FATHERS WHO ARE HEROES TODAY

Christopher, a partner in his firm, has been married for over twenty years and has a son and a daughter in college.

CHRISTOPHER TELLS HIS HEROIC STORY

• "I was raised in a traditional family where Mother was a stay-at-home parent who cared for the house and had primary responsibility for us kids.
• Dad had a traditional role. His home was his castle, and providing for the family was his focus. 
• When he came home from work, he finished reading the paper, had a few drinks, and sat at the table for dinner, where we ate in silence.
• He took his job as breadwinner seriously and worked from dawn until dusk to ensure enough food was on the table.
• It was unheard of for my father to help with housework or homework, but his word was the law.
• He was the enforcer who decided who did what chores and judged whether we did a good job or not.

THE RULES IN MY HOUSE

➜ Children were to be seen and not heard

➜ Parents are always right

➜ Don't show emotions

➜ Never talk back

➜ Parents are in control

➜ They don't care how children feel

➜ They did not provide emotional comfort

Children's job was to do chores and be good students and be quiet

FOLLOWING MY ROLE MODEL

After law school, I married and assumed the role I had learned from my dad.

I was emotionally unavailable and worked sixty to seventy hours at the firm.

I depended on my wife to handle anything related to the kids.

I became the enforcer when necessary.

I ate dinner, drank good scotch, and watched television at night.

I did not know my kids.

IT DIDN'T WORK

❇️ My drinking got out of hand. I suffered hangovers.

❇️ My wife and I were strangers, and our marriage had no romance.

❇️ The children were having problems, and my relationship with them was strained.

❇️ Work was becoming increasingly complex and stressful. 

❇️ I was unhappy at work.

❇️ My psychiatrist kept changing my medications,

❇️ I kept drinking, and my therapist kept agreeing with me, telling me how bad my life was.

CHRISTOPHER TAKES A HEROIC STEP

On LinkedIn, I kept reading articles by this coach.

I liked what she said. It was like she was in my head.

There was a problem. This coach was a woman and black.

My logical mind told me that a black woman couldn't possibly understand my problems, let alone help me.

It got awful, and one day I read something that hit a chord, and I scheduled a call with Pamela.

This call changed the rest of my life.

PAMELA HELPED ME TO:

✅ Cut down on my drinking

✅ Organize my law practice

✅ She gave me her "PIE Time Management Method."

✅ Her PIE Time Management helped me to keep track of billable hours

✅ I stopped struggling at month's end, recording my hours

✅ I became friends and then lovers with my wife again

✅ I learned to delegate and hire contract help

✅ I stopped being a people pleaser

✅ I developed a cordial and meaningful relationship with my children

✅ We began to enjoy family outings

✅ I took my wife out on dates

✅ I doubled my income

A NOTE TO FATHERS FROM PAMELA

Growing up without a father who is emotionally present can be one of the most painful and traumatic experiences, 

Often the individuals without a meaning relationship with their fathers struggle with low self-esteem, unworthiness, identity issues, and self-love.

Research tells us that kids who grow up without the guidance of a father often struggle socially. 

When your child feels rejected or neglected by their dad, they fear abandonment and struggle with trust, commitment, and intimacy.

A father's absence also often leads to behavioral problems.

Those who reported growing up with a workaholic parent had higher depression levels and higher rates of alcoholism.

FATHERS WHO ARE HEROES TODAY

📌 Fathers are shedding the role of being just the breadwinner and are becoming actively involved with their families.

📌 These lawyers learn how to delegate to free up time and energy to repair their marriage.

📌 They are becoming actively involved in matters with children and lend a listening ear. Making this investment in our children builds trust.

📌These Hero dads are more engaged in raising children than dads of previous generations. 

📌 They spend more time at home with their kids and are generally more involved in parenting. 

📌 They tend to see parenting as integral to their life and identity.

📌 These hero dads are much more involved in household matters than dads of previous generations. 

📌 They find at least one evening to help with childcare but also for other tasks, such as cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, and so on.

📌 They are not afraid to ask for coaching and willing to invest.

REWARDS FOR THESE HEROES

These Dads who come to me for coaching are

1.  Open and adaptive to change. 
2. Have a passion for learning.
3. Value social interactions and teamwork at work.
4. Are creative and free-thinkers
5. Valuing meaningful motivation. 
6. They were seeking recognition of shortcomings and welcome feedback. 
7. Ready to increase knowledge of technology.
8. Passionate about family.
9. Quickly increase income due to healing problems in the family.

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