The Power of Permission
This week, I was talking to one of the customers of my Introvert Success Toolkit and she said something that made me pause.
In telling me of the ways in which my toolkit had already changed her behaviour and had impact she said, "It's given me permission to be an introvert."
She then left me a LinkedIn review saying, 'The best gift I got from the toolkit was permission to be myself. It's a toolkit that's helped me embrace a comfortable and genuine style of marketing, selling, and showing up. I feel more at peace with how I choose to show up, not only for the people around me but also for myself. It was a sense of permission that I didn't realise I had been waiting for.'
A sense of permission that I didn't realise I had been waiting for.
Many of the emails and DMs I receive from members of my community have a similar theme but I hadn't previously made the connection, as what they have been saying to me had always been more implicit than explicit.
It's human nature to seek out validation and approval - regardless of personality type.
But the reason this concept of feeling as an introvert that you have permission to be yourself if SO important as introverts are surrounded by people telling them that who they are isn't enough; that who they are is somehow 'wrong'.
There is a societal and workplace bias in favour of extroversion.
If you've followed me for any length of time you'll know I talk about it a lot. Because it's important: whilst around half the world's population are introverts this bias means that everything from our workplaces to our social events to our concept of success is rooted in extrovert needs and ideals.
This means that introverts have to work extra hard not just to succeed but just to exist, often feeling forced to wear a mask. But masking is exhausting and commonly leads to burnout and/ or mental health issues.
They have to prove themselves as leaders in a way that extroverts don't, even though statistically introverts make better leaders. They have to navigate an additional layer of bias on an intersectional level. And they have to face the constant chipping away at their self-belief by being told they're 'too quiet' regardless of their performance on their deliverables.
Introverts in open offices often have to deal with constantly being over-stimulated and have to force themselves to concentrate through frequent interruptions. Mostly their working conditions aren't ones that enable them to thrive.
I've had messages from introverts who've been rejected from roles that didn't even require interaction with other humans because they're 'too introverted.'
I've coached executives who're exceptionally high-performing and well-respected but being told they 'lack presence'.
And when I was with Google I spoke to thousands of introverts across 169 countries globally who all were being made to feel they weren't enough and so were battling Imposter Syndrome and limiting beliefs.
None of this is okay, but it's our current reality.
I developed my Introvert Success Toolkit based on my own journey to self-acceptance, on the things that had worked for me.
Like anyone else, I still like to receive validation but once I was able to develop authentic confidence I also developed the ability to give myself permission to be an introvert; to be myself.
When introverts feel they have permission to be themselves, the benefits can be transformative. Here are some key advantages:
1. Increased Confidence
2. Better Mental Health
3. Improved Productivity and Focus
4. Enhanced Creativity
5. Stronger, Deeper Relationships
6. Greater Life Satisfaction
7. Empowerment and Self-Advocacy
Giving YOURSELF permission to be yourself is a mindset shift that allows introverts to live more confidently, authentically, and happily.
So I challenge you to start giving yourself that permission today!
And if you'd like a little extra help, you can download my Introvert Success Toolkit for a special discounted price until 30th November: it will NEVER be this price again!
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Thank you 💛
Much love,
Sam
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About Me
I'm Sam ✨ and I'm on a mission to change the workplace bias towards extroversion, to achieve greater, intersectional, inclusivity for introverts.
As well as help high achieving introverts to thrive without changing who they are.
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What an interesting idea to consider
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1moSuch a powerful message to generate awareness on and a topic that needs to be discussed in more detail across the board. Speaks volumes for the work you are doing Sam 💪🏽🦦