Keep the fire Burning in Your Relationship

The fact of the matter is, love at first sight is bogus. It's a load of it. Love at first sight? No, no, that's called infatuation, and it wears off - and it's not always how it begins.

There's no magic that happens - not in my experience. Unrequited feelings are frequent, but they're not neccessary. Heck, there are so many factors that the beginning of ANY relationship can't be boiled down to one distinct thing - where you are and what's expected of you, both your personality and how you're getting through life at that exact time, how you meet, how (and if) you click together, and all of those from THEIR point of view!

If someone is forced to return affections, that's not a good thing.

For the sake of the question, I'll boil it down: Like others have said, getting into a romantic relationship is a proccess. People like to assume it begins when people decide to make it an official thing, but the real beginning of any relationship is long before either of them meet, when who they are in that moment is shaped. They meet. After some period of varying time, one or both decide they want to get to know each other. After some time, one or both develop feelings. In a healthy relationship, they'll know each other well by then, and the experimental relationship will begin only when both want it to. And from there - who knows? What romance is varies between people, too!

Are there years of separation between when they meet and when they fall for each other? Sometimes. Does it all happen within a matter of days? Sometimes! There's no singular formula that works best, or worst, just as there's no one person and no clear-cut archetypes.

Hoo boy, that got long. Bottom line: It fluctuates, a lot, but as a general rule, there's a set of stages that can only be identified distinctly much later on –

The notion that it happens by signals or telepathy or any such stuff is not my experience of how relationships start.

In my experience, if a person is interested in someone, the best course of action is for that person to say "hey, I'm interested in you and I'd love to get to know you better.

Would you like to go out to dinner/drinks/whatever?

 If the other person isn't interested they say no. If they are, they say "sure!" Then the two of them go out, get to know each other better, and decide if they want to continue going out.

Doesn't matter if the people are men or women or somewhere between or non-binary. If you're interested in someone, don't waste your time driving yourself insane with "does she like me? Doesn't she like me? Does she like me?" nonsense or waiting for the other person to make a move. Say something.

If you don't say something, don't get upset and jealous if someone else says something while you're dithering.

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Thank you …The truth is, women start noticing nice guys at the same time as men start noticing nice women; when they offer more.” There’s always going to be a person who can offer more and chances are you won’t get anywhere as far relationships go with that type of mentality.

You’ll just hop around grow old and remain single which is okay if that’s how you want to live your life. Relationships require commitments and if you’re not willing to settle down and give yourself up to that person then you will be single. Simple as that.

A romantic gentleman will be attentive to your needs, will comfort you when you need a shoulder, will stand up to protect you, he will have good manners and will treat you with respect and tenderness.

 He will remember you on special occasions and sometimes for no reason at all other than to show his love for you. He will also take pride in comforting the family by making things ‘all right’ when you need reassurance.

A romantic woman goes about things in a feminine way. She will be faithful and make you feel like you are the only man in the world for her.

 She will cook your favorite meal as a surprise, she will bake your favorite dessert as a treat. She will buy sexy lingerie and host a private showing for you. She will be a good mother and take pride in keeping your home clean.

Want to add word or two?  

Romantic isn’t always connected to sexy subjects and intimacy. The fact is, when you are a loving person you display romantic behavior in many ways.

A romantic gentleman will be attentive to your needs, will comfort you when you need a shoulder, will stand up to protect you, he will have good manners and will treat you with respect and tenderness.

He will remember you on special occasions and sometimes for no reason at all other than to show his love for you. He will also take pride in comforting the family by making things ‘all right’ when you need reassurance.

A romantic woman goes about things in a feminine way. She will be faithful and make you feel like you are the only man in the world for her.

 She will cook your favorite meal as a surprise, she will bake your favorite dessert as a treat. She will buy sexy lingerie and host a private showing for you. She will be a good mother and take pride in keeping your home clean.

Your comment ….? 

Romantic isn’t always connected to sexy subjects and intimacy. The fact is, when you are a loving person you display romantic behavior in many ways.

To be a romantic is to be an individual that focuses less on sexual aspects. This is hard for me to explain, but picture someone who yearns to be with a lover, spend time with them, make their day and make sure they’re okay, and doing fun stuff with them. 

They might not be like a passionate or they may, that can vary. A con of being a romantic is that you might be viewing the world in rose colored glasses, seeing things better than they are, and thinking things will be better than they are. 

This also happens to refer to the romanticism scale in modern day, and essentially it refers to individuals that like a gender they are incapable of liking sexually. 

For example, a homosexual person that happens to be a biromantic can sexually like their own gender but still romantically like the other. 

This further proves the first point as only being romantically attracted means that those intimate non-sexual moments would be all you focus relationships with that gender on. 

It was generally frowned upon because of phobic examples, such as a straight man saying another man is pretty, but upon being called out, says he is “only a romantic" 

Relationships and marriages require a lot of nurturing to be successful. When boredom finds its way into a relationship, it stagnates in one place. It is at this juncture that feelings begin to die out and couples start to wonder what happened all of a sudden.

Everyone wants to be reminded all the time that they are loved. Apart from the actions that translate to love, they also want them to be coupled with words which bring joy. These are the words that keep the heart cheerful and warm.