Trust in a relationship is a critical part of a happy, healthy romantic partnership.

Trust is my decision, proving me right is your choice.

A Trust towards a person is made up of many things, from body language to the voice of his words. It is a process of validating a person’s behavior, attitude, and character.

Over the period, you will get to trust him or not by looking at your process. One fine day you will conclude to trust him if they pass in your process.

Up to now, it’s okay. It’s okay to trust them because you saw the past with that idea; you will trust them, and they are not going to hurt or cheat you in the future, and that trust will make your bonding closer.

Trust is the first step of Love.

But, Remember, trust is made up of the things which are real. Your past is real because you witnessed it, but you can’t say, or nobody can say that the same personality will be in the future.

Trust is just a blind guess with strong emotions, and that blind guess will make you happy if everything goes well. But if at all some other thing happens, you will face a deep pain called betrayal.

Now that we are done with the broad concept of trust, let me share with you the four factors my research, interviews, and experience have led me to. These, I believe, are essential to building trust:

Integrity

 Dependability

Affinity

Benevolence

If you have any broken trust issues in your relationship, friends, or if you want to know about the trust. Trust is like an eraser, it gets smaller and smaller after every mistake.

“I trust you” is a better compliment than “I love you” because you may not always trust the person you love but you can always love the person you trust.”

Consider the simple case of a romantic relationship between Pat and Sam, where Pat trusts Sam to buy groceries. For this structure to operate in Pat’s brain, Pat needs to have a representation of self, which in turn is built out of a binding of current experiences, memories, and concepts.

Pat’s representation of self needs to be bound with a representation of the person trusted, requiring a combination of verbal representations such as gender and sensory representations such as visual appearance.

Even with just representations of the self and the person trusted, trust requires binding of bindings. Further bindings are required to incorporate representations of situations and emotions.

Trust is rarely absolute, but rather is restricted to particular situations: Pat may trust Sam to pick up the groceries but not to perform surgery. The representation of the situation, such as picking up groceries, can again be a combination of verbal, sensory, and motor depictions.

Finally, trust has an inextricable emotional dimension. Pat’s trust in Sam is not just an estimate of the probability that Sam will pick up the groceries but also a positive feeling toward Sam in this respect.

In accordance with the semantic pointer theory of emotions, emotion binds a cognitive appraisal—in this case, that Sam will accomplish the required goal—with the neural representation of Pat’s physiological state, usually described as a “gut feeling.” For example, Pat’s doubts about Sam’s reliability may manifest as a nervous stomach or sinking feeling. To trust people, you need to feel good about them.

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Thank you ...The semantic pointer in Pat’s brain for trusting Sam is a binding of five representations, each of which binds other representations, all understood as patterns of neural firings operated on by convolution. The feeling of trust arises as an emergent property of all this binding.

How can all this be going on with something as simple as Pat trusting Sam to pick up the groceries? If the brain were a serial computer having to accomplish trust by a series of step-by-step inferences, it would be puzzling how Pat could possess trust in real time.

But all these bindings of bindings are accomplished in parallel by billions of interconnected neurons. Parallel processing makes it both efficient and biologically feasible that Pat has all of these representations and bindings that together emerge as trust that Sam will get the groceries.

Similarly, mistrust is an emotional process that goes far beyond estimation of low probabilities about people doing what they are supposed to.

It also requires representation of the self, the person mistrusted, and the relevant aspect, but differs from trust in assigning negative emotions akin to dislike and fear. These emotional reactions emerge from the combination of cognitive appraisals about unsatisfied goals and unpleasant physiological reactions to a creepy person.

Mistrusting someone is not just a prediction of betrayal, but also a bad emotional feeling about the untrustworthy person.

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 Human beings need to trust. Trust allays anxiety, helps lift depression, and makes it possible to consistently invest interest and enjoyment in one another.

There could be no civilization, enduring health, or mental wellness without trust. The most ordinary interpersonal, commercial, medical, and legal interactions would be impossible without some degree of trust.

In contrast, distrust is fraught with anxiety and resentment. No loneliness is lonelier than distrust.

Intimate betrayal—abuse, infidelity, deceit, financial manipulation—fractures the ability to trust anyone who gets close to us, including friends, relatives, even children. Yet the human need to trust persists, creating an internal storm of wanting to trust while being terrified of it.

Most people respond to this internal turmoil in one of three ways.

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Blind trust puts faith in someone without regard to demonstrated reliability or trustworthiness. It’s more a reluctance to experience the doubt, anxiety, and loneliness of distrust than an endorsement of the other person’s better qualities.

Suspiciousness is focused on the mere possibility of betrayal. It keeps us in a state of hypervigilance and all but eliminates close connections to others.

Wise trust assesses the probability of betrayal, in recognition that we are all frail creatures capable of betrayal in weaker moments.

Realistically, it’s possible that any of us could betray a loved one. Blind trust denies this darker characteristic of human nature; suspiciousness exaggerates it. Wise trust is an assessment that the probability of betrayal is low.

The secret of trusting wisely is to forget about trust. Your brain won’t let you sustain it as long as you’re hurt anyway, as most defenses are unconscious and run almost exclusively on autopilot.

In other words, you’ll be able to trust for a little while but it will, in short order, fall apart. And each time that trust falls apart, it becomes harder to rebuild.

Genuine trust is not a goal so much as a by-product of enhanced core value—the ability to create value and meaning in your life. Focus first on self-compassion and then on compassion for others, and you’ll find that trust will sneak up with you, in its own good time.

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