Is Your Goal Built on Inspiration or Desperation?

There’s two different ways to create a goal.

One that’s from the left brain (desperation), one from the right brain(inspiration). One is sustainable and fun and one is fear and pressure based.

The source, the foundation of the goal will determine the success of the journey. This will determine if you feel good about pursuing them or not. If you deeply understand how the brain works, this is critical to start off on the right track. As a reminder it will move you towards what feels GOOD and FAMILIAR. It loves certainty, it loves knowing that you’re ok, safe and it will be ok. (so tell it literally you got this!) Starting off on the right foot also sets the emotional state as you go through your journey. Be miserable, strenuous, and stressful experience, Or fun, exciting, evoke curiosity, peace, love and abundance experience. It’s your choice!

Inspiration or Desperation

Desperation(left brain, fear based, survival brain): (suffering) motives through fear, scarcity, urgency, heavy, comparison, a burden, obligation, feels like a huge task, frantic, desperation, shame, lack, pain, confining, limiting, external pressure, avoiding failure, meeting societal expectations, and the need for immediate resolution. It creates an urgency that forces us to overcome resistance, push through our most challenging situations, and achieve our objectives. Riddled in imposter syndrome and there’s a sense of not enough time to do it. This is typically extrinsically driven (outside in). These goals often lack soul; they're pragmatic, short-term fixes. There’s a sense of feeling like you’re never enough, worst of all if you do accomplish the goal within a short time, the same feelings of lack resurface. The feeling once again of not feeling content arises and not being able to savor what you have done for it never feels like enough. There's ongoing outsourcing, searching to see what others are doing and seeking out how they are successful. Setting again another desperation goal, usually even bigger, that continues to gnaw away at your soul, because it’s not in alignment. There’s something you’re also wanting or believing it will solve at the end, typically a feeling you’re desperately trying to fill or avoid. There’s a sense of HAVE to do it, verses wanting to or seeing it as important. These usually are exciting in the moment, but an undertone of lack and desperation to bring it to life.

Inspiration(right brain, creative, innovative, a good feeling internally, it's important and feels good): (focus on the person you want to become, make it obvious, attractive, easy and satisfying) is a motivator that produces positive feelings. These are created because you feel deeply moved, inspired, expansive, it feels like a calling, it feels like a powerful force of life within wanting to be expressed outward into the physical world. This is why painters paint, dancers dance, why writers write why singers sing, even if they don’t get paid they feel a pull of gravitation towards it. They feel compelled to do it. This type of goal setting comes from a place of abundance and intrinsic (internal fire and drive). Goals are set because of simply wanting to, it’s important to you (no other reason, no agenda, no expectations). This comes from a wholeness and abundance, it’s from a place of joy and excitement for life and to see what you will learn and how it will stretch you. It evokes a sense of enthusiasm, joy, and fulfillment, enabling us to channel our energy into productive endeavors. It comes from a place of wanting to share your gifts, talents or to build and strengthen what you have or want to create. It comes from a deep inspiration to self and those that you care about. This comes from a place of whole, complete and capable, joy and excitement. When we are inspired, we are motivated by an inner calling, a deep sense of purpose, passion, and belief in what we want to achieve. Inspiration provides long-lasting and sustainable motivation. It propels us to set meaningful goals, pursue our worthy dreams, and unleash our inner drive.

The next step is creating systems (schedule that you keep, you are indeed an accumulation of the habits and systems you’ve had in place) that lead you to your goals. Who do you have to be on a daily basis to achieve your goal? What stupid small step can you take for 30 days to build self-confidence?

What’s your new identity?

(you’re not wanting to write a book you’re wanting to become a writer: you’re not wanting to run a marathon you are wanting to become a runner. Building evidence and proof that you are who you say you are, is setting stupid small goals, and tokens of trust to yourself that you are who you say you are.

What’s the two-minute rule for you in this goal daily?

By the way, do you realize how long a minute is? So many clients claim they "are busy" or "I don't have time" but if you do a plank (exercise movement) or a wall sit (another exercise move) for a full minute you will realize being fully present in the moment a minute is a rather long time. I digress.. Mastering the habit of showing up daily is essential for achieving success. By breaking down your goals into smaller, manageable tasks, you can easily identify potential obstacles and plan ahead to overcome them. Consistency is key in reaching your goals, and by dedicating just two minutes each day to working towards them, you can make steady progress and stay on track. Remember, every small step you take brings you closer to your ultimate goal.

Identifying and understanding your values is an important step in achieving your goals.

When your values are in alignment with your goals, the journey towards achieving them becomes smoother and more fulfilling. However, if your values do not align with your goals, you may find yourself facing challenges and obstacles that make the process feel arduous and overwhelming. It is crucial to ensure that your values are in harmony with your goals in order to maintain a sense of purpose and motivation throughout the journey. By holding firmly to the values that will lead you towards your goal, you can create a strong foundation for success and ensure that your efforts are sustainable in the long run.

If prioritizing having dinner with your family every evening while watching TV is important to you, you value this and your loved ones, and your fundamental belief is in forming connections with others and bonding over meals and TV time, but your objective is to lose weight and they are not supportive or unwilling to eat the same foods or make changes, then there is a misalignment with your values. This can create friction and make you feel like an outsider within your community or tribe, as your actions may not align with theirs. Humans don't do well when feeling left out or different.

When it comes to habit formation, there is often a period of trial and error that occurs within the first 30 days. During this time, our brain is adjusting to new behaviors and routines, trying to find what feels good and familiar. This period of adjustment is crucial in solidifying new habits and making them stick for the long term. It's important to be patient with ourselves during this process and to keep experimenting until we find the habits that work best for us. Remember, change takes time and persistence, but the results are well worth the effort in the end.

(feedback loop)Your brain loves rewards, so be careful what you expose your brain to reward wise (video games or other things that may not be what you want a habit of long term)

What is it that you are really wanting? (feeling is what we all want)

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