What America Needs is a Course In Anger Management
Rev. Paul J. Bern
Rev. Paul J. Bern, pastor and administrator at the Social Gospel Worship and Learning Center, Atlanta, Ga.
Why Most of the American People Need to Take Anger Management Classes
by Rev. Paul J. Bern
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For this week’s message, I’m feeling the need to write about the recent flood of shootings here in Atlanta and elsewhere, but I’m especially writing about my home town of Atlanta, Ga. There have been a flurry of shootings here in the A-T-L that have left me troubled. Let me cite the following news headlines for examples:
Officials ID victims of recent Atlanta shootings
Another spate of shootings in Atlanta
Besides Atlanta, there have been waves of mass shootings all across America, as the following headline bears witness to:
Ever Heard of Anger Management?
I can see two main reasons for all the gun violence. The first I can sum up in two words – anger management, or more accurately the lack thereof on the part of all too many Americans of all races, enthnicities and complexions. Too many people are using their emotions instead of their minds for processing thoughts and feelings. This will require some people to adopt new ways of thinking. (more on this at the end) The second I can sum up in one word – greed! There are too many people trying to shake down too many others for a quick, easy profit. The fact that much of this stems from the lack of economic opportunity, combined with starvation wages that are on par with the 1960's, changes nothing. Allow me to share a few examples of what the Bible says about this.
The Gang Problem and the Bible
“My son, if sinners entice you, do not give in to them. If they say, “Come along with us; let's lie in wait for someone's blood, let's waylay some harmless soul; let's swallow them alive, like the grave, and whole, like those who go down to the pit; we will get all sorts of valuable things and fill our houses with plunder; throw in your lot with us, and we will share a common purse” – my son, do not go along with them, do not set foot on their paths; for their feet rush into sin, and they are swift to shed blood.” (Proverbs chapter 1, verses 8-16)
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These verses describe the gang problem here in the US, which is quite substantial, very well. As you know, youth plus a sense of belonging, minus any positive role models at home, and minus any real chance at economic or educational opportunities, equals future gang members. If our youth can't find the love, acceptance and guidance they need from home and church, they will go and get it somewhere else. Invariably, they wind up hanging around with the wrong crowd.
Time for Some Tough Love from Pastor Paul
But there is more to America's anger management issues. People react emotionally instead of thoughtfully because they allow evil things like greed, pride and a bad temper to rule over them, as it is written: “A fool finds pleasure in evil conduct, but a man of understanding delights in wisdom.” (Proverbs 10: 23) But isn't there more to it than just that, you ask? You're right, it's more than just a lack of understanding. Some people need to grow up and learn to control their tempers, and to cease provoking others. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. (Proverbs 15: 1) And again it is written in that same Book of Proverbs: “A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel.” (Proverbs 15: 18)
Where Did Love Go?
But at the end of the day, those who commit gun violence have one common denominator – a lack of love in their lives. Hatred has replaced love in a world that can't stop hating because it doesn't know how. The reason some people don't know how to stop hating nor how to start loving is because they refuse to take the Bible and its teachings seriously. Moreover, there is no love because there is no trust due to fear – people are afraid to trust one another because they're afraid if they do they might miss out on something beneficial, having forgotten that mutual trust is itself beneficial, as is mutual love. The apostle John put it best when he wrote:
Never Forget the Real Message
“This is the message you have heard from the beginning: that we should love one another. Do not be like Cain, who belonged to the evil one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own actions were evil and his brother's were righteous. Do not be surprised, my brothers, if the world hates you. We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers. Anyone who does not love remains in death. Anyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know no murderer has eternal life in him. This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.” (1st John chapter 3, verses 11-16)
But Jesus said it best of all. “'Teacher, what is the greatest commandment of the Law?' Jesus replied, 'Love the Lord with all your heart and with all your soul and all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second one is like it; love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the prophets hang on these two commandments.'” (Matthew chapter 22, verses 36-40)
A Course In Anger Management
Where does anger come from? You can get all the details from this link. But to sum it up, anger can come from hate or rage, it can also be a result of being offended or from being assaulted or insulted. Sometimes anger comes when we see someone being taken advantage of, or of being ripped off. But other times anger comes from being too impatient. It’s as if to say to another, ‘Who do you think you are by slowing my progress, or by being in my way?’ This very thing is how a lot of these “road rage” incidents get started. In Atlanta, it’s not unheard of for a driver to shoot another from being too impatient when in heavy traffic. And, Atlanta has a whole lot of heavy traffic.
The solution, then, is for more disciplined behavior on the part of people everywhere. Driving faster than anyone else will only make a difference of 2-3 minutes relative to the driver’s arrival at their destination. Driving hard and fast will also wear out your car or truck sooner rather than later. It’s time for some people out there to grow up. You know who you are. Under no circumstances is shooting another driver who got in your way worth all the time you would spend in prison. As for all you traffic bullies who are out there, I have a bit of news for you. Bullies are takers, and takers are losers. It’s time for everybody to grow up and get a real life. Cancel your subscriptions if you must (really, please don’t) but the truth is still the truth, and I stand on the side of truth every day of the year.
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