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😱 Those dreaded words 'Would you like some feedback?' 😱 Feedback can be a double-edged sword. It's essential for growth, yet its delivery can deeply affect us. How do we handle feedback that's hard to hear without losing our composure or self-esteem? I recently read about a woman who, tongue-in-cheek (I assume!) requested feedback format based on its nature. If they feedback was going to be positive, she preferred to meet face-to-face to savour the moment. If it was constructive feedback (which we all understand is constructive criticism!) she asked to receive it via email so the sender wouldn't see her cry! This isn't just about feedback; it's about recognising our vulnerabilities and managing them with grace. Surely feedback is good - as I've said, it's essential for growth. But does it depend on how it's delivered, and the person delivering it? How do you feel about feedback? How do you prefer to receive it (if at all)? Share your experiences and strategies in the comments below. Let’s learn from each other on how to handle feedback with resilience and grace without losing our cool! #PersonalGrowth #Feedback #ProfessionalGrowth #EmotionalIntelligence #Resilience #ConstructiveFeedback 😱

Ask for feedback! I don't need to state why feedback is so important. But we do need to encourage people, especially young people, asking for more of it. It's a scary thing, to make yourself vulnerable and invite feedback but it can also be the same thing that empowers you - not knowing and sitting in the dark is so much worse. And as with any skill, the more you practice, the easier it becomes. 🫣 My advice for asking for feedback: 1. Do an audit 📝 - of whatever it is you're asking about. Use a SWOT analysis and take time to reflect on it yourself before you ask someone else 2. What do you want 🤷♀️ - from the conversation, the feedback and for yourself. 'I want to leave knowing and feeling X' 3. Probe ☝️ - if feedback is vague, ask the who/what/how/why/where questions for a deeper understanding 4. Think critically 🧠 - especially if the feedback isn't requested or it's with someone you don't have the best relationship, keep thinking critically about it, especially if it's posed as advice - it doesn't always need to be followed. Finally a tip I learnt from the ever amazing Stefanie Sword-Williams FRSA (she/her) - make a photo album or email label of 'good things' and save all the good feedback/moments so you have undeniable evidence of your capability in moments of self doubt. 🔥 #feedback #askingforfeedback #selfdoubt #confidence

🌟 Understanding Your True Value Beyond Feedback! 🌟 Today, I had an enlightening discussion with one of my subordinates about the nature of feedback and its impact on our self-worth. This conversation inspired me to share some thoughts on the importance of understanding that our value is not solely defined by the feedback we receive at work. (!!!) 🔍 Why Reflect on Feedback? Growth Mindset: Feedback helps us identify areas for improvement, fostering a culture of continuous learning and adaptation. Self-Awareness: Reflecting on feedback encourages us to understand our strengths and areas where we can excel even further. Balanced Perspective: Not all feedback will be positive, but it's important to maintain a balanced view. Constructive criticism is an opportunity for growth, not a measure of our worth. 💡 Key Takeaways: Separate Identity from Feedback: Your value as a professional is multifaceted and shouldn't be solely determined by feedback. Your skills, experiences, and unique perspectives contribute significantly to your worth. Reflect, Don’t React: Take time to reflect on feedback before reacting. Understand the context and consider how it aligns with your personal and professional goals. Seek Constructive Feedback: Proactively ask for feedback that can help you grow. Focus on actionable insights rather than taking critiques personally. Celebrate Your Wins: Acknowledge your achievements and strengths regularly. Positive reinforcement is as important as constructive criticism. In the end, remember that feedback is a tool for growth, not a definitive judgment of your capabilities. Embrace it with an open mind, and let it guide you towards continuous improvement and success. #ProfessionalGrowth #Feedback #SelfImprovement #Leadership #ContinuousLearning #GrowthMindset

Feedback is just information. It’s up to you to decide what to do with it 🚀 Many of us don’t like getting feedback. It can stir up feelings of anger, defensiveness, or frustration. But here’s the truth: Feedback isn’t a judgment - it’s simply just information ℹ️ How you choose to use it is what truly matters. And the key to making feedback easier ... Mutual permission 🤝 When you and others have an open, trust-based relationship, feedback becomes less about criticism and more about growth. The more you practice it, the more natural it becomes. A great tool to structure feedback is the AID Model: 🎬 Action – What specific action did you observe or hear? 👊 Impact – How did it impact you, others, or performance? ✔️ Do – What would you like the person to do more of or less of? Once you establish that trust, asking for feedback can be just as easy as giving it. After all, feedback is designed to improve your performance. To get the most out of asking for feedback, focus on specific elements of your performance. Instead of getting tangled in emotions, separate the facts from the interpretation. Evaluate whether you agree with the person’s perspective and, ultimately, you decide whether to act on their suggestions - or not. Action: This week, find one person to ask for feedback and one person to give feedback to using the AID model - let us know how you get on in the comments 📣 #Leadership #Feedback #MutualPermission

Do you ever get nervous when someone says, "Can I give you some feedback?" You're not alone! It's natural to be defensive, but what if we told you that Constructive Criticism is a hidden gem in your journey to success? Making the Most Out of Feedback Constructive criticism can be your superpower if you learn to embrace it with an open mind. Turn every piece of feedback into an opportunity with these simple strategies: 👂 Listen Actively: When receiving feedback, listen without interrupting. Understanding the perspective of others can provide invaluable insights. 🤔 Ask Questions: If something isn't clear, don't hesitate to ask for clarification. This shows you're engaged and willing to improve. 💡 Reflect Objectively: Take a step back and assess the feedback. Try to detach personal feelings and see the comments as a roadmap for growth. 🔨 Create an Action Plan: Identify the actionable points in the feedback and set goals to implement changes. Remember, feedback is about behavior and strategies, not your personal worth. 🌱 Grow: Embrace each critique as a catalyst for personal and professional development. Remember, the goal of constructive criticism isn't to point out flaws—it's to pave the way for growth and improvement. So next time you receive feedback, welcome it as a valuable resource! 👉 Follow us for more insights on turning everyday experiences into extraordinary opportunities for growth! #FeedbackIsAGift #GrowthMindset #PersonalDevelopment #ProfessionalGrowth #ConstructiveCriticism #EmbraceFeedback #CareerAdvancement #SelfImprovement #ActiveListening #PersonalGrowth #ContinuousImprovement #CareerGoals #SuccessMindset #SkillBuilding #LeadershipSkills

If I asked, “Can I give you some feedback?”, how would you feel? Feedback often carries negative connotations, and I think it is because we don’t actively invite it. If you never ask for feedback, you aren’t going to get it very often. And when you do, you are going to get it when someone feels compelled to share – that is, when it’s “negative.” We have many great questions for inviting feedback regularly. When you are initiating the feedback, you are more likely to get positive feedback, and you are ready to receive it even when it is constructive. Try out a couple of questions I like to recommend to get actionable feedback: – What’s one thing I can do differently to _____? – How could I have approached _____ differently? Both of these questions ASSUME there is something you can learn and make people think critically about how to help you improve. When we seek feedback, we are in a better headspace for it, and we are going to get more out of it. It isn’t easy, but if we can see feedback as a gift, as an opportunity to grow, then it will be. I know I am still on the journey to do this well. How has your relationship with feedback evolved over the years? #Feedback #GrowthMindset #LeadershipDevelopment

You can't escape it! So, what's your plan? . . A friend reached out to express their disappointment about something you did. It's important to recognize that feedback is meant to help you grow and improve, not criticize you personally. . . Firstly, try to listen carefully to the feedback without getting defensive. Take a moment to understand what the person is saying and ask for clarification if needed. Remind yourself that nobody is perfect, and there's always room for improvement. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects, try to see the feedback as an opportunity to learn and develop a new skill. Reflect on the feedback privately and consider how you can use it to make positive changes in your work or behaviour. If you're struggling to accept the feedback on your own, consider seeking advice or support from a trusted colleague who can provide additional perspective. Over time, with practice and an open mindset, you'll likely find it easier to accept constructive feedback and use it to your advantage. . . #MaryMirembe #CertifiedPurposeCoach #LeadershipTrainer #ConstructiveFeedBack #UseItWell

When was the last time you received feedback from someone? It could be from your loved ones, friends, family, or even a colleague. How did it make you feel? What emotions did it trigger inside? And most importantly, how did you respond? Recently, I received some feedback that wasn’t easy to digest at first. Like many of us, my initial reaction was discomfort, maybe even a bit of defensiveness. But after taking a step back and shifting my perspective, I realized how valuable it was for my growth. We often tell ourselves we're open to feedback, but is that really the case?  If you think back, have you ever noticed a pattern in how you react, especially when the feedback isn’t all positive?  It’s human nature to feel defensive or uncomfortable when hearing constructive criticism. Research shows that when we receive critical feedback, it activates our brain’s “fight or flight” response, making us more likely to react emotionally rather than rationally. Studies also suggest that nearly 70% of employees become disengaged after receiving negative feedback, underscoring how challenging it can be to accept it openly. But feedback is inevitable. The question is, what mindset do you want to hold when receiving it? How can we move from being defensive to seeing feedback as an opportunity for growth? By becoming more aware of our emotional triggers and consciously shifting our mindset to one of learning, we can transform feedback into a powerful tool for improvement. What’s one step you can take to approach feedback constructively today? #Leadership #FeedbackCulture #GrowthMindset #SelfDevelopment #EmotionalIntelligence #LeadershipCoaching #ConstructiveFeedback #ProfessionalGrowth #LeadershipExcellence #ExecutiveCoaching #TrainingConsultant #Resilience #SuccessMindset #MindCanvasCoachingandConsulting #Coaching

How to Give and Receive Constructive Feedback Despite it being crucial for both personal and professional growth, many of us struggle with both giving and receiving effective feedback. Keep reading below are some effective ways to both give and receive constructive feedback with ease Giving constructive feedback 1) Be specific - Only talk about certain behaviour and not personal traits. 2) Be objective - Ensure your feedback is grounded in facts and not tainted with personal bias. 3) Balance - Always include positive feedback with criticism 4) Solution-oriented - Instead of just pointing out the problem, go a step ahead and offer solutions. Receiving constructive feedback 1) Active listening:  Listen without interrupting.  understand before responding. 2) Open mind: view feedback as an opportunity for growth instead of criticism. 3) Reflect : Take some time to understand and reflect on the feedback. Acknowledge and take accountability. 4) Action : Post reflection, create an action plan to address the issue. Outline what it will take for you to improve and monitor yourself. Country to popular belief feedback can be a force for good. Constructive feedback has the power to build trust and nurture transparent communication. #Feedback #ProfessionalGrowth #Leadership #CommunicationSkills #WorkplaceCulture #ContinuousImprovement #SoftSkills

3 Common Mistakes Most People Make When Giving Feedback And How To Avoid Them Giving feedback is essential, primarily if you work in a small team. Feedback is an essential opportunity for you and the person receiving it to grow. But be mindful because negative feedback can ruin a relationship instead of making it more robust if you don't deliver it properly. If you want to improve your feedback delivery skill, avoid these 3 mistakes: Mistake #1: Being honest is enough. For a long time, I thought being honest was the only thing that mattered when giving feedback. But I was wrong. Delivery skills are as essential as the feedback itself. Mistake #2: Giving feedback immediately. Giving feedback immediately is better because the other person has all the context to receive it. But there is one catch: Are you ready to give feedback? I wrote this post with 5 questions you can ask yourself to ensure you are ready to give feedback: https://lnkd.in/dDSQg-Vb Mistake #3: Negative in public or positive in private. When giving feedback, especially as a leader, you should follow this rule: negative in private, positive in public. When someone does something good, give that feedback in public. On the other hand, if you need to deliver negative feedback, do that privately. Keeping in mind these 3 mistakes helped me a lot. Be a good team player and avoid these mistakes. If you want to learn a simple method to deliver feedback, you can check my post in the first comment. #FeedbackTips #EffectiveFeedback #Teamwork #ProfessionalGrowth #LeadershipSkills #WorkplaceCommunication #TeamDynamics #FeedbackStrategy #GrowthMindset #LeadershipDevelopment #ProfessionalDevelopment #CommunicationSkills #TeamBuilding #WorkplaceTips #PositiveWorkEnvironment