I flat-out yelled at her when she said this

This dramatic headline actually holds some weight, 🧸 with me… 

When I was in the midst of my narcissistic relationship I constantly had friends and family try to tell me what was so glaringly obvious to everyone but me:

But I couldn’t for the life of me see it 🙈. 

Instead, I got defensive…

One time I actually lost it. 

My friend said to me almost nonchalantly as we were having a coffee: 

“You know Natalie, I just don’t get how you can be such a badass in your career but at home you just let that asshole walk all over you” 

This is where I yelled! 

“I don’t let him walk all over me! That's what you do when you love someone! And I’m trying to be supportive of him. He has no one else! He’s been left 3 times by 3 different women who took him for all he had; it wasn't his fault!."

Why couldn’t I see it? I mean it seems obvious right? 

Here’s how it might sound in your career if you’re undervaluing yourself, and a friend says: 

“I don’t know why you stay at that place when you’re such an MVP (Most Valuable Player) and Janine is doing the same job but getting paid so much more and being given so many more project opportunities! That could be you!”

If you were past me in this situation you might respond like this: 

“Well, It's not like I have a choice! Have you seen the market out there? I can’t just leave, and besides they did give me this $50 Starbucks card with a handwritten note! They are trying and they didn’t have a good quarter the leadership has been having some communication issues and I’m not comfortable leaving them high and dry. They really need me.” 

Or you might say:

“Well I’ve tried, I’ve asked them but somehow they just can’t afford to do it, and if they can’t afford to do it, then how is any other company supposed to? It’s just what it is I’m lucky to even have any job at all” 

These are justifications for severely undervaluing yourself. 

But the justifications seem really legitimate.

But they are your subconscious’s best attempt at keeping you EXACTLY where you are. 

Someone who values themselves doesn’t think about these things.

The person who TRULY subconsciously values themselves is playing a different brain game where these Justifications don’t get air time! 

I know firsthand, as professionally I had people tell me "NO" many times and those "NO's" aren’t even a big part of my trajectory. 

The bigger, more glaring part of my trajectory is how I went back and mapped out my value even more powerfully and kept bringing it back and presenting it in different ways.

And how much fun I had doing this.

How I would playfully go back to my manager and show him something in our 1:1 and I’d leave the room thinking… “He’s coming around” 😉

But here’s what I know now after working with so many people. 

You don’t remove yourself from an under-valued situation until you can see clearly what your value actually translates into for the right people. 

The Value Vision program is to show you exactly that. 

With the 4-week program, we will break down your value in 9 different ways. 

Show you how you crystal clear you fit into the 5 categories of value (most people in interviews only focus on one of these and haphazardly at that) 

See the Invitation page to see successes, payment plans, and the whole breakdown HERE:

The Value Vision Program Full Investment 

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And listen,

It’s your job to do something about this. No one is going to do this for you. 

People do not simply “See your value” even when you answer all of their questions  “right”. 

They need to be shown in different ways and sometimes many times. 

To be very meta for a moment You’ve seen value from me probably a few times already or you wouldn’t be here.

And I haven’t even begun showing you all the value I have to share with you.

I’m practicing these principles daily and they have definitely paid off. Come with me so you can benefit from them too. 

I promise you will not be the same.

-Natalie

P.S. This is not about your value as a human being or your worth as a human being. That is already complete, solved for and intact. It has been since you were born. It hasn’t changed.

You do not have to do anything more than you’re already doing to be worthy or infinitely valuable. This program is for those who want their hard work, their tangible efforts to reflect in their bank account and in better quality relationships, environments and so on.