Talk to others the way you want to be talked to

While talking to others, we must focus on having a meaningful conversation.This can only be possible when you pay attention to the content the person is talking about and are really interested in the conversation. Only then you'll be able to put your views and ideas. But then you must be thinking from where are these views and ideas going to come from?

The answer is only from 'reading' good books and the more you read different types of books, the more you'll have topics to discuss.When you read novels you can learn from the conversations between the characters. You can also learn from talk shows on the television. Just listen to the content of discussion and the way speakers discuss different topics. Current topics, general knowledge and philosophy are the topics of everyone's interest normally.

Personally, I like the classic book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. I know it doesn’t have a great read among some judgmental people who are mostly people reading the title and jumping to conclusions about Carnegie teaching people to manipulate each other, etc. but I find myself thinking about what I learned from that book on a pretty regular basis.

The most important thing is self-confidence which is the key to a healthy and confident conversation. The moment we shake hands with others can define a person whether he is confident or not always have to give a gentle and firm hand shake with smile and greet them The best way to communicate with the others is just to keep quite and listen to others completely what they are saying and take a pause and then answer to the questions they had asked and maintain a subtle eye contact.

Always make sure your body is in the direction of the person and always look in to the eyes of the person when ever want to convey something .while listening always nod your head which shows the person that we are interest in the conversation .talk less and make the other person to talk by asking questions always have to keep in mind that what the other person is talking about and build up your answer in the mind and when ever they pause then convey what ever that's in mind .ask regarding family and the current job status ,hobbies .never argue with others its just the way we have to present and accept the opinion of the others if they were right.

I find the most effective and easy conversation strategy when I don’t know what to say is to ask the other person questions about himself/herself. People generally love talking about themselves and their own interests, so if you set them up for it, they’ll keep going and all you have to do is listen (and ask a few follow-up questions)! Often, they don’t even notice they’re doing most of the talking, because they’re inherently interested in the subject matter.

When we actually listen, the mind would comprehend the meaning.When we just hear, as you said, you cannot follow. This would automatically explain the different between hearing and active listening. You need to be interactive enough. Don’t hesitate to interrupt, agree or disagree the other person’s views. By this way, you can ensure that you are following what is being discussed. Try listening to interesting videos and recall the content word by word. As you listen, visualise it in your mind . By this way, your mind builds vivid images of what is being said. You are less likely to forget it. The more creative you are, the more you would remember. So improve your imaginations. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit #ks1100articles