Be the Love You Seek: How to Attract Your Perfect Match by Becoming Your Best Self

By: RaShar Divine

All right, darling, let’s get real. Dreaming of a knight in shining armor is fun, but waiting for someone to rescue you can seriously mess with your love life. Welcome to the enchanting but deceptive Cinderella Syndrome, where you wait for a savior instead of becoming your own hero. Let's unpack why it's crucial to embody the qualities you seek in a partner and how to take charge of your energy and actions to cultivate a truly fulfilling connection.

1. The Pitfall of Expecting to Be Saved

Depending on someone else to save you sets you up for disappointment and dependency. Your happiness should be in your hands, not someone else’s. When you expect a partner to fix everything, you’re bound to be let down, as no one can fulfill all your needs. This creates unbalanced relationships where one partner becomes the perpetual rescuer, while the other remains in distress, preventing true partnership based on mutual support and respect. Furthermore, believing you need to be saved can erode your self-esteem, sending the message that you’re not capable of handling your own life, leading to low self-confidence and increased dependency.

2. The Magic of Being Whom You Seek

If you want a partner who is genuine and confident, start by embodying those traits yourself. Authenticity is magnetic. By being true to yourself and pursuing your passions, you’ll naturally attract someone who shares your values and interests. This fosters mutual growth and respect, as both partners are committed to their personal development and the relationship, creating a dynamic where each person brings their best self to the table. Confidence in who you are helps you set and maintain healthy boundaries, ensuring a balanced relationship where both partners honor each other’s individuality and needs.

3. Taking Charge of Your Own Energy and Actions

Taking charge of your actions and energy empowers you to control your life. It shifts the focus from blaming others to taking proactive steps to improve your situation. This sense of control is crucial for personal growth and happiness. Accountability builds trust and integrity in relationships. When you own up to your actions, you demonstrate maturity and reliability, fostering deeper trust and respect between partners. Owning your energy also builds emotional resilience. Life will always have challenges, but by managing your reactions and learning from experiences, you develop the strength to navigate difficulties more effectively.

Sweet and Sassy Steps to Your Happily Ever After

1. Embrace Your Authenticity: Start by identifying and embracing your true self. What makes you tick? What are your passions and values? Live them out loud.
2. Cultivate Confidence: Work on building your self-confidence. This might mean tackling new challenges, learning new skills, or celebrating your strengths.
3. Set Healthy Boundaries: Know your limits and communicate them. Healthy boundaries are vital for maintaining balance and respect in relationships.
4. Own Your Journey: Take responsibility for your actions and energy. Focus on what you can control and make proactive choices that align with your goals and values.

You create the foundation for a loving, balanced, and authentic relationship by being the person you seek and taking charge of your happiness. Remember, the real magic happens when you become your own hero.

Thought-Provoking Question: In what ways can you start embodying the qualities you desire in a partner today, and how might this shift your current relationship dynamics or approach to finding love?

Fairy tales are charming, but real love is about authenticity, mutual respect, and personal accountability. You can cultivate a more genuine and fulfilling relationship by overcoming Cinderella Syndrome, embracing who you are, and taking charge of your energy and actions. Ready to take the first step toward real love? Join our FREE workshop on June 25th, 2024, at 2:22 PM PST to learn the exact steps I used to get real and align with the love of my life. Don’t miss this transformative opportunity! Register Now.