What do you do if your motivation and confidence plummet after failure?

Failure is part of growth. Giving up is not. Retrain and reframe your thoughts. If you fail foward then learning and growth occurs. You can arguably say that failure breeds resilience. We don’t live in a perfect conditioned bubble, that is not realistic. Prepare to handle the situation as best as you can. For example, when you first embark in a strength training program, the weights don’t get easier you get stronger. You can also say that the situations in life don’t get easier you just get better equipped to handle them. Acknowledge, accept, and see where there are areas of opportunity. Progress and growth are never a linear and upward path.

Failure is part of life. It doesn’t define you, it’s just what it is. Accept it and understand that no one that has ever built any type of “success” achieved it without setbacks. Keep going.

We will all fail at times. The key to remind oneself is that failing teaches us. We are never mastrers always students and to move forward we have to build resilience, be kind to ourselves and stop comparing. Failure can also sow self-doubt which is normal however try to stop focusing on what you didn't do rather on what you can do going forward. Acceptance can be tough however reality is that no one ever succeeds at everything and failure is there for our own growth and development. Find joy in the ordinary things - sometimes we are so focused on success that we forget to enjoy the simplicity of wonderful moments. I watch animated movies when I am feeling flat - they make me laugh and are so good in reawakening our childlike spirit.

I have started to look at failure differently. I allow myself to feel the failure but then I almost get excited by my failures. I remember that feeling and how I don't want to feel that way again. I work harder, doesn't matter if it is on a specific skill or discipline in my workouts so that the next time I face that same challenge I can "run" through it. It's all dependent on my "why". To get stronger, look better, compete, my "why" drives me to get better!

Allow yourself the space to feel what comes up without qualifying it. Sure, failures can bring insight and improvements to a next attempt. But in the moment, failing sucks. A strategy I like to use after a failure is giving myself a timeboxed grief session. I allow myself X amount of time to let it all out. After I have my session, I set my mind to what's next. This strategy allows me to feel all of the feelings associated with my failure and validate my experience, but I don't sit in it. I get up and get after the next thing.

It's hard to reframe failure as learning, but it's probably one of the only ways to see it as a step forward rather than a step back. I have recently lost an important client, and it felt like a failure. After a day or two, I pulled myself up and asked myself how I can learn from that for future engagements. An insight came to me that I have to spend even more time understanding what keeps my clients with me. This kind of reframing helps us look forward, not back. We don't have to get stuck in regret.

I’ve never met an entrepreneur who hasn’t had to rise up after a soul crushing failure. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy to pick yourself up and go again. I find these questions helpful to identify a pattern that could contribute to repeat issues: * Is this a situation that has happened before? * Could there be a habit or behavior in myself I need to address? * Is there anything I could have done better to avoid this failure? * What can I improve on so I can integrate the lesson, and move on? * Do I need to have some grace with myself (or someone else) to diffuse the disappointment? * What can I do now to move closer to the desired outcome? Failure happens to everyone - but what we do afterwards that matters next.

This is a great time to think over, what went wrong, and what would you do differently next time. What are the lessons to reap from this experience? Failing is but an opportunity to learn from your mistakes and come back stronger and wiser.

You just have to reflect. Most times, failure is due to the fact that you missed some tiny details along the way. Deep reflection will help you retrace your steps and provide a rear-view into your actions that led to the failure.

Reflektieren: was lerne ich aus dem Misserfolg? War das Ziel realistisch? Warum ist das Ziel (immernoch) attraktiv? War der Weg angemessen? Wie könnte ich den Weg / die Strategie anpassen? Dann einen neuen (am besten SMARTen) Plan aufstellen und mit neuer Motivation losgehen 💪

Adjust your expectations and set realistic goals for yourself moving forward. Recognize that setbacks and failures are a natural part of the journey towards success, and it's okay to experience setbacks along the way. Focus on progress rather than perfection, and celebrate small victories and milestones along the way.

Además, la aceptación de los fracasos nos libera del peso del perfeccionismo y nos permite abrazar la imperfección como parte integral del proceso de crecimiento. Nos enseña a ser más compasivos con nosotros mismos y con los demás, fomentando un ambiente de colaboración y apoyo mutuo. En el ámbito profesional, las organizaciones que promueven una cultura que acepta el fracaso como parte del camino hacia la innovación y el progreso son aquellas que florecen incluso en los momentos más difíciles. Los líderes que reconocen y valoran los fracasos de sus equipos como oportunidades de aprendizaje fomentan la creatividad, la confianza y el compromiso de sus colaboradores.

A single failure doesn't necessarily mean you need to adjust your goals. Failure is information: it's the result of a single experiment. Your experiment might suggest that the strategies or tactics you're using to pursue your goal might need adjustment. Or maybe your goals, strategies and tactics - your strategic plan - still look sound, but your follow-through and/or systems let you down on execution this time around. What changes seem most likely to lead to a more successful outcome next time? It's possible a failure (or more likely a series of failures) does signal that your ultimate goals aren't aligned with you highest strengths or current capabilities - in which case you could re-target and/or set some intermediate growth goals.

Como dice un dicho, comienza de a un paso a la vez. Esta bien que nuestros objetivos sean grandes y pretensiosos, pero a veces querer alcanzarlos en un solo intento es poco realista. Hacer un listado de pasos que nos van a ayudar a alcanzar esos objetivos es lo que nos permite sin darnos cuenta, llegar a cumplirlos...

Reach out to friends, family members, or mentors for support and encouragement during this challenging time. Share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with trusted individuals who can offer perspective, guidance, and encouragement. Surround yourself with a supportive network of people who believe in you and your abilities.

Once you’ve accepted that “it is what it is”, you can start to move forward. After decades of experience learning from my own failures and helping others, I strongly recommend seeking support from your boss, HR, or an internal mentor. Depending on the size of the setback, and only if it’s an affordable option for you, an external coach can also be of huge benefit if you can afford the investment of time and money. Choose a coach with shared values and who will not only support you but also challenge you to reflect, learn and grow. Best wishes whichever coach you choose to work with.

Failure is subjective. Usually we judge ourselves based on societal dictates, which is under to ourselves. Things not going our way can be hard - but it is not a reflection of who one is. Fall, stand, dust yourself and move on

Cuando nos enfrentamos a un fracaso, es natural sentirnos abrumados o desanimados. En estos momentos, buscar el apoyo de amigos, familiares o mentores puede proporcionarnos una perspectiva diferente y brindarnos el consuelo emocional que necesitamos. Compartir nuestras experiencias con personas de confianza nos permite sentirnos comprendidos y nos ayuda a procesar nuestras emociones de manera saludable.

Seek mentorship. If you don’t have a mentor consider finding one in your industry. Someone who knows the nuisances of your industry can offer interesting and helpful insights. They may be able to provide you with information on growth and development. You can align the information you receive with developing future S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Learning from your failures with a growth mindset can be the accelerant needed to fuel development in the future. Being curious and having awareness around your obstacles can give you new paths to explore to build your roadmap of success. One thing I have learned in coaching leaders is that having awareness is just the start, how will you apply in order to execute with new commitments and ownership? Build out both lagging and leading indicators so that you can measure your performance towards reaching your goals. Leading indicators or actions are the KPI's that get left off regularly and in order to gauge your progress, they are essential to knowing where you are growing as well as the opportunities are for improvement.

Sometimes you’re not in your best moments of your life and career. But looking back in my life those are the moments I grew the most. That’s what I have always in mind. I’m here to grow. And failures make me grow faster

Al buscar apoyo en el fracaso, no solo fortalecemos nuestra propia resiliencia, sino que también contribuimos a fortalecer las relaciones con quienes nos rodean. El acto de compartir nuestras vulnerabilidades nos conecta a un nivel más profundo y nos recuerda que no estamos solos en nuestras luchas.

I evaluate mistakes, get feedback and find other options to get to the goal. As much as we choose to fall, it's also our decision to stand up and continue moving forward.

Some times when things don’t go as expected, we get into a paralysis for analysis, trying to find something to blame outside of ourselves, instead of understanding the root cause, learn from it and take new actions. And this because we lean to focus on the problem, instead of focusing on the solution or we give a negative meaning to the problem, making it bigger than it actually is, which can become overwhelming for us. So we need to see the situation as neutral as possible, so we can learn from it, define a new purpose or commitment to focus on and then to take different actions to achieve it.

Failure and rejection are a part of life. Therefore, it's important to take them as means for learning and growth. One should not be afraid of falling and failing and actually work on that fear so that one can learn to rise everytime you fall or fail.

We all fail at some point in our life, but learning from that failure, realizing the lesson, and ensuring that you not only never make the same mistake but know that you can find a different pathway or opportunity to achieving the results and goals, that's what keeps you motivated to rise to the next challenge. Also accepting help and guidance helps keep you focussed and you know you are supported. Those are the keys to rising from the ashes of failure.

People say that if you’re not failing you’re not trying something new. If you’re going out of your comfort zone then that’s where the growth happens, you probably won’t have the map to navigate this new terrain and that’s ok. You might have a similar map from similar experience, or there is likely someone out there you can learn from along the way. We can be ‘unconsciously incompetent’ before we start something new, and then become quickly ‘consciously incompetent’ as we take those first steps. This can feel uncomfortable especially if we have perfectionist tendencies or our worth in the past was tied to accomplishments. The best way to learn is by doing, and as Susan Jeffers says - Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!

Failure happens to everyone at some point. The first and most important thing I personally go to is the knowing that nothing in life is more important than life and health itself! Failure to achieve either of these is the only failure worth its salt! A job, a football match, money, cars, sunny days etc etc are only temporary

En el ámbito profesional, buscar el apoyo de colegas o líderes puede ser especialmente beneficioso. Una cultura organizacional que fomente la colaboración y el trabajo en equipo brinda un entorno propicio para compartir experiencias de fracaso y aprender unos de otros. En lugar de ocultar los errores por temor al juicio, es importante promover una mentalidad de apertura y confianza en la que el fracaso sea visto como una oportunidad de aprendizaje y crecimiento.

The biggest breakthroughs come through the worst breakdowns. Be all in it. Then keep going.

It’s ok to mourn the loss. Process it and ask yourself questions: where did things change/go wrong? What could I/we have done differently? Do I want to continue with this line of work? Is it time for change? Learn from your colleagues and mentors. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Assess and decide how to move forward!

We tend to celebrate when things go well and not celebrate when things don’t. Reframing how we think about failure can help us understand where the challenge might be. In science failure is a default test mode because they keep testing and testing until they find a solution. If we can look at every setback as our greatest feedback and lessons to improve, tweak and get better, we can then understand that failure not only makes us greater but makes us more aware, optimised and not seek for perfection but for progress.

In reconstructing a sense of motivation and confidence post-failure, it is essential to set realistic goals and break them down into manageable steps. By celebrating small victories along the way, individuals can gradually regain momentum and rekindle their passion for success. Additionally, seeking support from mentors, peers, or coaches can provide valuable insights and guidance during this process.

Failure doesn't exist! Acknowledge what happened, accept your feelings, feel them and then change your perspective. _Failure is just feedback. _Now you have new data to work on. _You actually succeeded because you went for it and took the actions required. _Ask yourself what was positive about this experience and what did I learn about myself and in general? _Celebrate and be grateful, the fact that you have challenges means that you are alive. _Tomorrow is a brand new day and a brand new beginning.