THE FEAR PROBLEM

Fear at work is very common.  It is detrimental to team and organizational competitiveness.  Fear can be managed, often is not, and even in the best-case scenario is never fully gone.  Fear is natural.  People fear failure, criticism, embarrassment, retaliation, job security, and more.  From a team functioning perspective, fear produces a harmful amount of censoring which erodes trust and the quality of human bonds, weaking the relational basis for innovation. 

Fear censoring is the act (conscious or subconscious) of not saying or doing something you believe should be said or done so that you can avoid certain possible negative outcomes.  The censored target might be a questionable behavior or practice you have witnessed, an idea for improvement you wish to share, or an honest critique of someone else’s idea or effort you’d like to deliver.  I understand that we can’t share everything all the time, but I’m making this case because the opposite is closer to the truth for many teams.  Everyone censors often.

For example, a team leader expresses strong support for a particular option when working with the team to solve a problem.  They then ask the team for input.  With this approach, this person is likely to elicit insincere affirmations and silence, instead of the well-intentioned questions and productive debate that’s needed.  Or maybe you’ve not learned to say “no” effectively, and new busy work keeps coming your way.  Do you speak up and risk your job or status, or do you choose to censor and keep doing your best?  There are many reasons we feel fear and then censor too much. 

Making fear reduction a strategic goal is a proper first step towards laying the foundation for other people-related practices you might pursue.  Why?  Because fear and the resultant censoring are common and expected.  Most of us prefer to avoid big risks at work.  People don’t enjoy negative feedback.  They don’t want to rock the boat.  They are in competition with others for limited advancement opportunities and so they don’t take unnecessary risks.  They also have many bills to pay, so why should they risk speaking up or trying new things when there is so much to lose? 

Not surprisingly, these anxieties and fears lead to excessive censoring.  Predictable results will follow.  Bad ideas become more common, morale takes a hit, and long-term innovative capacity diminishes.  Every new change that comes down from corporate is greeted with minimal compliance, or worse.  However, if you can lower the average amount of fear experienced at work, you’ve now created the space needed to start talking meaningfully about trust, empathy, and all the rest.

Sounds greats, so where do you start?  There are two parts to the answer.

First, there is a mechanical part that involves more pro-employee policies.  If you want your employees to be loyal and motivated, you must show them they are valued.  Think about more cost cutting instead of layoffs.  Think about how to share ownership.  Think about how we can give employees more flexibility and choice regarding compensation, work schedules, healthcare, and so on.  Think about management transparency (e.g., truly open books) and labor’s need for inclusion in key decisions.  The list of possible best practices here is well known, however, they only work when you also understand part two. 

The second part is about the average quality of daily leadership.  You need a high batting average to keep fear in check.  This means being thoughtfully inclusive and collaborative, showing understanding and compassion, creating a focus on learning, and most importantly – modeling the way.  Modeling relies on the immense power of vicarious learning.  If employees see a leader embody the positive ideals and standards they espouse, trust and behavioral engagement grow.  Fear drops.  When they don’t see leaders modeling the way, trust erodes rapidly, and risk aversion grows.  Fear rises.  Which sounds like a more innovative culture to you?

This is not a burden shared only by managers in the middle.  The senior team must do its part as well, starting with this essential rule:  no bad managers allowed!  Whether they are incompetent, uncaring, or cruel, they will improve significantly in a reasonable amount of time, or they must be let go.  Nor is great performance an excuse to validate a problem manager.  No great performance justifies regular human damage.  Long term, the culture will sour when bad apples are protected.  For the record, please note that highly effective managers (based on goals and key metrics) who also create tension and fear are not actually highly effective managers. 

How about you as an individual?  What is your fear level at work?  Is it low, medium, or high?  Low is great.  Fear is not too common.  Medium is what most people experience.  It is punctuated by a little censoring, but not at problematic levels.  In fact, medium amounts of fear, anxiety, and stress often help facilitate productivity and creativity.  They keep us away from lazy, but short of burnout, and moving towards success.  If your experience of fear is high that means it is basically ever present, and is definitely harming your well-being, productivity, and career growth.  Making a change is very necessary. 

Employees – try these methods that can help reduce your experience of fear at work.

Perform.  This sounds obvious but needs to be stated.  There is no better way to shield yourself from the various risks, challenges, and imperfections that define work life than being recognized as a top performer. 

Journal.  This refers to regular dedicated time spent thinking and writing.  Pay attention to your typical mood and productivity, how they vary, and why.  Now you’re building self-awareness which helps you determine when a bad day is actually part of a rut that needs to be addressed.

Imagine the wins.  Your past has a few big wins, right?  It’s funny how quickly we forget that in the face of fear.  Take a minute, and actively think about a few past wins when fear hits.  Remember that you’ve survived challenging moments in the past and are completely capable of doing it again. 

Know how to find a happy place.  Aside from journaling or imaging past wins, you can also consider looking at a favorite picture or video, listening to your favorite song, sitting in special place for a few minutes, or just escaping for a quick walk.  The goal is to let go of momentary negative emotions, find something for which you feel gratitude, and get refocused on a positive path forward.

Get help when needed.  Excessive stress and fear over prolonged periods can have severe consequences.  If you feel stuck, alone, and in pain reach out to a loved one or close friend, talk to a mental health professional who can help, or, if you have a really good working relationship, you can consider chatting with your supervisor.  There might be possibilities to explore (e.g., role change, time off, training, their assistance as a coach). 

Be willing to change.  Ultimately, if you’re confident that most of your fear at work is about you not enjoying your work, various people at work, and various work policies and practices that make life tough; consider finding a new professional home.  If you experience consistently medium to high fear levels, the risk of looking around is not huge.  Do the networking, put out feelers, and consider your possibilities.  Always strive to be successful enough to have options. 

Leaders – I love you – but do better.  Join me and millions of other thinkers, practitioners, and scientists and embrace a pro-employee path forward.  It’s about well-being, not just profits.  It’s about knowing that fear never defines a great team.  A little natural fear goes a long way, but on average, we have far too much.  These days you hear a lot about employee engagement and related notions, but the truth is that we first need to focus on one of the biggest root causes of any employee challenge at work:  fear.  Maybe the solution to the fear problem is to start hunting fear. 

What’s Up with Dr. D?

Writing, gigs, blah, blah, blah.  Actually, I’ve been thinking a lot about parenting lately.  One of my two boys is close to his college graduation and the other wraps up high school next year.  Guiding them is like leading others in some ways.  I don’t always understand them.  I don’t always agree with them.  I don’t know how to get them to care about certain things.  If you’ve ever run a team, you know what I’m talking about. So, I try to be inclusive in making decisions and not simplistically dismissive even though I have the power to do so.  I try to share real pros and cons, straight talk – not sugar coated – especially when we talk about their future.  I resist acting like a know-it-all and I actively look for opportunities to tell them about my mistakes and screw-ups… and how they ultimately helped me.  The tougher the situation, the more I strive for transparency.  I’m trying to give them a life equivalent of what some HR pros call a realistic job preview (RJP).  An RJP is about giving a job candidate a truthful unvarnished glimpse of the job and the work culture – the good and the bad.  The more they know what they are getting into, the less likely they are to feel deceived and unhappy when they do arrive.  Let them know it’s okay to try, fail, learn, grow, and try again.  If fact, it’s essential for success.  Wait – I can’t tell if I’m talking about my boys or employees now.  Not sure it matters.  

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