Turning 50: Lessons from Half a Century (and counting).

Reaching the big 5–0 is a moment that prompts deep reflection, gratitude, and a hint of holy crap!

Looking back at my dreams and aspirations when I was younger, I actually realize that I am living a life that my younger self could have only hoped for.

In these 50 years, I have given it my all, always eager to give it a crack and try to get the most out of every experience. There have been moments when I've bitten off more than I can chew, but I have truly lived.

Meeting Rach was pivotal; we share a view of life, dragging our kids on an adventure, shaping our family's experiences, and being the architects of our lives, even if people have thought we are crazy ( and maybe we are).

I have temporarily lost sight of what sometimes matters in my life, but I always rediscover it. This, itself, is the rollercoaster of life, I guess.

Reflecting on the journey so far — a journey marked by highs and lows, laughter and tears, and numerous life lessons generously given by life — I am incredibly fortunate. No doubt. 

Here are some reflections on what the first half-century has taught me. While far from mastering these lessons, they are now at least helping me shape the next 50 years… I hope!

Care Less About What Others Think

Rach continues to tell me that I might be surprised by how much people genuinely think about you, so care less. The opinions of others can be a heavy burden to bear. As I've aged, I've begun to listen to Rach more :) - as living true to oneself far outweighs the need for constant validation.

Trust Your Instincts on People

When people in life reveal their true selves, it's crucial to believe them. We often ignore red flags or make excuses for others' behavior. I now trust my instincts more; they're usually spot on. Surround yourself with those who uplift and genuinely support you.

True Friends are Priceless

True friends are the ones who stand by you ( and you them) during the good and challenging times; never forget that. In times of hardship, it's not the quantity but the quality of friendships that truly matters. Nurture those connections; invest in them, as they are the pillars of our life.

Stay True to Your Values

Your values and virtues serve as your personal life compass; keep following them, even if it appears that the majority is going a different way. Upholding your principles in the face of adversity is a testament to your character and what your future self will thank you for. It's not always easy, but it's worth it.

Focus on the Essential Few

Life really revolves around discerning the essential few rather than the important many. In a world filled with distractions, prioritize what truly matters. Simplify, declutter, and focus on what brings you joy and fulfillment. 

Be Yourself

I believe life is about daily trying to bridge the gap between who you are and how you present yourself to the world. Being your true self can be magnetic in life. It can be the most liberating journey but sometimes the toughest.

Be the Director of Your Movie

I am at my best when I take the time to pause, create a clear vision for the future, immerse myself in that vision, infuse it with energy, and be curious each day to watch how my life evolves. I now understand that thoughts are real forces, both positive and negative, and that life can often convey its guidance in subtle whispers if you listen.

Mistakes as Stepping Stones

Mistakes are lessons, and failures are woven into the very fabric of our life journey; they're not the end but valuable teachers. It is confronting to recognize this, but essential to learn from them, remain humble, and continue to move forward instead of letting them deter you from trying again.

Be Nice to People

People may not recall what you say, but they will remember how you make them feel. Try to ensure every interaction brightens people's spirits. Your kindness and empathy can profoundly impact even the smallest things.

Win the Morning

Conquer the morning, and you'll conquer the day, as my dad would say. A productive and mindful morning routine sets the tone for a successful day ahead. My kids are sick of me saying this!

Don't Assign Genuius to Success

It's crucial not to attribute genius solely to your past achievements. Recognize the role that luck and timing played in your prior successes. Maintaining the belief that you can exert excessive control over outcomes can be a recipe for hubris. Staying humble and acknowledging the variables beyond your control fosters a more grounded perspective on your journey. I have learned this the hard way at times. 

Be Thankful

While it may sound cliché, cultivating gratitude for your blessings, rather than fixating on what's missing, has been a path back to genuine fulfillment. Gratitude can reshape perspective and foster contentment, reminding us that happiness often lies in appreciating what we already have.

Reduce Expectations

No one owes you anything. Embrace life without expectations. Be a source of unconditional support and love. It's all about how you show up each day and controlling what you can control, as you have little control over others. (Even your footy team!) 

Health is Wealth

Health is indeed wealth. Our well-being is the foundation upon which everything else rests. Invest in your health. Full stop. 

As I get older and uglier, I realize our perspective shapes our experience.  As I am now 50, I know that every day, what I think is what I do, and what I do is who I become. We create our realities.

With this wisdom, I eagerly anticipate more adventures and invaluable insights and lessons (and yes, mistakes) with each passing year. 

I hope I am here to write about my 100 years!