4 Tips to Usher Positivity Into Your Life

You get what you give....

What goes around comes around....

Whatever you sow...so shall you reap...

We've heard them all and no matter what your belief system is or is NOT we've all certainly been exposed to the "Golden Rule" mantra. It's all the same... 

Do good and good will return the favor.

So why then is THIS happening to me?

This is a question that I'm afraid can only be answered by the ancients. I'm not sure who the ancients are but I'm relying on them to tell me all the great mysteries of the universe one of these days.

Until then we must realize that as beautiful as life is one of the unfortunate parts of our existence is suffering. We all either will or have experienced it in some shape, form, or fashion. However, this life is all we've got. The NOW... The PRESENT.... that's the time period we're operating in..not yesterday...and certainly not tomorrow...this very MOMENT IS IT!!! And half the battle in living a life that's as stress-free as possible is developing mechanisms that will help us better cope when negativity and the forces of darkness loom heavy. 

I try (and I emphasize try..because I'm human...we all are) to be cognizant of my actions.

✔️ The way I react to others...

✔️ The thoughts I entertain...

✔️ The energy I give certain situations...

Learning to deal with just those three things in a more positive way can have either a beneficial or detrimental impact on me...and I choose to benefit...because the choice is ultimately MINE!

I'm no guru but I don't mind sharing tips that have worked for me. Because at the end of the day it's all about reaching back, pulling up, or giving that nudge to those who need it most. 

So...you're one of the lucky ones!

I'm giving you that nudge in hopes that it will help illuminate your path and usher a bit of positivity into your life...

Ready?....Lets do this!!

Treat people the way you want to be treated

Simple enough but often difficult to do especially when the person in question doesn't seem to be subscribing to the same school of thought. By no means am I saying allow yourself to be walked over or on. What I am saying is learn to communicate your feelings. So, often we internalize a slight, an insult or an act of indifference without having an open dialogue about it.

I tend to save this energy for people who are closest to me on a personal level; not for the Joe Blow who didn't hold the door open or the horribly rude store clerk.

You certainly have the option to even make them aware as well. I just pick my battles and random strangers aren't on my list of priorities. My job is to make sure that I'm on this side of right.

Think Before You Speak

Another seemingly easy task. But let's make it a bit more interesting. I want you to think about three specific things before speaking. Ask yourself 

✔️ IS IT TRUE?....

✔️ IS IT NECESSARY?....

✔️ IS IT KIND? 

By asking those three questions we shut the door on gossip, lies, negativity, and idle chatter. I enjoy small talk. But I choose to keep my small talk, when it occurs, positive and impersonal... You don't have to be cold or rigid to avoid conversations that serve absolutely no purpose.

Change the subject. Redirect the way the conversations is going. Those who live for gossip and perpetual negative banter will get the message and move on to another unsuspecting listener....

Be Empathetic

As I stated previously, none of us are exempt from suffering. And often a person's behavior is a direct result of a situation in life they have or are currently dealing with. Empathy is the medicine the world could currently use a stat dose of. Being kind doesn't take any additional effort..And to know that in some small way I've made someone who's going through a storm have a brief reprieve from whatever it might be is a great feeling. 

Be good to yourself

How you handle YOU is just as important as how you handle others. Treat yourself kindly. Make it a practice daily to affirm something positive about yourself. I AM...BEAUTIFUL....I AM WORTHY....I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH....I AM A FORCE FOR POSITIVE CHANGE IN THIS WORLD. 

Make sure to get adequate rest. You won't be young forever and your future self will certainly thank you for it. Take time to decompress after work...Just a few moments of quiet time spent in whatever way you'd like. Maybe reflection is your thing or listening to your favorite playlist...or just spending that time in silence - resting your mind and stilling your thoughts. And lastly, practice healthy lifestyle choices....we all know what they are so I won't bore you with repeating them.

This list is not all inclusive. There are literally tons of things you can do to live a more positive life. These are just the four that have made a profound difference in my life. 

Please share your thoughts or any additional practices you've incorporated into your daily journey...

XoXo, Corky N.