A wise man is known by his silence

“We spend the first sixty years of your lives learning how to speak. The next twenty are spent in learning how to hold our tongue.” Wisdom is not not about securing pleasure, but avoiding pain. Hence, it is highly likely that the wise old man once said nothing for he did not want the pain he could've faced if he had said it. Speaking is a pleasure of sorts, and wisdom only let's you gain pleasure as long as there is no pain along with it.

When you are young life is in the doing. When you are old life is in the knowing when you are young you want to change the world. When you are old you know you can only change yourself. When you are young success is in the future. When you are old success is how you lived. When you are young tolerance is putting up with what you don’t like when you are old tolerance is knowing that others too, have battles to fight. When you are young wisdom is knowing. When you are old wisdom is understanding.

To me it means that a wise man is mostly in his head figuring things out that most people cannot answer the questions that a wise person ask; and, a weak man has to have people around him to justify his actions and existence. A wise man don’t need to have people around him to know that he is great or exist within this plane of existence we call earth. He is a loner because he is in search of his true self and many times being surrounded by people hinder his process. A weak man so called need people to make him feel wanted. He need others to verify that he is a good person and that lonely is looked at as a problem even if we are alone at some time in one’s life. A wise man will always try to fit in but cannot and a weak man will always fit in, because he has a hard time knowing how to be himself.

Nice person is the one who thinks about immediate surrounding, while good person is the one who thinks about vast surrounding and future too. For example, If group of celebrities visit a college. Many students will rush to take selfies with them. They will bother and irritate the celebrities a lot. Nice person among celebrities will allow most of the students to take selfie with them with a smile on face and lots of irritation inside them.

While, A good person among celebrities will say ‘No' for selfie to students in rude manner. Here, a good person is thinking about vast surrounding and future. “ If I allow this guy to take selfie, more people will come. Each and every celebrity will get bothered. After some limit, celebrities will call bouncers for help. Students will get humiliated….So to avoid all of this, I will behave rudely with one guy. Good person takes blame and stands as a bad person for a noble reason.

Simple example: Annoying guests arrives at home. Whole family gets disturbed with their arrival. There are two brothers in family. One speaks very politely with guests and takes care of them. Guests becomes happy and praises his parents for his well upbringing. First brother is a nice person. While, Second brother behaves rudely with them. Asks them embarrassing questions. Humiliate them with sweet sarcasm. Guests feel bad for it and leaves home as quickly as possible. Yes you guessed it right. Second brother is a good person. Cheers!