Distance yourself a bit,you realise a lot

Life gets too boring and also too much is taken from granted from you since you are always attached to people all the time thinking about them or talking about them. It is a good idea to take a break in between and distance yourself from people and enjoy your own silence. When you reduce Interaction, once you've decided that you would be better off without that person in your life, it’s time to abate the interaction between the two of you. It might be easy for some, but harder on those people who have to see that person every day. Try to converse with other friends and build relationships with other people and before you know it, you will gradually remove yourself from a bad friendship situation.

Do get involved in other activities and one of the best things that you can do when distancing yourself from a toxic friend is getting involved in other activities and getting to meet new people. You will have an excuse for not seeing or talking to your toxic friend and will be able to fill your longing for a new friend who can be there for you.

Always be prepared for confrontation and if you are completely set to end a toxic friendship, you have to be prepared for a confrontation. Depending on what type of person your friend is, he or she might just get used to you being distant or they will approach you with questions. At this point you have two options; either you honestly tell them that distance is good for both of you, or you can say that you've been occupied with other things.Whatever you do it’s up to you but make sure that after that conversation, you don’t fall back into the trap again.

Be firm and stay consistent with your own self. After succeeding in distancing yourself from a friend, it’s important to stay consistent. You want to make sure that the tight bond between the two of you has been completely broken. After putting so much effort into ending a toxic friendship, you don’t want to hit reverse and be stuck in negativity again.

Let me tell you that friendship is one of the best bonds that humans develop and these days it's really difficult to get really good friends. I don't know what has happened between you and your friend but I would request you to sit and think over it whether you really want to distance yourself. I m sure something would have gone wrong for you to think about this but there is nothing wrong to give over a thought again.

Many times we make a haste in taking decisions without taking their circumstances into consideration. You have been good friends till now so even if you want to discontinue it I would suggest you sit face to face discuss the issues. May be you are just misinterpreting him or her. They deserve a chance to put forth their part. Then if you feel they were still wrong and you don't want to continue the friendship you need to tell them the reason. Breaking a bond without giving a reason would be rude and unfair. Let the person know their mistakes. It will help them too to develop themselves.

I had a friend today who didn’t speak to me for a few days. He didn’t give a reason. The guy just stop talking and then he came at me on Facebook trying to video chat. I told him I was busy and decline his desire to video chat. I think he is getting the message. I don’t like people who will show up when it’s convenient for them but when I need them, they are ghost. So, today, instead of doing it subtly, I just flat out said “I don’t have time for you anymore and won’t answer you video chat request”.

You might need to take the direct approach if the friendship is affecting you in some form of way. This guy had me worried and I don’t like people messing with my emotions. So, once he decided to speak to me and just say “hey”, I was like “bye” and have felt great for the rest of the day. But the choice is up to you. You can say it with actions or words or just don’t spend as much time with them anymore and when they ask why, say you have been busy.

Perhaps the friendship has not proved to be mutual? Perhaps you are doing all the giving, the contacting, and the hard slog, and the ‘friend’ is sitting back and doing all the taking. Or better perhaps the person is becoming very intrusive and demanding. A true friend isn’t selfish. If a friendship is hard work, that person is not a friend. A friend lets you be yourself, respects your space and commitments, and is always happy to hang out when it’s mutually convenient.

The solution is to cultivate your other friends and interests you may have neglected, or go out and find new friends and new interests. Don’t keep running after this person, if that is what you did. Perhaps they pursued you, wanted you to be exclusive, and were controlling. Either way, get busy with other things and other people, and this relationship will naturally just take a back seat.

Here is one method that’s kind of passive-aggressive, but might work. When your friend contacts you about getting together, you could agree to get together, but not right away. Maybe over a week away, or more. You could explain that you’re busy. When this happens repeatedly, the friendship will tend to naturally fade away, because someone who isn’t available isn’t much of a friend. But it’s not as harsh as just saying, no, I don’t want to see you.

There is another idea is even more passive-aggressive. When the person asks you to get together, say yes, but add other friends into the mix, like “let’s get a big group and go do some group activity. The best way to do this is after a break of some sort and for me it was my summer break. After the break, casually answer their questions with mostly one word answers and try your best to hang out with other people instead of them. After a while, instead of answering their questions, stay silent.

But the most important thing to take in account is the question of “do you really want to stop being friends with this person?” Keep in mind that you are hurting someone’s feeling’s on purpose. Is it really better to prolong the pain, or be straightforward and end it abruptly, like taking off a Band-Aid. It really is up to you. I hope you make the right choice and all goes well. Have a great day or night! Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit