Cultivate Equanimity and Mindfulness as your Ultimate Duty

“Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present.” - Marcus Aurelius

The nature of the mind is to wander, to have thoughts. When we develop the skill to notice - without judgment, but with discernment - where our mind is and the state it is in, we are more likely to pause. That pause enables us to respond purposefully and intentionally choose the next best course of action. Mindfulness emphasizes the ability to remain consciously aware of what is happening in the field of experience, while equanimity allows awareness to be even and unbiased by facilitating an attitude of non-attachment and non-resistance. The principle of equanimity is all about finding calm amid the chaos through balance, resilience, and equilibrium.

“Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are incapable of forming such opinions." (Essay to Leo Baeck, 1953)” - Albert Einstein

The word “equanimity” originated with the Latin aequanimitās, broken down into “aequus” meaning “even” and animus meaning “mind” or “spirit.” When breaking apart its Latin roots, equanimity means “evenness of mind, spirit, or feelings.” Equanimity can be defined as an even-minded mental state or dispositional tendency toward all experiences or objects, regardless of their origin or their affective valence (pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral). Thus, equanimity is the ability to stay emotionally and mentally calm, even in the face of tremendous pressure or turmoil. It is the state of being mentally calm and composed, especially in times of conflict, including being able to monitor your immediate judgement or reaction towards others by taking a moment to pause, notice, and reflect.

“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” - Don Miguel Ruiz

Equanimity is when you can open yourself up to others as a result of being grounded in mind and body. It is having big open arms and being able to stay present without losing a sense of mental clarity. It is when you can develop an evenness of mind and imperturbability while remaining fully engaged with your circumstances and aware of the present moment. It indicates staying interested and concerned while maintaining impartiality. It is when you can listen to another side of an argument, one that you may greatly disagree with, yet still be able to stay engaged and communicate in a respectable, healthy manner. Equanimity protects us from an emotional overreaction, allows us to rest in a bigger perspective, and contains a basic trust in the course of things.     

“Equanimity is the hallmark of spirituality. It is neither chasing nor avoiding but just being in the middle.” - Amit Ray

Mindfulness and equanimity always go hand and hand. Mindfulness is a moment-to-moment awareness of one's experience without judgment. Even-mindedness is a state of being calm, stable and composed, while equanimity involves a level of impartiality (i.e., being not partial or biased), such that one can experience unpleasant thoughts or emotions without repressing, denying, judging, or having aversion for them. With mindfulness, you would acknowledge your emotions and the ways they are affecting you at this moment in time. You may identify and accept your feelings, possibly frustration or anger as you just meet whatever comes up as information, energy, or heat so it can burn the false down to something more essential. Equanimity brings calmness and balance to moments of joy as well as difficulty.  

 “A modern definition of equanimity: cool. This refers to one whose mind remains stable & calm in all situations.” - Allan Lokos

Once mindful, you may then decide to cultivate equanimity, which would entail embracing an even-mind. With equanimity, you may then withhold from your strong emotions, resisting powerful feelings of attachment to the situation. In a state of equanimity one can have pleasant or rewarding experiences without becoming over-excited (e.g., to the point of mania or hypomania), or trying to prolong these experiences, or becoming addicted to them. This helps you to accept your humanity and forgive your attachments to a particular outcome. Equanimity is like the eye of the storm, the calm center grounded in the knowledge that everything is constantly changing.

“Wise acceptance does not mean we like the situation; it means we have stopped denying it, have stopped being victims of it, have stopped blaming others for it, and are now prepared to improve it.” -  John Bruna

By cultivating equanimity, you are given the choice to accept rather than struggle with your emotions. In other words, through equanimity, you learn to acknowledge your emotions and let them be, instead of letting them overwhelm you. You can then have a clearer mind, and have control over the ways in which you respond to situations. By practicing mindfulness, you are developing skills enabling you to behave wisely, rationally, and calmly. Similarly, by cultivating equanimity, you are learning how to find balance and composure in your everyday life. You can cultivate equanimity by bringing mindfulness to your experience of pleasure and pain and to your expectations for the future.

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity. - Carl Jung

By practicing mindfulness and developing an even-mind, you may find it easier to maneuver your way through our politically charged society. By cultivating equanimity, a sense of mental calmness and stability will enable you to be open to the outside world while still staying grounded. With equanimity, you may learn to monitor your discernment and civilly communicate with others, even with those whose beliefs and opinions may be greatly different from yours. Equanimity protects us from emotional overreaction and allows us to rest in a bigger perspective. It is being willing and able to accept things as they are in this moment—whether they’re challenging, boring, exciting, disappointing, painful, or exactly what we want.

Equanimity arises when we accept the way things are. - Jack Kornfield

How to Cultivate Equanimity

1.     Develop an attitude of nonattachment: When difficulties arise in your life, nonattachment keeps you from reacting to unpleasant human behaviors or undesirable events. Nonattachment means you’re not emotionally attached to any particular outcome.

2.     Practice mindfulness: When you practice mindfulness, your attention is always on the present moment, including how your body feels, your emotional state, and your thoughts. Avoid judgment of yourself. Observe and acknowledge what’s happening without attraction or repulsion.

3.     Practice self-compassion: Self-compassion means accepting you’re a human being who will make mistakes and sometimes fail. Instead of punishing yourself for these realities, treat yourself with kindness and understanding.

4.     Adopt a Mindfulness Practice of Some Sort: Cultivating a relationship with your mind and its reactivity and inclination to engage emotionally in real time will help tremendously in this practice.

5.     Imagine Your Self, But Over There: The practice of looking at your life, your choices, and your relationships as an outsider pack a big punch in the world of gaining perspective.

6.     Cultivate a Breath Practice: Cultivating a breath practice enables us to replace our emotionally-driven decisions with a moment of pause. This allows for more clinical, sensible, and level-headed decisions.

7.     Be Like Water: Water learns quickly from its environment. It adapts and quickly modifies its shape to accommodate its environment. Do the same.

8.     Be Empathetic: When you are triggered emotionally, or tempted to engage reactively, the moment of pause will also help you listen. Listening means that you are allowing room for empathy – essential for understanding and, therefore, compassion, which is essential in equanimity.

9.     Integrity: It helps us to feel confident when we speak and act. It fosters an equanimity that results in 'us feeling comfortable in any setting or with any group without the need to find fault or blame.

10.  Faith: Faith based on wisdom, conviction or confidence. This type of faith allows us to meet challenge, crisis or conflict head on with confidence, with equanimity.

11.  A well-developed mind: A mind that reflects stability, balance and strength. We develop such a mind through a conscious and consistent practice of focus, concentration, attention, and mindfulness. A well-developed, calm mind keeps us from being blown about by winds of conflict and crisis.

12.  A heightened sense of well-being: Engaging in practices or activities that take us out of our robotic, ego-driven life and help us focus on a higher or deeper sense of consciousness. These might include meditation, martial arts, self-reflection, the arts, and right-brain focused activities.

13.  Understanding or wisdom: Allows us to accept, be present and aware to our experience without our mind or heart resisting or contracting. In this place we separate people from their actions; we agree or disagree while being in balance with them. We take nothing personally.

14.  Knowing that others create their own reality: We are able to exhibit equanimity in the face of others' pain or suffering and not feel we need to take responsibility for their well-being in the face of their conflict or crisis.

15.  Seeing reality for what it is: Change and impermanence are a fact of life. We become detached and less clingy to our attachments. This means letting go of negative judgements about our experience and replacing them with an attitude of loving kindness or acceptance and a compassionate matter-of-factness. The more we become detached, the deeper we experience equanimity.

16.  Freedom: Letting go of our need to be reactive so we can observe without needing to get caught up in the fray - maintaining a consistent relaxed state within our body as sensations (e.g., strong, subtle, pleasant, unpleasant, physiological, or emotional) move through.

Equanimity is calamity's medicine. - Publilius Syrus

Benefits of Mindfulness

To be mindful means to pay attention to what is happening in the mind, body, and immediate environment and to remain present, while both curious and compassionate. Mindfulness is the practice of purposely focusing your attention on the present moment—and accepting it without judgment. It is the act of consciously focusing your mind in the present moment without judgment and without attachment to the moment. Mindfulness can help reduce stress, improve your mental and physical health, and even increase your overall happiness in life. It can help us become more aware of what is going on for us internally and externally. We become more present to the “right now”.

1.     Mindfulness improves well-being: Being mindful makes it easier to savor the pleasures in life as they occur, helps you become fully engaged in activities, and creates a greater capacity to deal with adverse events.

2.     Mindfulness improves physical health: Mindfulness can: help relieve stress, treat heart disease, lower blood pressure, reduce chronic pain, improve sleep, and alleviate gastrointestinal difficulties.

3.     Mindfulness improves mental health: Mindfulness meditation is an important element in the treatment of a number of problems, including: depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, couples’ conflicts, anxiety disorders, and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

4.     Mindfulness practices can help us to increase our ability to regulate emotions, decrease stress, anxiety and depression.

5.     It can also help us to focus our attention, as well as to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment. 

6.     As we become more present in our lives and in relation to others, it can help us to make better decisions, to manage our emotions and to be more fully engaged in life.

7.     It improves in response to a straightforward set of meditation practices that develop an increased awareness of thoughts, sensations, and feelings.

8.     Combined with increased kindness and passion, mindfulness improves our capacity to cope by identifying the options available to us.

9.     Mindfulness leads to greater wellbeing and mental clarity, and an increased ability to care for both yourself and others.

10.  We observe our thoughts and emotions as they come and go before gently returning focus to physical sensations, while remaining curious, compassionate, and accepting.

11.  Reduced rumination: Several studies have shown that mindfulness reduces rumination.

12.  Stress reduction: Many studies show that practicing mindfulness reduces stress.

13.  Boosts to working memory: Improvements to working memory appear to be another benefit of mindfulness.

14.   Focus: Mindfulness meditation practice and self-reported mindfulness were correlated directly with cognitive flexibility and attentional functioning.

15.  Less emotional reactivity: Mindfulness meditation decreases emotional reactivity.

16.  More cognitive flexibility: In addition to helping people become less reactive, mindfulness meditation may also give them greater cognitive flexibility.

17.  Relationship satisfaction: A person's ability to be mindful can help predict relationship satisfaction - the ability to respond well to relationship stress and the skill in communicating one's emotions to a partner.

18.  Other benefits: Mindfulness has been shown to enhance self-insight, morality, intuition and fear modulation, all functions associated with the brain's middle prefrontal lobe area.

19.  Benefits our minds: Mindfulness increases positive emotions while reducing negative emotions and stress.

20.  Does a body good: Practicing mindfulness meditation boosts the immune system’s ability to fight off illness.

21.  Positively changes our brains: It increases density of gray matter in brain regions linked to learning, memory, emotion regulation, and empathy.

22.  Can fight obesity: Practicing mindful eating encourages healthier eating habits, helps people lose weight, and helps them savor the food they do eat.

23.  Heightens ability to focus: Mindfulness helps us tune out distractions and improves our memory and attention skills. It also improves our ability to recall information.

24.  Helps regulate emotions: Those that practice mindfulness experience a decrease in emotional reactivity and an increase in cognitive focus.

25.  Fosters compassion and altruism: Mindfulness training makes us more likely to help someone in need and increases activity in neural networks involved in understanding the suffering of others and regulating emotions; this might boost self-compassion as well.

26.  Increases relationship satisfaction: Mindfulness training makes couples more satisfied with their relationship, makes each partner feel more optimistic and relaxed, and makes them feel more accepting of and closer to one another.

27.  Benefits parents and parents-to-be: It may reduce pregnancy-related anxiety, stress, and depression in expectant parents. Parents who practice mindfulness report being happier with their parenting skills and their relationship with their kids, and their kids were found to have better social skills.

Serenity, regularity, absence of vanity, Sincerity, simplicity, veracity, equanimity, Fixity, non-irritability, adaptability, Humility, tenacity, integrity, nobility, magnanimity, charity, generosity, purity. Practise daily these eighteen "ities" You will soon attain immortality. - Socrates

How to Practice Mindfulness

There are many ways to practice mindfulness, with various forms of meditation used to achieve a state of alert, focused relaxing. This is done by deliberately paying attention to thoughts and sensations without judgement. This allows the mind to focus on the present.  

1.     Basic mindfulness meditation: Quietly focusing on your natural breathing or on a word or “mantra” that you repeat silently. Allow thoughts to come and go without judgment and return to your focus on breath or mantra.

2.     Body sensations: Notice subtle body sensations such as an itch or tingling (without judgement) and let them pass. Notice each part of your body in succession from head to toe.

3.     Sensory: Notice signs, sounds, smells, tastes, and touches. Name them without judgement, feel them, and then let them go.

4.     Emotions: Allow emotions to be present without judgement. Practice a steady and relaxed naming of emotions. Accept emotions as they come, acknowledge them without judgement, and then let them go.

5.     Urge surfing: Cope with cravings and allow them to pass. Notice how your body feels as the urge enters. Replace the wish for the craving to go away with certain knowledge that it will subside and that you have control over the urge.

Mindfulness is a way of befriending ourselves and our experience. - Jon Kabat-Zinn

Mindfulness is the ultimate success habit:

Practicing mindfulness starts with becoming aware of our thoughts and making sure these thoughts are productive and positive.

1.     Productivity: Mindfulness practice helps us filter through the chaos of the mind so that we can have better clarity on what's actually important. By improving clarity on what's truly important, it's possible to do less, using less time, and actually be more productive.

2.     Greater influence: There is no better way to build influence with other people than to understand their needs and help them meet those needs. Mindfulness training changes our brains in ways that help us do that.

3.     Better decision-making: Mindfulness training helps us develop the refined levels of self-awareness that are necessary to see our biases objectively, before they influence our decisions. It also helps us develop the mental agility required to be able to make decisions that are outside of our comfort zone.

4.     Improved health: Mindfulness improves physical health in a wide variety of ways. Thus, one could make a good argument that practicing mindfulness might be the healthiest thing we can do.

5.     Happiness: Unconditional happiness is something that you can train to develop by making the effort to be mindful during as many of your daily activities as possible.

6.     Mindfulness fosters intentionality: In meetings, it's natural to get caught up in our thoughts, critical points, or the impending presentation, detracting from fully hearing emerging specifics that might require a change in approach. This fostering of intentionality enables us to be with what is, instead of what we "think" is present.

7.     Mindfulness mitigates reactive tendencies: When we react, it is as though our brains have been yanked into a state of fear or anger, undermining our ability to respond thoughtfully.

8.     Mindfulness cultivates creativity: As we step out of our reactive tendencies, often propelled by anxiety and fear, we open up space to create and innovate.

9.     Mindfulness facilitates broader perspective: As the practice becomes more habitual, it inherently builds greater awareness. The act of noticing that the mind has wandered, without judgment but with full awareness, enables access to more information about ourselves, our tendencies, and the present moment. This expanded perspective in turn fosters enhanced discernment.

10.  Mindfulness increases emotional intelligence (EI or EQ): Meditation increases EQ through enhancing the ability to pause and check-in before choosing a response, as well as through the development of consistent, nonjudgmental awareness. Both of these skills foster EQ's key components, including self-awareness, empathy, self-regulation, and social aptitude.

The best way to capture moments is to pay attention. This is how we cultivate mindfulness. - Jon Kabat-Zinn

DESIDERATA

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Conclusion          

Mindfulness means being awake. It means knowing what you are doing. - Jon Kabat-Zinn

Equanimity has two aspects: The power of observation and an inner balance, both of which support one to be mindful, awake, aware and conscious. Equanimity is the foundation for wisdom and freedom and for compassion and love. It is the capacity to remain neutral, to observe from a distance and be at peace without getting caught up in what we observe. It enables us to see the big picture with understanding, including taking nothing personally, refusing to get caught up in the drama - either our own or others'. When we cultivate equanimity, we can stand in the midst of conflict or crisis in a way where we are balanced, grounded and centered. As a result, we can remain upright in the face of the strong winds of conflict and crisis, such as blame, failure, pain, or disrepute - the winds that set us up for suffering when they begin to blow. This in turn will protect us from being blown over and helps us stay on an even keel.

When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with one another – and ourselves. - Jack Kornfield

Equanimity allows us to live a life of true and real achievement free from the trap of ego-based likes and dislikes, and emotional reactivity. As a result, we can live our life in such a way that we can experience a heightened sense of well-being regardless of external circumstances. Consequently, we feel relaxed, make clearer, more sincere decisions, engage in more effective communication with others, speak the truth, be genuinely interested in listening to others, and be both more trusting and trustworthy.

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