"WEDS" will Help with the Stress of Uncertainty - Join me LIVE tomorrow!
Linda Kroll
Founder @ Compassionate Communication Academy | Compassionate Mediation®, Compassionate Communication and Conflict Resolution, Relationship Healing, Continuing Education Credits - Training for Professionals
Stress of Uncertainty - how to help yourself (or your clients)...
Divorce is one of life’s major stressors, but perhaps “wondering if you should get a divorce” can sometimes be more stressful than actually making a decision and moving forward.
When you finally decide whether to stay or go, you can confidently move in that one direction. When you are not sure what you want to do, life becomes a series of vastly different possibilities, each with its own set of fears and concerns.
You might wonder, “What if I stay and it never gets any better?” You then project a lifetime where you are stuck in a relationship that doesn’t meet your needs and brings out the worst version of your self.
Perhaps you worry, “What if I leave and I’m all alone and broke and without my children?” You begin to picture all the horrors that are possible, and turn around and vacillate some more.
The stress of indecision and procrastination, feeling stuck and overwhelmed is often worse than making a choice.
Author Anais Nin has said, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
You have your own choice to make. You can stay where you are or you can explore the possibilities of change.
The constant uncertainty, vacillation, and ambivalence make it hard for you to be present in a calm and peaceful way.
You are worrying about your future, concentrating on what is wrong with the present, and ruminating about the pain from the past.
All of that behavior increases the feelings of stress that affect your emotional, psychological and physical health.
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Divorce is almost as stressful as the death of a loved one. It is a different kind of death—the death of a relationship, the death of a marriage, and often the most difficult, the death of a dream.
But it doesn't have to be that way.
I want to help support you - or your clients - as you make life-altering decisions from your highest and best SELF - for the highest good for all concerned.
Or learn more at www.LindaKroll.com/WEDS