thank you for reading.

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Take care,

I love you all!