Navigating the double bind with skill

To all you women managers out there... have you ever had that feeling that you’re

1. not quite good enough,
2. not as good as others think you are,
3. that you might be found out?

Ever suffered from Imposter Syndrome?  Me too! 

Do you know why you have Imposter syndrome? It is because you are an imposter, just like me, we are imposters.  

Women as leaders are imposters within the think leader: think male, men take charge: women take care stereotype that is STILL in the minds of most people.

Women as leaders within the think leader: think male stereotype creates a double bind - this trade-off between our leadership expectations and our gender expectations, between our competence and our likeability - and it's a stereotype held by both men and women. 

So, we are always managing conflicting expectations. And as we become more senior, these double-bind effects become stronger. It doesn’t get easier because the more women exercise their agency, which is what we need to do as managers and leaders, the more pushback we get. And for women of colour, the double-bind effect is on steroids.

Think leader think male is clearly an outdated stereotype and I know those of you with children aren’t raising your sons and daughters to think like this, but our social conditioning is subtle, and stereotypes take a long time to erode. 

The latest slew of research still evidences that when it comes to leadership what works for men doesn't necessarily work for women, something we have known for decades. We need to know this so we and our teams understand the terrain we are navigating as women leaders. And it means that if we are not managing the double bind deliberately and with intention, we are disadvantaging ourselves and our careers. 

That sounds harsh, and I don't mean to be, I just can't bear to see talented, wonderful women whose leadership the world needs and wants, often feeling like they're not up to it.

• Or walking away.
• Or burning out.
• Or thinking they need to become people they don't like.
• Or believing that by intentionally managing the double bind they are being inauthentic. 

The challenges of the double bind are not insurmountable.

We need to be working on the right stuff, the adage still works - smarter not harder. In the face of this double bind challenge for women, there are tools we can leverage to succeed. Many of you will be managing it already and only need a tweak and some support from a community on the same path. Others may benefit from a reframe and retool, mastering the mindset and skillset shifts required to successfully navigate the double bind so we can accelerate the atrophying of those stereotypes at the heart of the double bind by our very presence as high-impact, high-integrity leaders. 

Here is a video snippet of me talking about it in DC this year at the Women in Payments Summit.

Blog: So You Think It's Over? Why I Am Still Banging On About Women in Leadership

My recent blog post emphasizes the ongoing challenges women face in leadership roles despite progress over the years and the need to unleash ourselves from the double bind—that dilemma specific to women leaders.

This double bind is still very real, presenting a challenge to women as they progress, so it must feature in women’s leadership development.

Delighted to see the business media interested in the challenge of the double bind for women leaders as in my conversation last month with International Business Times here.  

If you would like to learn more about a positive, evidence-based, virtual, but high-touch and high-impact global program tailored for your women managers and organisation, email me at 📧 penny@pennydevalk.com 

Penny

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